Your Thoughts on my lying long term girlfriend

What should I do?

  • Leave her

    Votes: 12 100.0%
  • Apologize to her

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Freeze her out and wait for her acknowledge her bull****

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Confront her I tell her I know the truth (betraying the friend)

    Votes: 0 0.0%

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BadBoy17

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I know is a wall of text but please bear with me. ;)

So. I have been in a relationship with this girl for 2.5 years, 3 days ago, we had a small argument because she pointed how my family doesn't like her anymore, and she blames me because I told them how at the last minute she didn't want to attend an important family celebration months ago, and she instead chose to go to a dance class that day.

At the time, I pointed her out several times that not going was going to be a problem yet she didn't pay attention to me, things escalated and I almost break up with her for her disrespectful behaviour in public to me (screaming at me and pushing me aside as if I was assaulting her) I cut all contact for 5 days, later she contacted me and wanted to mend things.

Still now she says that I should have made an excuse for her instead of telling the truth. So, I told her that she should take responsibility for her actions, dismissed the argument and left her home she showed what I supposedly a good mood, later that night I called her and she answered me in a disrespectful manner. So, I said good night and leave it at that.

The next day I call her in the morning to see if she hadn't had any problems getting to her college room (I called from my landline, something I never do but my cellphone was out of battery) she answers normally and as soon as she realizes is me turns sour and says "I attending you later" and drops the phone without cutting the call. I hang up and get really angry since I greeted her lovingly.

Like an hour later she starts calling I don't answer, she sends a text mocking me for not answering and saying that I shouldn't call her if I'm not going to answer her. I don't call her or texts her for that day and the next, she called me several times and went from angry to sentimental on several text I didn't answer saying things "about how I'm not happy with her anymore and she doesn't want to feel this way."

Later at night (of day 2) I answer a Skype call from her, I acted chill, when she starts complaining I explain that I didn't wanted to be around her disrespectful behavior and that I had been busy at work that's why I didn't answer her. She calms down when I change the subject and we end up the call in a nice mood.

Today (day 3) she calls me in the morning and we chat and joke a bit, she says she loves me and I say I do too. Later in the morning I tried to call her to her phone and find out by one of her girlfriends that she lost her phone (a gift from me) on a bus yesterday, and how they joked that she always has her head in the clouds. So, I texted her on Skype asking her what happened to her phone, she texted me saying that "she was assaulted on the street by two men with a knife" She was lying! Still I ask her why she didn't told me anything of it last night when we had talk for about an hour and I had asked her about her day at the University she responded that "she wanted to tell me yesterday but she was angry because I wasn't there for her when she needed me" I couldn't believe how blatantly was she lying to me and how clearly she was trying to emotionally blackmail me.

Her friend who had showed me her texts was still around and when I talk to her again she asks me not to tell my girlfriend that we had talked since she just asked her not to tell me anything about how she lost her phone. I don't believe her and she shows me her text. WTF!

So I call her to her dorm and she tells me the same story, I ask her for details to make a police complaint, she messes up but tries to cover it, she noticed that I didn't buy it, and asked me if I didn't believe her, I said that I don't and that I don't understand why she is trying to make something up. She starts crying on the phone and says she can't believe I don't trust her! and says that everything is over and hangs up. Now she text me saying “I can’t stay like this, you ignore me for a whole day, and now I’m a liar, ok I get it, thanks for clearing things up today, love doesn’t exist, I advise you to find a better person than me since I can’t make you happy in our relationship, godspeed I wish you the best.”

I haven’t answer her yet.

