Woman works 100 Hrs a week...why?

[ThisNThat]

I had been corresponding with an RN online. Turns out she has little time to date and lives local. She says she works 2 jobs, a nursing supervisor and clocks in a 100 hours per week.

There is NO way this woman can date. lol What's funny is, she said in her profile she doesn't like "needy" men. Well, in all cases, most men will be considered "needy" in her eyes if they complain about the # of hours she puts in.

I can't understand why a person would want to do that to themselves. Why is it necessary to work that many hours? Why can't she be just satisfied with the one job?

 

[dude99]

I had been corresponding with an RN online. Turns out she has little time to date and lives local. She says she works 2 jobs, a nursing supervisor and clocks in a 100 hours per week.

There is NO way this woman can date. lol What's funny is, she said in her profile she doesn't like "needy" men. Well, in all cases, most men will be considered "needy" in her eyes if they complain about the # of hours she puts in.

I can't understand why a person would want to do that to themselves. Why is it necessary to work that many hours? Why can't she be just satisfied with the one job?

Could be that her placement in these hospitals is temporary and she is at the hospitals beck and call if she wants her placement to be permanent. Hospitals do take advantage of making people work long hours and double shifts etc, to getnas much as they can out of their staff. If she complains there is a list of people behind her that will do it.

Or it could be that she is full of it and it is her easy back door to get away from guys she isn't interested in.

 

[ThisNThat]

Could be that her placement in these hospitals is temporary and she is at the hospitals beck and call if she wants her placement to be permanent. Hospitals do take advantage of making people work long hours and double shifts etc, to getnas much as they can out of their staff. If she complains there is a list of people behind her that will do it.

Or it could be that she is full of it and it is her easy back door to get away from guys she isn't interested in.

Well, apparently she's expressed her desire to correspond with me. I asked for her digits, but she said she needs time to talk through the site first. I'll give it a few more volleys, ask again, if she says no...then bye-bye.

 

[dude99]

Well, apparently she's expressed her desire to correspond with me. I asked for her digits, but she said she needs time to talk through the site first. I'll give it a few more volleys, ask again, if she says no...then bye-bye.

Yeah if she is expressing interest in talking to you and then she puts up road blocks, she sounds like a game player.

I would tell her the ball is in her court. Then ghost her. See how legit her interest in talking really is

 

[ThisNThat]

Yeah if she is expressing interest in talking to you and then she puts up road blocks, she sounds like a game player.

I would tell her the ball is in her court. Then ghost her. See how legit her interest in talking really is

Well, chances are she has other "plates" she's in touch with online that she can toy around with. She is probably just messin' around on her OK Cupid app during the graveyard at work because she's bored.

 

[The Duke]

I had been corresponding with an RN online. Turns out she has little time to date and lives local. She says she works 2 jobs, a nursing supervisor and clocks in a 100 hours per week.

There is NO way this woman can date. lol What's funny is, she said in her profile she doesn't like "needy" men. Well, in all cases, most men will be considered "needy" in her eyes if they complain about the # of hours she puts in.

I can't understand why a person would want to do that to themselves. Why is it necessary to work that many hours? Why can't she be just satisfied with the one job?

Because maybe they are more ambitious than you and like making money!!!! There is nothing wrong with that. If you can't understand her desire to do so, its likely you aren't compatible anyways.

 

[ThisNThat]

Because maybe they are more ambitious than you and like making money!!!!

Well, I have another theory...I would say the motivation or ambition (not sure if those words are interchangeable) is likely due to paying off debts. Usually someone working that much, it's usually indicative by some considerable debt.

Chances are, she's not doing well financially while a person who just works 40 hours...who is doing just as well...and of course, have their weekends off, having fun and a social life.

Personally, I think there's something a little off about someone taking a 2nd full time job....therein lies the the whole, "Live to work, work to live" saying.

Also, the ol' "No one ever wants to be remembered for how hard the worked." when they come to the end of their lives.

Of course, this person cannot have their cake and eat it too.

Unless it becomes chronic, then you will most probably find your princess in another castle.

I agree, anything that extreme. "Always in moderation"...that goes for anything.

Busy women are great for fvcking once in a while.

Right, women like this are good for a booty call/FWB (all the same to me). But if she's wanting something more....like I said, she can't have her cake and eat it too.

She told me she likes to live a "comfortable" life...whatever THAT is. lol I can live just as comforably wiht 40 hrs

 

[Roober]

Some people just work a ton and let it run their lives. Often times, these individuals are afraid of relationships, commitment, and feeling alone, so they occupy their time with work. If this continues over long periods, they tend to isolate themselves more and more and really ruin any chance at anything meaningful.

The one caveat is business owners. I have appreciation for people that work long hours to run their own business. Working ridiculous hours for an everyday job seems like an absolute waste to me...

 

[ThisNThat]

Some people just work a ton and let it run their lives. Often times, these individuals are afraid of relationships, commitment, and feeling alone, so they occupy their time with work. If this continues over long periods, they tend to isolate themselves more and more and really ruin any chance at anything meaningful.

Ah,t his probably explains why I've seen her on this dating site for a while. She just has her smart phone and OK Cupid app to keep her satisfied. She even told her herself she doesn't date much, which is indicative if using OK cupid to keep men at a distance without meeting them in person. Let her sit at her nurses station in the wee hours of the night, corresponding with men online and nothing more.

Of course, a guy could stop by her nurses station and when no one's looking, have a little fun in the broom closet. lol

 

[Roober]

Ah,t his probably explains why I've seen her on this dating site for a while. She just has her smart phone and OK Cupid app to keep her satisfied. She even told her herself she doesn't date much, which is indicative if using OK cupid to keep men at a distance without meeting them in person. Let her sit at her nurses station in the wee hours of the night, corresponding with men online and nothing more.

