Make some small talk but can tell she doesn't like it even though she is polite. I don't want to run away that would look lame. So I just turn away and ignore her if she is going to be like that. It's not how I wanted her to feel, but I did my best. But is it possible to actually turn the situation from her feeling like I'm a creep to her liking me. Since I know I'm actually cool. I think I might just be ugly.
If I open a girl and she gets tense and awkward, is there any way to save?
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sazc
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strike up a conversation with another female so she can see you, that will make her interested again
This gets back to the 'women love attention'. If you can successfully chat up another female, and female #1 sees this, female #1 is going to start wondering what she is missing out on.
This gets back to the 'women love attention'. If you can successfully chat up another female, and female #1 sees this, female #1 is going to start wondering what she is missing out on.
Get #2 girl laughing and having a good time. It intensifies the effect. So always have some extra charm and good #2 humor ready to go.…
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I'd ask if she wants me to stop talking to her and call out how she seems uncomfortable. Shows you're not a creep because a real creep would never show such consideration and social awareness. She might say yes to which the result is basically the same, you shrug and move on to someone else. She might also say no and loosen up a whole lot now that it's obvious you're not emotionally blind and socially retarded, then you laugh about it and have a much better interaction.
devilkingx2
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Just keep talking until she emotionally reacts or falls into your frame. A lot of girls are stuck in their head and it could take as long as 5 minutes for them to become present to the interaction (sometimes literally an hour or two for super shy or introverted girls). Those first 5 minutes are your responsibility. If it's boring by that point that's on you.
She'll leave if she doesn't want to talk to you. She'll tell you to fvck off if she doesn't want to talk to you--but you're leaving some dope girls on the table if you can't put in 5 minutes. Personally I look at those first 5 minutes as a gift from me to the girl. I'm doing her the biggest favor in the world. And anything I say in those first 5 minutes is awesome because I said it.
Your frame's not there yet--and you'll never get there if you just walk away or try to put responsibility for the interaction on her.
She'll leave if she doesn't want to talk to you. She'll tell you to fvck off if she doesn't want to talk to you--but you're leaving some dope girls on the table if you can't put in 5 minutes. Personally I look at those first 5 minutes as a gift from me to the girl. I'm doing her the biggest favor in the world. And anything I say in those first 5 minutes is awesome because I said it.
Your frame's not there yet--and you'll never get there if you just walk away or try to put responsibility for the interaction on her.
I like this idea.
When soeone starts acting all weird as a result of me speaking to them my mind starts to go blank. I don't just have 5 minutes of material like a comedian to save the situation. Is that what I need? I like the suggestion of calling her out better because its more situational.
devilkingx2
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it's normal to not have 5 minutes of monologuing planned for when you're going to talk to someone, I'd suggest having one minute, open with a story or a series of jokes or something, if it doesn't work out just walk away.
no need to be that guy who can't take a hint just for some random unfriendly girl (especially since if you make a girl who's obviously signaling to you to go away outright say it, she may not be very kind)
If someone's already stuck in their head, calling them out will just stifle them more. That's you falling into her frame. Your frame should be This girl already likes me--she likes me so much she doesn't even know what to say. You don't have to drop any epic lines. Just be comfortable. Ask leading questions (in an authoritative tone) & make observations/assumptions: "You're not from here. Where are you from? Are you always like this? Oh my god, I love your necklace. Where are your friends?" It's OK to be boring--you just have to be comfortable & the best way to get comfortable is to keep talking.
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Why the f**k are we overanalyzing this sh*t?
If this happens, it's just low interest. Get these girls off the pedestal. You care too much trying to right a sinking a ship. Just move on to someone more receptive and don't be a bore.
BTW, humor alone doesn't make women wet. It can make you her court jester of friendzone county. Strike a balance. Too serious, get nowhere. Too funny, get friendzoned. Too sexual, scare her off. Too aloof, she moves on.
Either she likes you or not. Anything is funny when she's interested in you.
If this happens, it's just low interest. Get these girls off the pedestal. You care too much trying to right a sinking a ship. Just move on to someone more receptive and don't be a bore.
BTW, humor alone doesn't make women wet. It can make you her court jester of friendzone county. Strike a balance. Too serious, get nowhere. Too funny, get friendzoned. Too sexual, scare her off. Too aloof, she moves on.
Either she likes you or not. Anything is funny when she's interested in you.
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If they are a little rude to me like they usually are I say "well looks like you aren't interested, have a good night", and walk away.
The problem with opening her friend is you will get cahk blocked by girl #1.
Just go hit on the next girl somewhere else. Your time and energy will be better spent.
They think you are "creepy", because they didn't find you attractive.
The problem with opening her friend is you will get cahk blocked by girl #1.
Just go hit on the next girl somewhere else. Your time and energy will be better spent.
They think you are "creepy", because they didn't find you attractive.
RangerMIke
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If a woman does not work to keep your attention and talk, she has low interest for you and the only way to deal with that is to walk away.