How to handle girls who reschedule for next week?

[wonderer]

Got a number today day gaming, well not even a number, I approached this girl and our conversation was about 3/4 mins, she gave me her fb name and went off. I didnt get a chance to really say much at all, I add her on there and we talk, she ends up asking ME out for a drink, I say sounds good are you free tomorrow? she says shes not but is free next week.

This is the second girl who has pushed out a date for quite a long time away, I feel this is too long as our interaction was so short she'll forget about the emotion of today and just flake. This is why I try and push for dates in the next 2/3 days.

How do I play this? Do I keep up communication until friday/sat then ask if shes free mon/tues? I know communication should only be for setting up dates normally but feel this is a bit different. What should I do?

 

[bigneil]

You approached a new girl and asked her out for tomorrow within 3-4 minutes? And you justify being overanxious based on your poor record of ever getting any woman to comply?

 

[wifehunter]

uhhh... find something else to do?

 

[icantgetlaid]

after getting the number you need to give the girl space for a few days .. then contact and ask them what their schedule is like "this week"

when they provide an available date you request a meet at a specific time and place.

you are being way too eager pinning them into a date within 24/48/62 hours

 

[Urbanyst]

Cold approach more women.

Most numbers you get will not lead to sex anyway. Its kind of dumb to get so hung up on someone you just met and barely know. Better to get maybe 5 to 15 new numbers before you even contract any of the girls. Then you reach out to them and make solid plans with the most available girls. Don't chase man.

I get turned off when I feel like I have to chase a woman. She should make things much easier and from my experience, when women are attracted to you they are pretty available. The week long delay to see you means she is in no rush to see you. She will probably never be available and if you make plans she will probably flake. Just keeping it real.

 

[9Volt]

Got a number today day gaming, well not even a number, I approached this girl and our conversation was about 3/4 mins, she gave me her fb name and went off. I didnt get a chance to really say much at all, I add her on there and we talk, she ends up asking ME out for a drink, I say sounds good are you free tomorrow? she says shes not but is free next week.

This is the second girl who has pushed out a date for quite a long time away, I feel this is too long as our interaction was so short she'll forget about the emotion of today and just flake. This is why I try and push for dates in the next 2/3 days.

How do I play this? Do I keep up communication until friday/sat then ask if shes free mon/tues? I know communication should only be for setting up dates normally but feel this is a bit different. What should I do?

You first need a life with other things to do besides worrying about some chick and her pushing the meet off a week. You keep it cool. Don't hit her up till after the date she suggested has passed if she never hits you up first to meet up during that time. See if after the pushoff date she replies to you just saying what's up. If she does? Make small talk. Don't ask her to meet up again. See if she suggests meeting. If she does? Make sure she comes to meet you at a place you're already going to be at regardless if she were to show or not so you're not wasting your time and life on a possible flake. If she doesn't suggest meeting you? Don't chase her. Leave it be and meet other chicks.

 

[wonderer]

You approached a new girl and asked her out for tomorrow within 3-4 minutes? And you justify being overanxious based on your poor record of ever getting any woman to comply?

Nope. I messaged her a few hours later as this was day game. She then asked me out. Read the post

 

[wonderer]

Cold approach more women.

Most numbers you get will not lead to sex anyway. Its kind of dumb to get so hung up on someone you just met and barely know. Better to get maybe 5 to 15 new numbers before you even contract any of the girls. Then you reach out to them and make solid plans with the most available girls. Don't chase man.

I get turned off when I feel like I have to chase a woman. She should make things much easier and from my experience, when women are attracted to you they are pretty available. The week long delay to see you means she is in no rush to see you. She will probably never be available and if you make plans she will probably flake. Just keeping it real.

Im not hung up, im approaching loads of women, just the second time this has happened so was wondering what the best approach to deal with it would be. Im getting a lot of numbers, know that its a number game and most wont lead anywhere, girls in day game need to be contacted on the day otherwise they forget you, I have seen this from experience.

after getting the number you need to give the girl space for a few days .. then contact and ask them what their schedule is like "this week"

when they provide an available date you request a meet at a specific time and place.

you are being way too eager pinning them into a date within 24/48/62 hours

You buy into her frame straight away and ask what her schedule is like? I offer one or two days, if she cant make it she reschedules if she has some interest. I offer the days so that I am leading, not the other way around. Also this is day game and the advise is to send a feeler text a few hours later of the same day.

