Chubby girl expect fit, handsome guy

[ThisNThat]

Got into it with a woman online. Her profile said she's 5'0"...she's chubby, but cute. That's about it. Gave very specific criteria in what she seeks in appearances. He expected him to be at least 5'10", fit, handsome, brunette (yeah even to the hair color) I'm 5'8.

I told her her criteria is unrealistic, and she's like "I like what I like, just like men prefer blondes", and I'm like "I prefer any kind of hair color".

I'm just not picky like that. I mean, I know of superficial men that won't date red heads, but I never let a woman with a nice body with red hair deter me. lol

 

[lizardking82]

Why is there even a post needed about this? I mean, this is standard nowadays, 4s or 5s asking for guys that 8/9/10. Disregard them and let their lazy ass genes die together with them alone and un****ed.

 

[ThisNThat]

she sounds pretty realistic for the market online, thats why I avoid it. I've seen too many absolutely ridiculous mismatches(on paper) much worse than what you described to assume these women are acting irrationally. Men can arbitrage it the other way via game(offline).

Yeah, I've actually attracted better looking, in shape, women than herself. That's the irony of online dating. Thing is though, I think women prefer online dating over the real life thing because a lot of women aren't open to being approached in public...that...they prefer to keep people at a distance and dating apps are kind of a crutch to that.

I recall one woman that tried out a few real life singles mixers, some were those Meetup events. I later saw her on Yahoo personals, this was way back in the early days...and I got to talking ot her there...and she said that she prefers online dating, because her experience with people in person...well, she didn't find them all that attractive.

She was a rather attractive woman, but she would have guys in real time swarming her or acting social awkward, or so she claimed. Online you can control the "traffic" whereas in person, as a woman,...you're a captured audience.

 

[ThisNThat]

She told me that she has no problem landing athletic and tall men. She even told me she had a date with a 6'3" guy that was completely fit.

She "claims" to have given ALL types a chance (yeah right)

But, the caveat to that in HER profile, she keeps meeting guys that just want to "Netflix and chill" and want to come over and try to get laid on the first date.

This mean, men that are 8/9/10, just want a hole to wet their knob, regardless of the cellulite around it?

 

[ThisNThat]

This is exactly the type of woman on OLD. Then add all the psychological problems and sexual ADHD from all the online stimulus.

Yeah, I've known women to throw up their arms and give up on an entire CITY because "they can't find any decent men", some even threatened to move. And these cities weren't all that small.

Really NO man in the major metro area is good enough that you are considering relocating?

 

[Infern0]

Meh i think this is overplayed.

Women DO look up the ladder for partners but it's not the huge difference people make out. I.E there is no way a female 4 is demanding a male 9

Thats this:

Demanding This:

And that simply doesn't happen, you DON'T see dudes like that knocking around with fugly chicks.

1-2 points difference, yes. Anything more, you are dreaming

 

[ThisNThat]

You know, there are women who gain weight in two areas. Either in the arse/hips or the belly. She's had the misfortune of gaining her weight in the middle...so she has a build where you don't see where here arse ends and her waist begins. Not hourglass, but shaped like a 2 x 4....kind of flat on both sides if you look at her from the front.

No curves basically, but obvious belly fat. She's kind of a double chin. So she's probably "cute" enough to pull off good looking guys. Chances are if she keeps up her diet, she'll start to look bigger when she moves from her 30s to 40s.

Far from an onion butt.

 

[btownbuck2012]

I've seen extremes, not that extreme but extremes that you would not believe if you think this is that impossible.

I'll echo this. There's a-lot of guys that hit the gym out of insecurity and even though they are built they social skills are **** so they'll be greatful to bang a 6 and the 6 thinks shes the best thing since sliced bread because shes banging a guy with a great body, or she'll think she deserves that quality all the time and will develop this cvnty attitude.

 

[SuckItUp]

Who cares? If a woman wants a certain guy then she does. If it is unrealistic then it's unrealistic. Just laugh it off and ignore it as she's not worth your time.

Can't control what others do and think and to try to do so is narcissistic. She'll either be alone the rest of her life or she'll get a clue and realize that her standards are keeping her alone.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Catch her outside after she has had a dose of reality. You can tell she has not been very successful with her requirements list because she's not crying yet about guys just wanting to pump and dump her.

Wait till her profile says something like "not looking for ons, bla bla bla, no guys with shirtless bathroom selfies either" then talk to her after reality sets in.

Women on dating sites are moronic. They think every dude that takes them out is willing to get into an ltr with them. So they value themselves based on that. It's the same stupid logic that has her thinking every guy gaming her is her friend. Those are her guy friends rofl.

 

[El Payaso]

Meh i think this is overplayed.

Women DO look up the ladder for partners but it's not the huge difference people make out. I.E there is no way a female 4 is demanding a male 9

Thats this:

Demanding This:

And that simply doesn't happen, you DON'T see dudes like that knocking around with fugly chicks.

1-2 points difference, yes. Anything more, you are dreaming

It does happen. I've seen it happen many times.

 

[skinnyguy]

Supply and demand.

Millions of thirsty men on OLD. All the women have to do is sift through the bad ones. Every time I message a decent looking girl on OKC, it says "inbox full". You have NO IDEA how many messages these girls are getting per day. It's really that crazy of a power imbalance.

I've seen plenty of decent looking guys going after fat chicks. Clubs, bars, all over. Men want A girl. Women want the BEST guy. Big difference here.

Not to mention most guys have no standards and only care about getting their d*ck wet.

 

[ThisNThat]

Supply and demand.

Millions of thirsty men on OLD. All the women have to do is sift through the bad ones. Every time I message a decent looking girl on OKC, it says "inbox full". You have NO IDEA how many messages these girls are getting per day. It's really that crazy of a power imbalance.

I've seen plenty of decent looking guys going after fat chicks. Clubs, bars, all over. Men want A girl. Women want the BEST guy. Big difference here.

Not to mention most guys have no standards and only care about getting their d*ck wet.

Which explains her dilemma of men only wanting to "Netflix and chill" with her.

 

[JohnChops]

I'll echo this. There's a-lot of guys that hit the gym out of insecurity and even though they are built they social skills are **** so they'll be greatful to bang a 6 and the 6 thinks shes the best thing since sliced bread because shes banging a guy with a great body, or she'll think she deserves that quality all the time and will develop this cvnty attitude.

This all day.

 

[btownbuck2012]

This all day.

Yeah very rarely will you run into a guy who's in incredible shape who is actually as tough and confident as he'd like you to think.