My Gf's dad spent 32k on a ring for her mom wtf

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I told her that I'm not spending over 1k on a ******* ring and if she has a problem with it then she can go find her some dumb@$$ professional sports player that would drop that kind of money on something useless. She told me that she just wanted to be with me and that she did not care, but this has made me extremely skeptical about her. In addition, what dumb@$$ drops 32k on a ring???!?!?
 
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I told her that I'm not spending over 1k on a ******* ring and if she has a problem with it then she can go find her some dumbass professional sports player that would drop that kind of money on something useless. She told me that she just wanted to be with me and that she did not care, but this has made me extremely skeptical about her. In addition, what dumb@$$ drops 32k on a ring???!?!?
I thought you was going to say the GF got dad this 32k ring.
 

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In addition, what dumb@$$ drops 32k on a ring???!?!?
When did he buy this ring? Was is when he proposed to her? Was it when he married her? Was it recently?

The only time I'd spend an insane amount on a piece of jewellery for a woman is if she's been faithful for a very long time. If she stuck around for 25 years, I wouldn't have a problem rewarding her with an expensive piece of jewellery. At that point, she would have earned it.

However, if it's to "prove" your undying love for her when you've only known her for 6 months, then yes I'd agree that it's a dumb idea.
 

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When did he buy this ring? Was is when he proposed to her? Was it when he married her? Was it recently?

The only time I'd spend an insane amount on a piece of jewellery for a woman is if she's been faithful for a very long time. If she stuck around for 25 years, I wouldn't have a problem rewarding her with an expensive piece of jewellery. At that point, she would have earned it.

However, if it's to "prove" your undying love for her when you've only known her for 6 months, then yes I'd agree that it's a dumb idea.
This. What's even worse is, depending on the state or country, if the engagement falls through or the marriage ends in divorce, the wife or fiancee can take the ring because it's now their property.
 

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lol, the true quality and value of a relationship has nothing to do with the amount of money spent on items.
Items are nice but if ur dude (or chick) is a d1ck, no item is going to fix that and, if you marry that sh1t, you gotta live with it. No thanks
 

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Let's do the math. Your girlfriend's parents have been married 20+ years if your girlfriend is around your same age.

Seems they are still married. Lots of faithful couples reward each other for getting through the child rearing years and the college education funding years. Lots of men are appreciative of their wives for all the sh1t they have faced together, for all the hardships they have overcome.

He bought her a ring for 2 reasons: He wanted to and he is able to. If your wife sticks by you through thick and thin for many years one day you might feel differently about this in the future.

Men will often upgrade the wedding set to reward his wife's faith. He may have married her when he was scraping by and mostly potential and couldn't afford much. Perhaps they struggled as young parents. She stuck by him anyway...so he is happy to give her something reflective of the value he sees in his wife. Good for both of them.

Rather than having such a jaded perspective you might consider that there are plenty of reasons for him to give such a gift. Starting with he wanted to. You may have a girlfriend with good examples for parents. Don't overlook that if that is indeed the case.
 

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Let's do the math. Your girlfriend's parents have been married 20+ years if your girlfriend is around your same age.

Seems they are still married. Lots of faithful couples reward each other for getting through the child rearing years and the college education funding years. Lots of men are appreciative of their wives for all the sh1t they have faced together, for all the hardships they have overcome.

He bought her a ring for 2 reasons: He wanted to and he is able to. If your wife sticks by you through thick and thin for many years one day you might feel differently about this in the future.

Men will often upgrade the wedding set to reward his wife's faith. He may have married her when he was scraping by and mostly potential and couldn't afford much. Perhaps they struggled as young parents. She stuck by him anyway...so he is happy to give her something reflective of the value he sees in his wife. Good for both of them.

