I live in the suburbs about an hour outside of a big city. Although this place is slowing growing, (ie - people that work in the big city choose to live outside of it, and prefer to commute, but those are mostly families)
Anyways, I find it a challenge to meet people in the area, organically. I mean, I could hit the grocery store, chat up a lady there. There's also a local bookstore, and talk to a strange lady there.
But...I gave up on that a long time ago (in my 20s) when I was just seeing 20-something women with wedding rings on their fingers, pushing baby strollers with their husbands. Yeah, they start off pretty young.
Sometimes I'd be fooled up to the point, because I wouldn't see a ring on their finger...and boom, her boyfriend, Bubba, shows up from around the corner before I make my way over.
That was then, but now with online dating, I've been mostly doing that...but don't worry I DO get out of the house, but...I don't approach around here much anymore, only because people around here are "townies" and tend to hang with their old high school mates.
Yeah, weird right? They aren't open to meeting NEW people outside of those who graduated in the the 1990s. Still kind of a "fishbowl" community as it were.
I tend to go to the neighboring big city, an hour away, but when I mingle...and the find out where I live...they are like "Oh he's geographically undesirable" I knew a woman that told me a similar experience she had with a guy she met in a night club....when HE found out where she lives (she also lived in the burbs, made the commute that night with friends to the club an hour away) he said, "Oh, you're G.U.!"
So I don't know if any of you live on the outskirts of a major city, but has it been a hinderance in your dating situation? Has it limited opportunties to meet available women?
I already tapped out of the women I emailed that live locally to me...they aren't responsive and still exist as spinsters on the sites till this day (no one's ever good enough, even if the dating options are limited, but that's another story)
But if it's not a issue with you, do you know someone with this issue?
Anyways, I find it a challenge to meet people in the area, organically. I mean, I could hit the grocery store, chat up a lady there. There's also a local bookstore, and talk to a strange lady there.
But...I gave up on that a long time ago (in my 20s) when I was just seeing 20-something women with wedding rings on their fingers, pushing baby strollers with their husbands. Yeah, they start off pretty young.
Sometimes I'd be fooled up to the point, because I wouldn't see a ring on their finger...and boom, her boyfriend, Bubba, shows up from around the corner before I make my way over.
That was then, but now with online dating, I've been mostly doing that...but don't worry I DO get out of the house, but...I don't approach around here much anymore, only because people around here are "townies" and tend to hang with their old high school mates.
Yeah, weird right? They aren't open to meeting NEW people outside of those who graduated in the the 1990s. Still kind of a "fishbowl" community as it were.
I tend to go to the neighboring big city, an hour away, but when I mingle...and the find out where I live...they are like "Oh he's geographically undesirable" I knew a woman that told me a similar experience she had with a guy she met in a night club....when HE found out where she lives (she also lived in the burbs, made the commute that night with friends to the club an hour away) he said, "Oh, you're G.U.!"
So I don't know if any of you live on the outskirts of a major city, but has it been a hinderance in your dating situation? Has it limited opportunties to meet available women?
I already tapped out of the women I emailed that live locally to me...they aren't responsive and still exist as spinsters on the sites till this day (no one's ever good enough, even if the dating options are limited, but that's another story)
But if it's not a issue with you, do you know someone with this issue?
