Why An Alpha Female Is The Best Girlfriend You’ll Ever Have

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I came across this article. What are your thoughts?

A strong alpha female might seem intimidating at first, but there’s more to her than just her fiercely strong persona. The alpha female, if you dare dabble, is the best girlfriend you’ll ever have. Here are just a few reasons why:


1. She’ll always be 100% upfront with who she is. You never have to guess if she’s putting on a front just to reel you in, because she doesn’t really care what you think. She’ll be her authentic self because she lives by the mantra, “Take me as I am, or watch me as I go.” She holds her dignity in high regard and doesn’t feel the need to act innocent and fragile just to avoid scaring you off.

2. She’ll challenge you to be a better man. If there’s anything her man wants out of life, whether it’s a project or a goal he’s working towards, she’ll push and support him in his pursuit of obtaining it. She wants her partner to succeed, too, because she knows it makes them a better team when they’re both winning.

3. She lives life in the fast lane, which makes being with her fun. She maximizes her downtime as much as her crunch time. When she’s not working her ass off to better herself, she’s enjoying life in the best ways she can. She’s not the homebody type and would rather go out and be social, hike a mountain, or jet off on a trip to make fun and lasting memories than get into a sweatpants-and-couch rut in her relationships.

4. She’ll want you, not need you. She doesn’t need a man to provide for her in life, because she provides for herself. This means if she’s with you, it’s purely because she wants to be with you. There’s nothing more sincere and amazing than a woman who truly wants you around even when she can rock the game of life on her own.

5. She won’t nag you to get sh*t done. If you forget to do things that need to be done from time to time, she won’t waste her time getting on your case about it. Instead, she’ll figure out a way to get them done on her own. She has better things to do with her time than nagging her partner about petty things.

6. She won’t give up on the important things. She won’t throw in the towel on her relationships at the first sign of struggle, because struggle is her middle name. She faces all challenges head on and she won’t hesitate to find ways to improve the life you share.


7. She’ll make the first move without hesitation. Sex with an alpha female will always be amazing because not only does she genuinely enjoy passion and intimacy, she’ll actually be the one to initiate most of the time. Sometimes after a long hard day of killing it, she just wants to rip off the clothes of the man she cares about. And she’ll always leave you wondering when she’s about to jump you next.

8. You don’t need to worry about her. If she goes out with her girls or has to take a trip somewhere without you, you don’t need to worry she’s going to be faced with any damsel in distress moments, or that you’ll need to rescue her from any situation. She’s a woman, not a princess; she’s got this sh*t handled.


9. She won’t let herself go. The alpha female likes to be on point, always. This goes for her career, her health, and her looks, so you don’t need to worry about her falling into any lazy ruts or that eventually she’ll be rocking nothing but sweatpants and a messy bun for days on end. She’ll have lazy days like any other woman, but they won’t last long because she can’t stand not being the best version of herself she can be.

10. She’s extremely loyal to the ones she loves. When she’s in love, she has her boyfriend’s back in every way, shape, and form. She’ll challenge you to be the best version of yourself while taking care of anything you need in support along the way. She views her relationships as priceless partnerships and just like her go getting attitude about her life overall, she’ll strive to make your duo the best possible team you can be together. Because she doesn’t live a mediocre life, she only wants what’s amazing. If she’s with you, you must be pretty amazing to capture her heart and attention.

Source: http://www.bolde.com/alpha-female-best-girlfriend-youll-ever-have/
 

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Lol. Reading into this I can't help but think about how these traits are just male alpha traits interpreted by a female author , in an attempt to port them for the female gender.

And yet it will never work since women and men operate different (acting on emotion versus acting on logic .)

The article is laughable at best, but just another piece of trash floating around for girls to circle jerk to and think they are the "alpha female."
 

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IMO #10 works if the guy's SMV is higher than hers at all times. Anything less is cannon fodder.
 

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If she's really alpha, YOU will be her career.
 

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I dated one a while back. She even claimed she was an alpha female and for the most part was. One thing for sure she was highly independent. She was more than willing to go on a trip all by herself.

The Pro’s:
-She had her financial life in order
-Very Sensual
-Rarely ever cried
-Executive Vice President of her company
-Very rational, easy to deal with as a result
-Could take care of her self
-Was able to do things a lot of guys can’t like changing the oil on her car, home repair, etc.
-We could talk like a guy talks to his guy friends.

The Con’s:
-She lacked heart
-Lacked some emotion
-Her longest relationships were with beta males that she could control!
-Never wanted to let go of her orbiters
-Posted selfies for validation
-Think highly of themselves
-Rarely sweet
-Rarely brought out her cute/feminine/little girl side.
-Didn't like to be questioned by anybody. It was an attack on her "authority".

As far as the article relates every thing listed was true except for the sex being amazing. It was good, but the crazier/ more emotional girls are always the best and more willing to please. She was at times highly submissive in the bedroom and that was super hot but she won't go down in history as one of the best.

I wouldn't say she was the most loyal female either. Females only stay loyal when their needs are being met.

I don't think an alpha male is well suited for an alpha female. They will each want to go their own direction trying to lead the relationship. In fact the girl I dated had an alpha male for a 2nd husband and she told me they were always trying to out-alpha the other.

