True Confidence vs Delusional Confidence

[AlexKaiser]

The voice has spoken to me, the inner voice that has taught me to see the truth and act accordingly, and that voice says "That's good that you are on the road to being alpha. You have given up some of your betamale ways, you have stopped praising and worshipping girls, you have stopped supplicating them to the point of absurdity. You no longer believe in the religion of Niceguyism, thinking that praise and devotion will make her panties wet and having her beg you to bed her. You no longer scratch your head at why the jerks got the girls, as you VAGUELY understand how they did it. However, there remains a lot of work to be done physically. You are not a failure, a fag or an idiot, as you like to call yourself, but it's obvious you're not proud of who you are."

I can't confidently wear who I am around women, and have that nervousness and doubt that the guides told me NOT to have.

For example, when I see the meth dealer ****face who tries to get tough with me at my work, a battle ensues in my head. I know he ain't about ****, I feel like I am doing better than him. I have a job, I have my own place, and my jail record is literally only me going there for missing a court date about running a red light. This garbage bag lives hustle to hustle, hugging his cellphone anxiously hoping his EBT stuff refills on the 6th while he couch surfs. However I feel almost inferior to him, as some really attractive girls orbit him, call him, laugh and smile as they see him. The voice says "They're just using him for his drugs." but that guy DOESN'T know that. He swaggers in, throwing the beer on the counter with his head held up high, casually grabbing the girl's tit he has by his side. Showing off his stack of bills as she giggles and kisses his neck and we go eye and eye to each other.

I don't back down, keeping eye contact. "The **** you looking at, *****?" he says. I snort and grab the money, cash it out, not gonna give him the satisfaction of shaking me up. He does the ape stuff, puffing out chest, pointing at me and laughing, shaking his head, getting the girl to his side's approval as they roll eyes and talk ****. "Give me my change boy." he says, as I do my job and give him his change. The transaction ends, but it won't be the last, he's here every week with different girls.

I stood up for myself, kinda, but I still feel like I'm inferior. I feel inferior because I don't have the amount of ignorance that he did, that even though these girls are just using him, he can still show them off and get them to obey him for what they want: drugs, alcohol, money. Maybe he's not dumb, maybe he's playing THEM, and getting ***** and using using the vices as a carrot to keep them doing what he wants, I don't know. I wouldn't give him that much credit.

I don't have a lot to be proud about. Got a good gaming rig, ASUS ROG with Tournament Edition Razer Keyboard and mouse. I can draw pretty good, not perfect but still working on my painting. Got some digital and traditional stuff. I'm really good at writing, never finished a book though. Got my own place, with easy rent and literally a block away from work. Girls LOVED my poetry when I was in high school but until I'm a little more hot that **** ain't gonna get me laid.

I don't have anything that I can throw in other guy's faces or even use to bait attractive girls. Girls eye me up because I'm a potential "wallet". I'm a safe orbiter that they can seduce, and hopefully get me to pay up while they nail hot guys. Unlucky for them that I'm not ****ing dumb and I'm going to burn them the moment they try to get me to pay for anything or play to my non-existent nice guy side. "Sorry ***** but I'm pre-pay!"

How do you be confident when you got nothing to flaunt?

Well, not nothing. I can draw dinosaurs, dragons, tons of mythical stuff, women sometimes, can write anything from a romance to a horror, skilled at sappy poetry, have an awesome gaming rig that glows in the god damn dark, is okay at most games he plays, and owns his own truck, fully paid off?

More, how to do you feel confident when you don't even show up on the girl's radar yet, where you're not even a consideration yet? How do you feel confident when you're a 5'6 "manlet" at around 190 lbs who struggled to bench press 70 lbs more than 3 times? That if you got into a fight you'd probably lose?

How do I get real confidence, and not delusional confidence?

 

[Tenacity]

How do you be confident when you got nothing to flaunt?

How do I get real confidence, and not delusional confidence?

REAL confidence is built through fire, challenges, bouncing back from failure, getting rejected but maintaining a positive/structured framework, embarrassment, victories, defeat, learning through watching, and learning through experience.