Of course, a guy could stop by her nurses station and when no one's looking, have a little fun in the broom closet. lol

Exactly! She gets all the validation she needs to OLD and random dudes whenever she begins to realize how $hitty her life really is...

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Exactly! She gets all the validation she needs to OLD and random dudes whenever she begins to realize how $hitty her life really is...

Yeah but she's stacking paper. Nurses get paid by the hour. She's loading up for something, hopefully she's saving a huge chunk.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She is making lots of money, nurses earn good pay plus she's getting double time/overtime etc. Plus she probably hasn't met a good man who is important enough to make her think money isn't so important to overwork yourself like that.

I have worked a few 100 hour weeks in my day, and believe me they are not for the feint of heart. It takes a very understanding woman to put up with that kind of demanding work structure. But I find that most women appreciate that, if it's short term, because for a lot of women a hardworking ambitious man is a huge turn on. Unless it becomes chronic, then you will most probably find your princess in another castle.

But for guys, this type of woman is IDEAL. Ideal for smash and dash that is You cannot have a relationship with a woman who consistently works this much. Even a fwb situation will not work very well, she might demand that you give in relationship-level commitment without her giving you relationship-level reciprocity in return. Or she will constantly break plans due to her work schedule, or be too tired. Women with 100 hour work weeks are generally not the type of women who surprise you with random spontaneous blojwobs.

Busy women are great for fvcking once in a while. But they generally turn into problems that just aren't worth it. Better to spend your time trying to find a woman you can actually build a normal relationship with.

She just needs a few hours here and there. Some of us work a lot. Some execs work 80hrs or so. The president Obama did so and was able to have a supportive relation with his wife and family. When you work this much, you don't have a lot of time for chasing friends around, that would be a few times a month. The rest of the time you chill with your boo on downtime.

 

[The Duke]

ThisNThat said: Well, I have another theory...I would say the motivation or ambition (not sure if those words are interchangeable) is likely due to paying off debts. Usually someone working that much, it's usually indicative by some considerable debt.

Chances are, she's not doing well financially while a person who just works 40 hours...who is doing just as well...and of course, have their weekends off, having fun and a social life.

Personally, I think there's something a little off about someone taking a 2nd full time job....therein lies the the whole, "Live to work, work to live" saying.

So why not simply ask her why she works all of these hours? Why sit here and assume all of this? You are trying to analyze someone while having very little to go on. So you make up schitt that fits your narrative. Ask her how she would have time to date you!

Maybe she financed her own education and is paying off student loans? Nurses get paid well. Especially if they work nights/weekends. Its not hard to make $85K/yr as a nurse. Maybe she wants to buy a house or pay off a home loan? Who knows.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Well, I have another theory...I would say the motivation or ambition (not sure if those words are interchangeable) is likely due to paying off debts. Usually someone working that much, it's usually indicative by some considerable debt.

Chances are, she's not doing well financially while a person who just works 40 hours...who is doing just as well...and of course, have their weekends off, having fun and a social life.

Personally, I think there's something a little off about someone taking a 2nd full time job....therein lies the the whole, "Live to work, work to live" saying.

So why not simply ask her why she works all of these hours? Why sit here and assume all of this? Maybe she financed her own education and is paying off student loans? Nurses get paid well. Especially if they work nights/weekends. Its not hard to make $85K/yr as a nurse. Maybe she wants to buy a house or pay off a home loan? Who knows.

Not even... What if she wants to PAY OFF a house. If nurse makes $85k in 40 hrs, then they'd make $170k in 80 hrs and 200 in 100 hrs... That's why she's doing it, to stack paper while she has the energy.

Some of us would rather make money than chasing around a bunch of associates and all up in their a$$es wasting our money. Some socialization is fine, but should it really be a full time job?

 

[bigneil]

If a person sleeps 8 hours per day, works 6 days a week and commutes 2 hours per work day (including getting ready), that is 56 + 12 hours (68 hours). If they work 100 hours that is 168 hours. There are only 168 hours in a week (7 x 24 = 168).

Hence, this woman is a liar. Nobody can work more than 60 hours long term and actually be productive. Granted, I billed more, but I had to be super productive in every hour worked to keep clients happy.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

If a person sleeps 8 hours per day, works 6 days a week and commutes 2 hours per work day (including getting ready), that is 56 + 12 hours (68 hours). If they work 100 hours that is 168 hours. There are only 168 hours in a week (7 x 24 = 168).

Hence, this woman is a liar. Nobody can work more than 60 hours long term and actually be productive. Granted, I billed more, but I had to be super productive in every hour worked to keep clients happy.

I'm working 80+... Some of those hours are "cheated", but I'm definitely giving over 70 worth of real productivity. It's possible. Your life would be focused around work.

 

[The Duke]

I work 80hrs/week. Done it for many years. You won't catch me sitting on my azz for very long. I don't even have tv.

 

[ThisNThat]

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I work 80hrs/week. Done it for many years. You won't catch me sitting on my azz for very long. I don't even have tv.

Does this include the weekends?

You won't catch me sitting on my azz for very long. I don't even have tv.

Granted you have weekends off, you don't have to be watching TV. You could be going kayaking, hiking, out socializing with friends....summer is coming up. A lot of outdoor boating events, Pool parties ,BBQ''s you name it.

 

[ThisNThat]

Think I caught her in a lie, in one message she said that she doesn't do much with her kids as they are "grown" then she says to me, "I'm a single mother, and I'm raising 2 kids alone."

She just contradicted herself.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I work 80hrs/week. Done it for many years. You won't catch me sitting on my azz for very long. I don't even have tv.

My TV rarely turns on. Sometimes it's actually relaxing, guy. We just don't have a lot of time for it. Having football on kinda puts me in good spirits.