My grandma was an alpha female and had a beta husband. That relationship lacked intimacy/emotion and was more of a partnership. I don't think my grandpa ever felt totally himself around her. These women like to keep you on your toes, you can't relax.
 
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Women are still women. You're gonna find indirect **** tests from her no matter what, and she's always going to insinuate things rather than tell you exactly what she's thinking most of the time. Also, all women nag. There's nothing else to it. Whether they do it annoyingly or not is what separates them from each other. No woman WANTS to make the first move either. You're always gonna have to do it. And as far as loyalty is concerned, she's only 'loyal' in the sense that she'll be more rude to a guy she is disinterested in than a 'beta' female.

Basically, an 'alpha female' just wants a more masculine man. That's all this really means.
 
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Women are still women. You're gonna find indirect **** tests from her no matter what, and she's always going to insinuate things rather than tell you exactly what she's thinking most of the time. Also, all women nag. There's nothing else to it. Whether they do it annoyingly or not is what separates them from each other. No woman WANTS to make he first move either. You're always gonna have to do it. And as far as loyalty is concerned, she's only 'loyal' in the sense that she'll be more rude to a guy she is disinterested in than a 'beta' female.

Basically, an 'alpha female' just wants a more masculine man. That's all this really means.
Doesn't mean that. Many alpha females want to wear the pants.
 

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That's just because they want a man strong enough to put them in their place.
I don't think so. A strong female will only work with a weaker, more submissive type of man. There is almost no relation whatsoever to her wanting a more dominant man. You can only get as dominant without becoming a complete *******. Submissivness is a trait not all women have, just like dominance is a trait not all men have. But it's a trait that it's genetically developed and greatly influenced by the way you were brought up. I won't call myself an alfa, but being a dominant type of guy, I just find it impossible to get turned on/attracted by a dominant type of woman. It's like she's trying to be the penis in the interaction and two penises together just don't get along well.
 

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I won't call myself an alfa, but being a dominant type of guy, I just find it impossible to get turned on/attracted by a dominant type of woman. It's like she's trying to be the penis in the interaction and two penises together just don't get along well.
Gotta agree. Nothings more of a turnoff for me then a masculine ass, do it herself dominant, independent woman.
 

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So a near lesbian wants to be put in her place?
Who ever said lesbians were strong?
I don't think so. A strong female will only work with a weaker, more submissive type of man. There is almost no relation whatsoever to her wanting a more dominant man. You can only get as dominant without becoming a complete *******. Submissivness is a trait not all women have, just like dominance is a trait not all men have. But it's a trait that it's genetically developed and greatly influenced by the way you were brought up. I won't call myself an alfa, but being a dominant type of guy, I just find it impossible to get turned on/attracted by a dominant type of woman. It's like she's trying to be the penis in the interaction and two penises together just don't get along well.
Strong WOMAN. Not strong PERSON. A strong woman will want to be put in her place at least somewhat no matter what she says or how she acts. Deep down inside she wants to. When it comes to the person aspect (meaning the parts of her that is neither feminine nor masculine) then she wouldn't want to be with another strong person.
 

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Who ever said lesbians were strong?

Strong WOMAN. Not strong PERSON. A strong woman will want to be put in her place at least somewhat no matter what she says or how she acts. Deep down inside she wants to. When it comes to the person aspect (meaning the parts of her that is neither feminine nor masculine) then she wouldn't want to be with another strong person.
Yeah, but these "strong" women will resist being put into their place and I ain't got time to convince and teach a woman she needs to be submissive when there are loads of other women that are submissive by nature.
 

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Yeah, but these "strong" women will resist being put into their place and I ain't got time to convince and teach a woman she needs to be submissive when there are loads of other women that are submissive by nature.
Of course. But this is just what they feel inside (usually).
 

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Submissiveness is a trait not all women have, just like dominance is a trait not all men have. But it's a trait that it's genetically developed and greatly influenced by the way you were brought up.
Exactly. It's definitely something you are born with, and it's also cultivated by how you are raised. As a more quiet timid guy, the concept of dominance is absolutely foreign to me. Not being wired that way, I really don't even understand it.

But back on topic, I think it's ok for a quiet/chill guy to date a more forward/aggressive female.
 

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I dated an alpha female. She was obsessed with working. When we did fuk it was amazing and we are highly compatible. But I got rid of her because she wanted to have kids tomorrow. That and she was divorced.
 

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The description in the OP fits me pretty well actually.

I'm happy to defer to a man who can lead me who I'm attracted to. Delighted.

The idea that women as described in the OP are incapable of submission or deference to a man is an ego protecting myth. It's just that they will only defer to someone they perceive to be at or above their own level in life. That shouldn't surprise anybody.

In the wolf pack the alpha female always defers to the alpha male. The truth of the matter is an alpha female (as described in the OP) has out accomplished many men, and therefore her pool to select from (to whom she will defer and submit) is much smaller and of a higher eschelon than the general population.

High value men have no issues pulling these kinds of women and often really appreciate them.
 

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I call foul.

The author's articles (http://www.bolde.com/author/andrea-wesley/) indicate she has a lot of experience planning awesome weddings, and ditching guys who only want quick hookups.

I suspect she's one of the ladies that not nearly as "high value' as they think they are and reframe the likely, "guys don't want me because I'm low value" to "guys don't want me because I'm too alpha."

an ego protecting myth
Indeed.
 
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