 

[Tomlin6]

I tend to give the ok and I might send pictures of the place I wanted to take her, and maybe throw in "This is what you're missing." If she gives a positive response like "awww no fair." Say, ok next week!... then cut the convo off.... wait until the following Monday or Tuesday and send a value giving text / meme or something to make her smile. Chat, and ask her schedule. If she mentions a day, make a more specific suggestion. On the day, rather than confirm just send another value giving text (meme or something to make her smile) and say something like "Ive just been in the wine shop" or "i just <insert thing that took a little effort that implies its for you both meeting thing here>".... thats usually a cherry on the top so they feel a little bit worse if they try to flake.... This is pretty much my routine.

 

[RangerMIke]

I don't know... I would have to really get a lot of body language, some hints, and green lights to ask someone out the next day. Normally I will wait a few days. I've done it before, but I would have asked her out on the spot.

But normally if a woman counters you should go ahead and try to lock that down, but in this case I wouldn't be surprised if she is just pushing you back and will flake on you until you get the hint.

 

[nismo-4]

I'd be readying her replacement. If she stops responding, she's out. Hell, for postponing the date, her number's out of my phone.

 

[3agle 3yes]

Don't set dates...it's that simple really.

What I've been doing for years is text girls I've cold approached on weekends (and assumed they were free), make sure you're already doing something and ask her to meet up for fifteen to thirty minutes. In her mind this isn't a high level of commitment (after all you're already doing something else, so it's not all about her), flakes are minimum and it works. If she enjoys herself ask her to "stay" or go to another venue.

Not necessarily op, but some guys here like to ask girls what their schedules are, giving them the impression that they're going to be with you the whole day...which can be a turn off, even if they are interested.

 

[Konada]

Follow this structure and report back your results:

Go for the close only if she agrees to grab a drink with you.
<Day you number-closed girl>

Wonderer: Hi xxx, it was nice meeting you today.
HB: Hi, it was nice meeting you too

<2 days later>
Wonderer: Hey xxx, hope your week is doing fine. (Or if you have a nickname for her its better, use callback humor to get her remembering the emotions behind it.) Let's grab that coffee we talked about this week. What's your schedule looking like?

HB: I'm free on Thurs night and Friday nights (positive) / I'll let you know (Delete number)

Wonderer: Great, let's meet at (whatever time is convenient for you). Sound good?

HB: Okay! See you!

The purpose of using what's your schedule is to make it very hard for her to say 'no' without blowing you off. Essentially, she has given you her free times for YOU to pick which is convenient for you. If you really want to maintain frame, you can casually mention you will be in the area doing work/or something and set up the date close to that area.

 

[Tenacity]

Got a number today day gaming, well not even a number, I approached this girl and our conversation was about 3/4 mins, she gave me her fb name and went off. I didnt get a chance to really say much at all, I add her on there and we talk, she ends up asking ME out for a drink, I say sounds good are you free tomorrow? she says shes not but is free next week.

This is the second girl who has pushed out a date for quite a long time away, I feel this is too long as our interaction was so short she'll forget about the emotion of today and just flake. This is why I try and push for dates in the next 2/3 days.

How do I play this? Do I keep up communication until friday/sat then ask if shes free mon/tues? I know communication should only be for setting up dates normally but feel this is a bit different. What should I do?

This is just a part of the game, not to get too DEEP into psychoanalyzing bytches (because trust me, there are MUCH MORE productive things to do):

- Some women do this cause they are deliberately trying to delay certain progressions. They might feel like they will fvck you so they delay it, they might feel like they can't trust you yet, or (insert whatever random reason the bytch has in her head to deliberately delay it here).

- Some women just like to play games.

- Some women are legitimately busy.

What am I saying? Dude, it could be ANY of the three. It's random. Stop psychoanalyzing these bytches. If she says she can't meet until next week then fvck it.....keep her in communication but you should be playing the numbers game anyway.

If after "some time" you still can't get this bytch to move forward, then delete her number. AGAIN, she could be deliberately delaying, she could be playing games, or the bytch could actually be VERY busy.....doesn't matter.....after "some time" if you still can't get her to move forward just delete her.

Don't announce it, don't text her saying you are about to delete her.........just delete her.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You're overthinking. She said she is free next week but didn't give you a specific day, which means she wants you to ask her out for any time next week. Take control and offer a time on two different days then let her pick between those.