Some history: She’s a 24yo, with sort of tomboyish attitude overall but with a very small frame 7/10, she’s a little bit above average smart and likes anime and videogames. She said she was a virgin and didn’t wanted to have sex until 5 months of the relationship, later I find out she used to take it up her ass (she herself spilled the beans), One day I overhear her telling her mom a her sisters that she owns me completely (I tried to step up my game after that), I catch her one day when she said she was going to stay at her dorm sleeping and she went to party with her well known ***** friends (I don’t have problems she partying if I’m not around the city but she still lied probably because I disapprove of those specific friends). She used to lie a lot for little things, I called her on her bull**** and she fixed it or probably got better at it don’t know anymore. Her sister is a big ***** and they live together. I used support half of her financial stuff in the university until the big fight months ago, and my family used to support her too in other things, last month things got better and I started supporting her just a bit. Overall I try to make her happy and give her good sex, she orgasms twice most of the time.

What should I do, what should I answer to her text, she’s probably waiting for me to break and ask her to forgive me which I don’t plan on doing it. What’s your advice in this situation I’m in.
 
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sazc

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Yeesh, what a nightmare. If she's 24 then I'm going to assume you are around the same age. You should move on. she's too immature to have a grown up relationship and it honestly sounds like you guys arent working well, and cant work things out well together.
 

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Thanks for your reply, I'm 29 and yes it's hard to work things out, also when arguments arise I feel like having to school her all the time and I don't like it.
 

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Thanks for your reply, I'm 29 and yes it's hard to work things out, also when arguments arise I feel like having to school her all the time and I don't like it.
you need to find someone who operates at your level. what you have sounds miserable
 

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If she lies, she dies.
Lies destroy trust
Without trust love cant exist
 
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Are you happy in this relationship? If the answer is no.. then why are you in it?

Don't be one of those schmucks who is in a bad relationship because they are afraid to be single or afraid to start fresh.

Life is too short to be with people are are not compatible with. Relationships should always feel natural. If you have to force a relationship to work.. it means someone is desperate.
 

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Thank you all for your answers.

Are you happy in this relationship? If the answer is no.. then why are you in it?

Don't be one of those schmucks who is in a bad relationship because they are afraid to be single or afraid to start fresh.

Life is too short to be with people are are not compatible with. Relationships should always feel natural. If you have to force a relationship to work.. it means someone is desperate.
If I haven't ended this relationship it's because I truly love her, after 2.5 years I haven't used game much but I'm confindent I can get someone else of even of higher quality on looks and status, also I'm not too worried about being single since I'm focused on my own business atm. But I completly understand what you mean.
 

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Thank you all for your answers.



If I haven't ended this relationship it's because I truly love her, after 2.5 years I haven't used game much but I'm confindent I can get someone else of even of higher quality on looks and status, also I'm not to worried about being single since I'm focused on my own business atm. But I completly understand what you mean.
Do you really love her or do you just love being in a relationship?

What makes this girl so lovable to you that you can't leave?
 

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Why do you need our approval for you to leave her? Come on bro, deep down inside you already know that this relationship isn't going to work out for either of you. She's a compulsive liar and tried to make her fvck ups your fault. That's not fair to you. You needed to go online and essentially ask for advice because you couldn't trust her enough to talk with you in a mature manner over the condition of your relationship. She isn't deserving of you. She even said how she was a virgin, but took it up the ass. That's fvcked up man, most chicks would lose their v-card before progressing to anal, has she even let you bang her in the other hole yet like that other guy(s)?

The fact of the matter is, she doesn't truly respect you, otherwise she wouldn't have lied to you so many times. And you can't love someone you don't respect. She doesn't really love you bro.
 

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Do you really love her or do you just love being in a relationship?

What makes this girl so lovable to you that you can't leave?
You are right, I probably love the good things about her, but that's just being blind to the bad.

Why do you need our approval for you to leave her? Come on bro, deep down inside you already know that this relationship isn't going to work out for either of you. She's a compulsive liar and tried to make her fvck ups your fault. That's not fair to you. You needed to go online and essentially ask for advice because you couldn't trust her enough to talk with you in a mature manner over the condition of your relationship. She isn't deserving of you. She even said how she was a virgin, but took it up the ass. That's fvcked up man, most chicks would lose their v-card before progressing to anal, has she even let you bang her in the other hole yet like that other guy(s)?

