Keep on dating or reject?

James184

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Let's say you are dating a chick you are really into.First couple of dates/weeks go great.Then after that she goes cold,starts flaking and stops treating you the way you want to be treated/disrespects you.So you hang back,say **** this bull**** and keep on doing your thing.Next thing you know,some weeks down the road she reappears asking where you've been and showing interest again.

What's the best way to go?keep on seducing her or outright reject her?Sure,you may still be into her in a way but her behavior contradicted your principles as a man.
 

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If she really asks then just calmly tell her straight out why. If she starts arguing and being defensive then just chuckle and walk away from it. If she seems to take it seriously then give her one more chance.

Whether you seduce or reject her depends on how she responds to your honesty.
 

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Next thing you know,some weeks down the road she reappears asking where you've been and showing interest again..
This is totally in her frame. Wanting you when She decides she wants you. When she doesn't she disappears.
This wouldn't be a good start.
Looks like there are more men than you in her life currently.
 
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This is common. Quick sex, then 30 day absence. This means they went back to their dysfunctional ex, told him about you, made him jealous enough to get it up again, and he kept her satisfied for one whole ovulation cycle, only to have her miss her one night stand with you, so she reached out. This scenario can lead to her being obsessed as I witnessed first hand. This can be payback for your oneitis. Give her oneitis over you. Just have 2 months of sex and she'll be following you around like a college girl who just had her first orgasm.
 

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I wouldn't take her serious. Fvck her at least one more time and then vanish. You win.
 

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Let's say you are dating a chick you are really into.First couple of dates/weeks go great.Then after that she goes cold,starts flaking and stops treating you the way you want to be treated/disrespects you.So you hang back,say **** this bull**** and keep on doing your thing.Next thing you know,some weeks down the road she reappears asking where you've been and showing interest again.

What's the best way to go?keep on seducing her or outright reject her?Sure,you may still be into her in a way but her behavior contradicted your principles as a man.
Make her low in your priority. When they come back it means they struck out and are looking for validation. Look at it this way.
If they flake. They flake. Interest goes up and down, women themselves don't know how or what they want from day to day.

If they stop communication and go they go. They have lost interest. Move on.

BUT, if there has been disrespect. Immediatly dump and next. Do not ever give a disrespectful girl your time or attention. Do not reward bad behaviour.
 

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Sounds like she may have narcissistic tendencies or she's a full blown narc just starting her hoovering. Fvck her good and drop her like a bad habit. Good Luck!
 
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