Rather than having such a jaded perspective you might consider that there are plenty of reasons for him to give such a gift. Starting with he wanted to. You may have a girlfriend with good examples for parents. Don't overlook that if that is indeed the case.
What's your definition of faithful? My mother confessed her love for some other guy when I was a toddler, got rejected and felt bad about it so she told my dad everything and he stayed with her despite her abusing him over the years. She was still super angry about all that crap for years after being rejected. My dad had to have his employees pick us up and drop us off at school sometimes because she didn't want to. He stayed with her because he was traumatized from what happened to him after his own parents divorced. You could say she even abused this trauma in a way. Now while she didn't technically 'cheat' or do anything sexually related with any other men, she still admit to my dad how she fell for some other guy over him. Would that be considered cheating under your definition?

Like the others have said, there is much more than meets the eye. What you see at face value is just what they'll allow you to see. I consider this to be cheating myself because it shows that you are on the lookout for other men despite the you having a family. My parents always said how we shouldn't want to ever live in a broken home. But quite frankly, broken homes are a lot better than dysfunctional ones a lot of times.
 

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If I was married to a woman for 20 years and she was loyal to me and was a good wife I would have spent twice as much on her ring. Good behaviour should be reinforced, encouraged, and rewarded. Especially in this day and age of disloyal c0ck carousel riding slvts.
You're still a little wet behind the ears eh? You're willing to spend 94k on a loyal chick ?
 

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What's your definition of faithful? My mother confessed her love for some other guy when I was a toddler, got rejected and felt bad about it so she told my dad everything and he stayed with her despite her abusing him over the years. She was still super angry about all that crap for years after being rejected. My dad had to have his employees pick us up and drop us off at school sometimes because she didn't want to. He stayed with her because he was traumatized from what happened to him after his own parents divorced. You could say she even abused this trauma in a way. Now while she didn't technically 'cheat' or do anything sexually related with any other men, she still admit to my dad how she fell for some other guy over him. Would that be considered cheating under your definition?

Like the others have said, there is much more than meets the eye. What you see at face value is just what they'll allow you to see. I consider this to be cheating myself because it shows that you are on the lookout for other men despite the you having a family. My parents always said how we shouldn't want to ever live in a broken home. But quite frankly, broken homes are a lot better than dysfunctional ones a lot of times.
We don't know the situation with the girlfriend's parents.

Men don't just up and spend that kind of money unless they believe they have good reason or they desire to do it and they have that kind of discretionary income. For all we know the dad is a philanderer and appreciates the mom's loyalty through his cheating. We have no idea, and honestly it doesn't matter.

OP has no idea as well. I know a number of long term happily marrieds who have been together for 20-50+ years. A gift like this in such a context is not usual and is a discretionary gift. I've seen people give jewelry, expensive cars, second homes, dream vacations...

My brother-in-law for example bought my sister a 2 million dollar home recently and took her to Tahiti for 2 weeks for their 20th anniversary last year. She's a great mom & she worked 3 jobs for years to support their family when they were just starting out and he was finishing his education. She was a D1 college cheerleader at a major state school. She is frugal frugal frugal and never wears make up or jewelry other than a simple wedding band and a family diamond (she only wears the diamond on special occasions.) She never drank alcohol, never partied & was the essence of a good girl. They met in a class and their first date was a study date. He wanted his shiny red Porche a couple of years ago & she said "Of course dear you've worked very hard to get where you are." The car cost 70K.

They will retire millionaires because they have worked as a team over the years and been financially wise. He's the only man she has slept with. They were college sweethearts.

My sister embodies Proverbs 31.

That's a good definition of faithful in my book.

I know quite a few couples like this.

The fact that his girlfriend is saying "no I don't expect that...I only want you" actually suggests to me this might be what her parents modeled...which is a great example guys. That's how my sister was (and still is).
 

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men spend that kind of money to buy a woman's love, if they have that kind of money to blow

not that this is the case here, but it does happen
 

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OP, I'd find out why she mentioned it. It wasn't some random string of words that came out of her mouth. She had a reason. May be nothing, may be everything. Why not find out?
 

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We don't know the situation with the girlfriend's parents.

Men don't just up and spend that kind of money unless they believe they have good reason or they desire to do it and they have that kind of discretionary income. For all we know the dad is a philanderer and appreciates the mom's loyalty through his cheating. We have no idea, and honestly it doesn't matter.