The fact of the matter is, she doesn't truly respect you, otherwise she wouldn't have lied to you so many times. And you can't love someone you don't respect. She doesn't really love you bro.
You are right, but sometimes it's cool to let other people which probably aren't full of **** listen my problems. You are right and I know it it's not going to work. Only twice she said "it hurts and she only did it twice before" *cough* bull**** *cough*.

You guys are right, thank you all, now I'm more at peace.
 

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Cut contact, go No Contact (NC) and meet other women. This one is a piece of sh!t.

Do not get bogged down & sucked back in. She disrespects you, your family and expects you to treat her like a princess.

There are better women out there. Drop this one and waste no more time on her.
 

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Cut contact, go No Contact (NC) and meet other women. This one is a piece of sh!t.

Do not get bogged down & sucked back in. She disrespects you, your family and expects you to treat her like a princess.

There are better women out there. Drop this one and waste no more time on her.
You are right, will do so, thanks for you reply!
 

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This b*tch is a psycho.

She will stab you in the face and when you ask if she stabbed you in the face, she will smile and say "No, honey. Of course, I didn't stab you in the face. How could you accuse me of such a thing! You're such a horrible person. I can't believe you don't trust me. I'm done with this relationship. I refuse to be with someone who doesn't trust and love me."

All while twisting the knife and pushing it further into your skull.
 

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This b*tch is a psycho.

She will stab you in the face and when you ask if she stabbed you in the face, she will smile and say "No, honey. Of course, I didn't stab you in the face. How could you accuse me of such a thing! You're such a horrible person. I can't believe you don't trust me. I'm done with this relationship. I refuse to be with someone who doesn't trust and love me."

All while twisting the knife and pushing it further into your skull.
She's probably cheating too ;)
 

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This b*tch is a psycho.

She will stab you in the face and when you ask if she stabbed you in the face, she will smile and say "No, honey. Of course, I didn't stab you in the face. How could you accuse me of such a thing! You're such a horrible person. I can't believe you don't trust me. I'm done with this relationship. I refuse to be with someone who doesn't trust and love me."

All while twisting the knife and pushing it further into your skull.
OK, now this is scary because I have seen crazy behaviour from her towards other people, I guess your scenario isn't that improbable, but what scares me more it's that I find myself thinking "aren't all women like that?" I need distance myself from this monstrosity.
 

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She's probably cheating too ;)
What have you find out about my story that gives you that feeling, apart of not being able to trust someone who's a lying *****. I know is highly probable, but can't point out exactly why.
 

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Now she text me saying “I can’t stay like this, you ignore me for a whole day, and now I’m a liar, ok I get it, thanks for clearing things up today, love doesn’t exist, I advise you to find a better person than me since I can’t make you happy in our relationship, godspeed I wish you the best.”


Good riddance! Damn man 5 months dating before sex.Time to move on to greener pastures. You can do it!

Man I had to re-read your post, why the fvck where you financially supporting in school?

Stop with beta-bucks provider crap man. Hopefully you didn't waste too much $$.

 
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Now she text me saying “I can’t stay like this, you ignore me for a whole day, and now I’m a liar, ok I get it, thanks for clearing things up today, love doesn’t exist, I advise you to find a better person than me since I can’t make you happy in our relationship, godspeed I wish you the best.”


Good riddance! Damn man 5 months dating before sex.Time to move on to greener pastures. You can do it!

Man I had to re-read your post, why the fvck where you financially supporting in school?

Stop with beta-bucks provider crap man. Hopefully you didn't waste too much $$.
Yes, it was a ****ing horrible idea, and the thing is she always said stuff like "do I ask much of from you? I don't want you to spend much on me" yet she almost never gave back what she subtlety asked for.
 

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What have you find out about my story that gives you that feeling, apart of not being able to trust someone who's a lying *****. I know is highly probable, but can't point out exactly why.
I was kidding, yanking @El Payaso 's leg.

You'll never be happy with this chick. Quit trying to save her and find a woman who appreciates you for your real value, and isnt afraid to show it.
 
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