Lost all my motivation for girls

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Since around January I was spinning multiple plates. Girls of very high quality were showing interest and I honestly felt like I could get almost any girl I wanted.

This went on for a couple of months until recently, the middle of April.

The smallest move that pissed me off made me drop plates immediately. To the point where I only have 1 remaining (long time fwb so only see her once every now and then).

Girls of high interest still attempt to set up dates, initiate conversation either in person or online, and basically let me know that I have a chance.

Something in my head just suddenly ticked. Like I'm over the red pill transition and accept the world for how it is but I have just lost all my motivation to pursue women.
It's like the work required to actually get in bed with a women just turns me off and makes me look past the whole process completely.

I'm 19 and normally have a huge libido, but lately it's like it all went through the window. Hearing about my ex getting caught by her mom blowing some dude that isn't even half as attractive as me physically and mentally also contributes to me not wanting to **** with a single women.

I'm trying to sort this out before I get myself back into the dry spell (been a week since I've gotten laid). So I was wondering if anyones been in a similar situation. Thanks
 

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I don't see the problem. You're just ahead of most guys at your age. Gives you a big advantage in life.

Now would be a good time to start focusing on your life passions and figuring out how to make as much money as possible in the coming years. Women are great, but that's not all there is to life.
 

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Hearing about my ex getting caught by her mom blowing some dude that isn't even half as attractive as me physically and mentally also contributes to me not wanting to **** with a single women.
After she broke up with me about 6 months ago, my ex started displaying some very strange behaviour. Knowing her, she most probably did not monkey branch, but for some reason, she ****ed what had been a superb relationship up in 3-4 hours (of course this had been coming from her side since a couple of good weeks without me finding out anything). Now, I know the guys that are around her and I know guys in general. Guys, in general, are so hilarious and ****ed up you have no idea. Like, take the average guy and bring him here and he will be utterly amazed and in disgust/refusal for most things we talk about. These are most guys. Could she have found a better guy or equally as good as me? Possibly, but I doubt it.

What I wanna point out to you is that this has nothing to do with you. You could be doing a fine job in the relationship and she ****s it up anyways. Listen, man, people have different problems. Maybe your girlfriend thought you were too good for her. A lot of people have this self limiting belief in all areas of life where it gets to a point where sth is too good for them so internally, they find a way to sabotage it and make it stop so that they can return to their default and what they believe they deserve. Unfortunately, there is not much you can do about this. The better you understand, the sooner you will feel better with your relationships. Let her suck that guy. If you were a good guy to her, she will not forget and she will not even feel anything similar while sucking the average guy or ****ing the average guy. In fact, there is a high chance she will one day tell herself what a superb chance she had with a guy like you and will come back, but you will likely be with another girl you love or simply not interested in her again.

Take it easy, let yourself heal as your ego and feels seem to be still knocked down on some aspects. Take it easy, focus on your other things and have casual sex for now until you find someone you like for more than that.
 

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Since around January I was spinning multiple plates. Girls of very high quality were showing interest and I honestly felt like I could get almost any girl I wanted.

This went on for a couple of months until recently, the middle of April.

The smallest move that pissed me off made me drop plates immediately. To the point where I only have 1 remaining (long time fwb so only see her once every now and then).

Girls of high interest still attempt to set up dates, initiate conversation either in person or online, and basically let me know that I have a chance.

Something in my head just suddenly ticked. Like I'm over the red pill transition and accept the world for how it is but I have just lost all my motivation to pursue women.
It's like the work required to actually get in bed with a women just turns me off and makes me look past the whole process completely.

I'm 19 and normally have a huge libido, but lately it's like it all went through the window. Hearing about my ex getting caught by her mom blowing some dude that isn't even half as attractive as me physically and mentally also contributes to me not wanting to **** with a single women.

I'm trying to sort this out before I get myself back into the dry spell (been a week since I've gotten laid). So I was wondering if anyones been in a similar situation. Thanks
What you're feeling is perfectly normal after you have come out of the Disney/Blue Pill stage.

What you should be doing now is changing your priorities in life to where women are like number 6, but 1 - 5 includes your Career, Finances, Investments, Recreation, and Working Out.
 

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You will find happiness by being productive 24/7. After I came out of the military and went to college, I studied and worked out every minute I had. I would yell at my own friends for being aimless and wasting time with petty romance.

My red education happened in the military when I realized 90% of women were monkey branching sloots.

If you use all of you will to conquer your life and accomplish all of your dreams and become successful at everything (financial freedom, health, social life), you will develop internal happiness and be coming from the masculine polarity. Men don't cope, we conquer. This will polarize women and sucess with them will be effortless.

In order to become great with women, you have to become great at life. But once you become great at life, you won't care about most women, only the high quality ones.
And the high quality ones aren't the finely wrapped human dung, but rather the ones that can HELP you! That's quality. Not a visual stunner who is a dead weight and eats your green cash like cabbage.
 

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And the high quality ones aren't the finely wrapped human dung, but rather the ones that can HELP you! That's quality. Not a visual stunner who is a dead weight and eats your green cash like cabbage.
This is what I think a lot of guys get wrong when talking about quality. It's like they put way too much importancy on the "is she an 8 or a 9 by society's standards". I mean, **** that. She could be a 6 to most guys, but if she makes me come like crazy and takes care of me in different ways, I say **** society and what it preaches. If the girl is good for me, it's good.
 

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This is what I think a lot of guys get wrong when talking about quality. It's like they put way too much importancy on the "is she an 8 or a 9 by society's standards". I mean, **** that. She could be a 6 to most guys, but if she makes me come like crazy and takes care of me in different ways, I say **** society and what it preaches. If the girl is good for me, it's good.
She makes you feel incredible.
 

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Completely normal. When you're ready to spin plates again, girls will still be there.
 

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This is what I think a lot of guys get wrong when talking about quality. It's like they put way too much importancy on the "is she an 8 or a 9 by society's standards". I mean, **** that. She could be a 6 to most guys, but if she makes me come like crazy and takes care of me in different ways, I say **** society and what it preaches. If the girl is good for me, it's good.
I agree with this 101%. We should not look at things like society standards, we should look only on our own standards and feelings.
 

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