OP has no idea as well. I know a number of long term happily marrieds who have been together for 20-50+ years. A gift like this in such a context is not usual and is a discretionary gift. I've seen people give jewelry, expensive cars, second homes, dream vacations...

My brother-in-law for example bought my sister a 2 million dollar home recently and took her to Tahiti for 2 weeks for their 20th anniversary last year. She's a great mom & she worked 3 jobs for years to support their family when they were just starting out and he was finishing his education. She was a D1 college cheerleader at a major state school. She is frugal frugal frugal and never wears make up or jewelry other than a simple wedding band and a family diamond (she only wears the diamond on special occasions.) She never drank alcohol, never partied & was the essence of a good girl. They met in a class and their first date was a study date. He wanted his shiny red Porche a couple of years ago & she said "Of course dear you've worked very hard to get where you are." The car cost 70K.

They will retire millionaires because they have worked as a team over the years and been financially wise. He's the only man she has slept with. They were college sweethearts.

My sister embodies Proverbs 31.

That's a good definition of faithful in my book.

I know quite a few couples like this.

The fact that his girlfriend is saying "no I don't expect that...I only want you" actually suggests to me this might be what her parents modeled...which is a great example guys. That's how my sister was (and still is).
You divert a lot.
 

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You divert a lot.
You project a lot. You make the wild assumption that the parents must be like YOUR dysfunctional parents.

I simply gave examples of what happily married men do to appreciate years of devotion from their wives. Examples I have personally observed, much as you have personally observed your parents.

It's not a diversion. It's a different perspective.

We are both speculating wildly as to the girlfriend's parents so it's all immaterial.

You are young yet & say you want to find a good girl. I like you & think you are observant, but be careful you don't ruin your ability to recognize a good girl if you come across one. Don't get jaded to the point of losing the ability to identify a good girl.

There ARE good women out there, irrespective what jaded men here say.
 

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You project a lot. You make the wild assumption that the parents must be like YOUR dysfunctional parents.

I simply gave examples of what happily married men do to appreciate years of devotion from their wives. Examples I have personally observed, much as you have personally observed your parents.

It's not a diversion. It's a different perspective.

We are both speculating wildly as to the girlfriend's parents so it's all immaterial.

You are young yet & say you want to find a good girl. I like you & think you are observant, but be careful you don't ruin your ability to recognize a good girl if you come across one. Don't get jaded to the point of losing the ability to identify a good girl.

There ARE good women out there, irrespective what jaded men here say.
I provided an example of how not all meets the eye. Then asked a question. The question still remain unanswered. This has happened before....
 

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Oh. I missed your question about cheating @ImTheDoubleGreatest! I gave a lengthy answer about faithfulness.

As to the question about cheating I would say simply it's impossible to answer. I don't know the circumstances nor the context and neither do you (you THINK you do but you can't know.)

That was one thing I did learn from my parents' divorce. There are 2 sides. The truth is somewhere in the middle and I was never going to be able to know what exactly the truth was.

I'd suggest the same is true where your parents are concerned.
 

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I told her that I'm not spending over 1k on a ******* ring and if she has a problem with it then she can go find her some dumb@$$ professional sports player that would drop that kind of money on something useless. She told me that she just wanted to be with me and that she did not care, but this has made me extremely skeptical about her. In addition, what dumb@$$ drops 32k on a ring???!?!?
She's probably lying mate.
I've never even seen a ring above 10,000 yet.
 

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My parents have been together 33 years. Pops redod her ring a few years back and added like 2k to it in a large diamond and some of our birthstones.

I've never heard of putting 32k into a ring. I know most old timers won't do that, they'd rather invest that into a new kitchen or patio or whatever. 32k seems really high. Maybe it was 3.2k.

My dads worth quite a bit of money. If I asked him if he'd do that he'd say gtfo of here. Unless there was some sort of tax write off
 

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He's probably rich but he's definitely stupid
 
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