You DO NOT build REAL confidence in any other way. So what am I saying? Fix your looks by working out and working on your appearance, fix your personality, and fix your finances. Then go out and talk to as MANY women as you possibly can to play the numbers game.

Through the numbers game of approaching 20 chicks, getting 10 numbers, and fvcking 3 of them, that's how you build REAL confidence.

In a nutshell........confidence is experience.

 

[lizardking82]

REAL confidence is built through fire, challenges, bouncing back from failure, getting rejected but maintaining a positive/structured framework, embarrassment, victories, defeat, learning through watching, and learning through experience.

You DO NOT build REAL confidence in any other way. So what am I saying? Fix your looks by working out and working on your appearance, fix your personality, and fix your finances. Then go out and talk to as MANY women as you possibly can to play the numbers game.

Through the numbers game of approaching 20 chicks, getting 10 numbers, and fvcking 3 of them, that's how you build REAL confidence.

In a nutshell........confidence is experience.

Second that and I would also say the other way round holds true as well, that "Experience is/brings confidence".

 

[SgtSplacker]

"For if you are not afraid how can you really be brave?"

 

[zekko]

I can't confidently wear who I am around women, and have that nervousness and doubt that the guides told me NOT to have.

For the most part I've always been fairly happy with who I am, but I'm not always sure that a particular woman will appreciate it. Certain types of women like me, and I'm fortunate enough that those are the type of women I like also. Certain other types find me invisible lol.

When it comes to getting laid, the difference between real confidence and delusional confidence doesn't matter. Women fvck insecure/overcompensating bad boys from the clubs all the time. It is because 90% of women aren't even confident themselves.

I agree that for the short term, confidence can be faked. You only need real confidence if you want to keep a woman around. And you don't even really need real confidence IMO, you just can't be insecure. Because if you are insecure, then you will find ways to sabotage the relationship.

 

[C00lAF]

How do you be confident when you got nothing to flaunt?

What are you doing to yourself bro....
You are obviously getting your confidence from the wrong places,externaly,plus only beta compensating fags show off thier ****. Thats one of the hardest things i got over,your confidence must be in a steady line regardless of the presence of women,or at least dont let it flaunt because of a woman.and btw the methhead alredy dragged you in his frame,next time be cool and dont take anything personaly,just feel some sympathy for him,that is it.

 

[C00lAF]

That if you got into a fight you'd probably lose?

Rarley if ever you are going to throw fists now adays...unless you fly united and there is an asian doctor sitting on 16E.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I am curious as to how much you exercise.

 

[bigneil]

I am curious as to how much you exercise.

I've been going to see the physical trainer 3 days per week, 1 hour per visit, at 6am for an intense one hour workout and I can clearly see the difference. Girls could notice within just a few workouts.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I've been going to see the physical trainer 3 days per week, 1 hour per visit, at 6am for an intense one hour workout and I can clearly see the difference. Girls could notice within just a few workouts.

That was meant for OP lol. But this brings up another question though: did you feel a difference in your confidence levels or behavior at all once you started doing this consistently?

 

[bigneil]

That was meant for OP lol. But this brings up another question though: did you feel a difference in your confidence levels or behavior at all once you started doing this consistently?

I felt like I had instant dividends, and then after 4 months, I can see my chest is more cut. For the minimal amount of time involved, you can't beat it.

 

[wifehunter]

Foundation before framework.

 

[AlexKaiser]

I am curious as to how much you exercise.

Currently on day 4. Doing the basics, cutting down fatty sugary ****, however no protein powders or whey until next check so I just have to eat more chicken and fish I guess.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I felt like I had instant dividends, and then after 4 months, I can see my chest is more cut. For the minimal amount of time involved, you can't beat it.

Does it change your perception of things or your behavior in certain ways?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Currently on day 4. Doing the basics, cutting down fatty sugary ****, however no protein powders or whey until next check so I just have to eat more chicken and fish I guess.

Protein powder is only if you aren't getting enough protein in your diet. If you can afford chicken and beef, then that's always better. I notice for me that exercising really affects my confidence levels and just general happiness levels. Lifting helped me a lot in particular. Cardio was fine but just made my happiness and confidence feel normal, unless we were resting up for a few days; then I felt fantastic. But lifting I notice a difference the day after.