Handling girl who became talkative by SMS

[EmotionalGeek]

On Saturday I spend like 2h with girl in the club. She was interested although she did not let me escalate to much touch. I messaged her on Monday evening. She was keeping few hours spacing between SMSes so I was also sending messages with similar spacing. On Tuesday evening she agreed to have date on Saturday. After she agreed she suddenly become very chatty through messages. She sent messages immediately after I sent one and she began to send few messages in quick succession. I responded to few of them with slower timing then her (up to an hour) but I'm afraid to give her to much validation so I stopped after few messages and now I'm silent for about 14 hours (its 12:00 PM now).

I do not want to validate her to much but I do not want her to loose interest as well. How should I handle further communication. Should I send like 2 SMSes a day or keep silent until Saturday? What are your experiences in similar situations?

 

[lizardking82]

2 hours in a club, doesn't let you escalate, I smelled a friendzone vibe there. Play it cool, do your own stuff up until Saturday. I would say do not text her until she does, let her wonder and probably do some chasing. Keep us updated

 

[EmotionalGeek]

2 hours in a club, doesn't let you escalate, I smelled a friendzone vibe there. Play it cool, do your own stuff up until Saturday. I would say do not text her until she does, let her wonder and probably do some chasing. Keep us updated

She wrote last message so currently I'm not sure whether I should answer or just keep silent. Beside lack of escalation (just regular dancing with touches it provides) it looks good -- she was giggling when I was telling yokes, she told me some personal things about her. She was smiling to her girl-friend as if to let her know that it's good etc.

 

[Jetleg]

You are over thinking this... you actually count the amount of hours between each message? i would be too lazy to do that.

Generally, all the girls i've met in clubs, with which i had no escalation with were waste of time. Can't even recall one incident in which it didn't. I would say - a club is a place MADE for escalation, if you didn't kiss her or had any vibe with her at the club then your chances are slim.

I would tell her i'm busy and wait for the date. Be prepared for a flake though.

Keep us updated.

 

[stovepipe]

Grabs some popcorn. I'm currently having this problem with a single mom I met on POF the other day. She texted me at 7:30 am to tell me good morning the 1st and 2nd day chatting. I waited hrs to text back, but she is being persistent in wanting to text all day. Sending pics of herself, wanting them in return, in a way demanding. Saying shes moving into a house within in a month and thinks her and I are going to get along very well. She is on anxiety meds and seems a little coo coo.

I can already feel the desperation and loneliness in her. My lack of experience and being too nice is getting in the way. I'm slowly starting to not give in to her demands and waiting a while to text back. When I do, she asks me what Im doing. Feels like she thinks we are dating with 3 days of just texting.

 

[resilient]

RULE 2: Chicks desire attention the same way that guys desire sex. Give attention sparingly. This is your currency.

Texting between dates should be minimal.

 

[greatsnake]

Hold on to your horses (don't text her)-- you are on demand and act like it.

 

[EmotionalGeek]

I will keep radio silence till Saturday and update this thread on sunday.

 

[devilkingx2]

On Saturday I spend like 2h with girl in the club. She was interested although she did not let me escalate to much touch. I messaged her on Monday evening. She was keeping few hours spacing between SMSes so I was also sending messages with similar spacing. On Tuesday evening she agreed to have date on Saturday. After she agreed she suddenly become very chatty through messages. She sent messages immediately after I sent one and she began to send few messages in quick succession. I responded to few of them with slower timing then her (up to an hour) but I'm afraid to give her to much validation so I stopped after few messages and now I'm silent for about 14 hours (its 12:00 PM now).

I do not want to validate her to much but I do not want her to loose interest as well. How should I handle further communication. Should I send like 2 SMSes a day or keep silent until Saturday? What are your experiences in similar situations?

you don't need to talk to her every single day all day, but you shouldn't just go dead for a week, instead have a chat at a natural pace.

ignoring her texts or being intentionally dry is a huge sign of disinterest, so just let her hit you up, and let the conversation go on until it dies naturally whenever she does

 

[Glassguy]

It's ok for you to respond. Don't kill her interest by waiting forever to do so just because people say you should. It's not so much how long you wait to respond as it is she is still INITIATING these texts. That is a good sign.

If you were having a face to face conversation, how long would it last if she waited 4 hrs to say something back.

There is a difference in letting the conversation flow naturally and intentionally putting her on the backburner to make her wait as part of gaming her. I've had much better success allowing the conversation to flow and occasional stopping and saying "hey I'm tied up right now but I'll hit you up later".

Don't let the conversation die for the sake of gaming rules.

Being a man/alpha/dj means doing what you want. Dont kill the flow but don't overdue it before the date either.

 

[AlphaNate]

In my experience, that's a sign of high interest. Get her on a date asap.

Don't ignore her just to ignore her. If you like her behavior, reward her with some attention.

Stop playing games. Playing games is for women.

 

[EmotionalGeek]

In my experience, that's a sign of high interest. Get her on a date asap.

Don't ignore her just to ignore her. If you like her behavior, reward her with some attention.

Stop playing games. Playing games is for women.

Don't we call pick up a game for a reason?

 

[devilkingx2]

Don't we call pick up a game for a reason?

a common beginner's mistake is overgaming, overgaming is when you use strategies meant for low interest girls on high interest girls and end up fvcking it up because you're trying to play games with someone who already likes you

playing games with a low interest girl is a wise idea because the best case scenario is you manipulating her into doing what you want or getting her to like you more, playing games with high interest women is a terrible idea because you actually have something to lose if sh!t hits the fan (IE, if you piss off a low interest girl by ignoring her, who gives a sh!t? but if you piss off a girl who was going to fvck you tonight by ignoring her, well...)