Why did she do this?

[Chamber36]

It's just a curve ball.

Your reaction was perfect. Just roll with the punches. You just have to acknowledge her idea and it's all fine. Haven't read all posts but I'm sure somebody here must have explained what goes on in their brains. It's just to make sure you don't think of her as a slut.

Just go for the kill man.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

She's 18 so she wouldn't make a good wing girl since she can't get into bars and club. I'm probably going to do the first thing that you said. Part of me saw what she said as nothing to take too seriously. But it just came out of the blue.


Nah, what let that stop me? Part of the reason why I am attracted to her is because she can challenge me. I like being on equal footing with the women that I date.

I'm thinking that it's b too. If she really wasn't interested she would have just cancelled on me.




I'm not sure and I don't really care. I feel as though the people who don't like me and the women who treat me poorly just don't really know who I am.
I can’t get my story out to everybody. I don’t have the time to sit down with every single person and change their opinion about me. And why am I supposed to do that? I know inside who I am, and that’s what we all have to live with. You look at yourself and say, ‘Am I OK with who I am? Did I do the right things?’ I’m not going to lie, I’ve made plenty of mistakes. But mistakes are what make you better and what make you grow. There are no regrets.

The reason they don’t like me isn’t because of who I am, it’s because they just don’t know. I can live with that. Would I rather people like me? Sure. But if you don’t, well, OK! Sorry!

You can be the most upstanding and ethical man, and people will HATE you just for that alone. So they could have any reason "they don't like" you.

 

[TheFixer14]

This is a very sweet and romantic notion, but you could go through your whole life with this philosophy and not be as successful with women as you might have been had you engaged a bit of introspection and acted upon it.

Of course we don't officially advocate changing oneself for the sake of others. I'd be first on board with doing it for yourself. But there may well be something really obvious, especially regards your behaviour that might easily be remedied.

The general ethos of this site and others like it is to rid ourselves of unsuccessful lifestyle choices. Dare I observe that it sometimes comes across as though change isn't on your personal agenda. And I don't advocate change for the sake of appeasing others; I mean change for the sake of your own future success.

Most guys here who have experienced benefit from being on the site will have embraced change to some extent, I can guarantee it.

I'm not saying that I'm not into self improvement because I am. I am constantly making myself better. And of course I want to be more attractive. But I also just want to be myself. I am done wondering why I am not more popular or well liked.

I don't think we will ever rid ourselves completely of unsuccessful lifestyle choices. That's just part of the human condition.

It's just a curve ball.

Your reaction was perfect. Just roll with the punches. You just have to acknowledge her idea and it's all fine. Haven't read all posts but I'm sure somebody here must have explained what goes on in their brains. It's just to make sure you don't think of her as a slut.

Just go for the kill man.

I think you were right. Next post will have a field report.

You can be the most upstanding and ethical man, and people will HATE you just for that alone. So they could have any reason "they don't like" you.

This is 100% fvcking true. That's my issue with how to win friends and influence people. You can be the best person and there will be people who just hate you.

 

[TheFixer14]

So I just got back from the date. We were together for about three hours.

I have to say, that was one of the most fun and relaxed first dates ever and I've had some cool first dates in the past. The chick might be the person girl that I've met in L.A. She is smart, funny, has spunk, and fun. We actually had a few cool conversations. I was actually very happy being with her. I feel like I can be myself with her and I rarely feel that way with anyone.

We met up at an arcade, gave her a slight kiss on the cheek, and played a bunch of game. Arcades are great for first dates. Not only is it an action date, but you can go into Jurassic Park, play guitar hero, race Mario kart, race on snow mobiles, and dance. The whole time I made sure that there was contact with her physically and she did too. She only told me to chill once when I kinda kept my hand on her knee too long. I just said that I liked her leather pants and I remembered that she wore it the first time that we met.

I think I understand what her deal is. She is only 18 and I don't think that she's that sexually experienced. She might even be a virgin. This feels a lot like cruel intentions minus the fvcked up part haha. But anyway, I think could tell by her body language that she was a little nervous. It's a good thing that I decided to take the charming approach. Everything I did had a sexual vibe. But I was rarely direct.

We had a bit of a cap and then ended the date. I actually would like to see her again. I'm not looking for a serious relationship. But she could be a good fwb. Someone who I do fun things with and have sex with on a weekly basis. But have the freedom to go out.

I'm going to wait until Monday to contact her again. She mentioned that she liked going to museums. As do I so I'll invite her to one. In the meantime, I'm going to go out the next few nights including tonight. I actually feel kinda good and I haven't jerked off in two weeks so I need to get some action.