OLD issue

[Fruitbat]

Heh heh. I signed back up to a dating website when drunk last night! I haven't updated any pictures yet so the ones there are me 2 years younger and about 15 pounds lighter.

Issue is, as soon as I got active I had a few women get in touch, one of which is actually pretty good....

I don't want to bring it up, but I don't want to turn up to a date clearly gone from "average" to "plump". I am murdering the gym at the moment and eating little but it's a 6-8 week job left.

If I raise it, I come off as unconfident. If I don't, I am in trouble on the date. Do I try to stall her that long.....I could just explain "to be honest I haven't updated my photos in a couple of years....I should probably send you a current one so you don't think I am cheating!" or something like that but less lame.

Deal is, I am the same guy, with the same job, and I will be back to that soon. I am not sure how women will view that but this one is probably too well suited for me to just drop her.

Any advive appreciated.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Put a recent picture up. No, you can't wait. Online dating is war. Chicks get bombarded with dozens of messages. Your pictures are the single most important thing in online dating. Go get them professionally done so you stand out from other dudes.

Okay, you're overweight. Lose the weight. Take one pic in a suit and use that as your main. Take a second pic in a casual outfit that won't make you look as big.

Don't ever mention your insecurities or weaknesses to women. They will prey on it. Keep your mouth shut and get the dates.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Heh heh. I signed back up to a dating website when drunk last night! I haven't updated any pictures yet so the ones there are me 2 years younger and about 15 pounds lighter.

Issue is, as soon as I got active I had a few women get in touch, one of which is actually pretty good....

I don't want to bring it up, but I don't want to turn up to a date clearly gone from "average" to "plump". I am murdering the gym at the moment and eating little but it's a 6-8 week job left.

If I raise it, I come off as unconfident. If I don't, I am in trouble on the date. Do I try to stall her that long.....I could just explain "to be honest I haven't updated my photos in a couple of years....I should probably send you a current one so you don't think I am cheating!" or something like that but less lame.

Deal is, I am the same guy, with the same job, and I will be back to that soon. I am not sure how women will view that but this one is probably too well suited for me to just drop her.

Any advive appreciated.

Just go on the date and have a good time. If she bails afterwards so be it.

 

[Fruitbat]

Put a recent picture up. No, you can't wait. Online dating is war. Chicks get bombarded with dozens of messages. Your pictures are the single most important thing in online dating. Go get them professionally done so you stand out from other dudes.

Okay, you're overweight. Lose the weight. Take one pic in a suit and use that as your main. Take a second pic in a casual outfit that won't make you look as big.

Don't ever mention your insecurities or weaknesses to women. They will prey on it. Keep your mouth shut and get the dates.

Right - so despite actually having a job where I go off and do big presentations in a suit daily, all my pics are entirely casual. Maybe I am getting that wrong.

I don't even have a description now. My new idea is less is more, I tried too hard last time I think with a wall of text with all my key points.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Right - so despite actually having a job where I go off and do big presentations in a suit daily, all my pics are entirely casual. Maybe I am getting that wrong.

I don't even have a description now. My new idea is less is more, I tried too hard last time I think with a wall of text with all my key points.

Men always look better in a suit than in casual wear. Women will imagine going somewhere formal with you. Why not put a suit pic up?

My response rate doubled since I made a professional business photo the main picture.

 

[Fruitbat]

Cool, I am doing so. I am ordering some more high end business wear too.

To report back, I basically stalled them because genuinely, I don't feel like my hearts in it, I am too overweight to have that swagger at the moment, and I need to focus exclusively on this before getting back....in 5 weeks of this fairly hardcore cut I am doing I will be approaching my old clothes so I want to wait until then.

However, in stalling these girls, their IOI just shot through the roof. Basically said I had back to back business trips and a long holiday.....2 of them asked for my number immediately and didn't just next me.....as I would if a woman told me she couldn't date for a month. One is messaging quite a lot which I am all but ignoring because I know nothing about her and I can't meet her for a month......

Now, this isn't me pretending to be in short supply, it's actually me putting myself as a priority (albeit for a different reason). As such. I don't want to meet these girls of have too much to do with them until then. I suppose an AFC would always make time, a time to suit her.....that's what I used to do...I would have never let anyone slip for a month.

Going to keep going with this.

 

[Derek Flint]

Cut out Sugar, HFCS, Bad Carbs and do Cardio and you can drop 10-15 lbs. easily in a month.

Put in the work, put up some current pics and be honest.

Would you want to met up with a woman with deceiving pics?

 

[dustmuffin]

Just go on the date and have a good time. If she bails afterwards so be it.

This ^^^^ use the date to practice your game. You might score