Telling a girl she gained weight is wrong in America

[Pandora]

I have an ex gf. She used to be a solid 6.5 maybe a 7. Within a year she gained about 30 lbs. She is now a 4.5/10. We are just friends now and talk on a sporadic basis. She tried to make me jealous with a new guy she is dating. I told her that i wont get jealous until she loses her weight. I went on to tell her that she is beautiful but just needs to get back down in size. I honestly said this in a nice and empathetic way. I was not mean. I didnt insult her. I complimented her beauty yet i told her the truth. Some how this makes me an a**hole, a jerk and every other name in the book. My little sister even took her side and stated " you never tell a girl that she is getting fat. You just let her be because she will figure it out on her own."

Women are comfortable living in delusion. Their friends dont tell them the truth and heaven forbid a man tells them the truth. Rather than improve their lives they prefer not to confront reality because it might hurt their feelings. This makes me sad because i am realizing that there is nothing to respect in the female mind. I feel like i have pedastalized and have chased something not worth chasing. There is truly nothing there. I am kind of depressed about it. How can i ever love a woman enough to get married or have a child. I cant love something that i dont respect.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

This is how woman rationalize when they lie. They would prefer to lie than hurt someone's feelings. It's always about the "feels" for broads. It's just how they operate.

This is why a lot of them cheat to end RL, they are to coward to end it themselves. I've lost count of beta stories I've heard were the gf cheated and the AFC wanted to forgive them.
It's pathetic I know!

 

[Serenity]

"Let her be because she will figure it out on her own."

Hahahaha, nope. She'll be clueless as to why the fvck she's attracting all these unsexy guys and believe it's certainly not about her weight. Not until it slowly sinks in over a few years and she eventually realizes it's because she's unsexy herself due to her size. By that time she might be even fatter and the way back insanely hard.

Just making her aware of it could save her years of suffering from blindly trying to figure out her lack of success. I do mean commenting on it, not shaming in a nasty way. They might still react dramatically, but when things go bad they'll turn to what you told them as they're looking for causes.

 

[Alvafe]

I have an ex gf. She used to be a solid 6.5 maybe a 7. Within a year she gained about 30 lbs. She is now a 4.5/10. We are just friends now and talk on a sporadic basis. She tried to make me jealous with a new guy she is dating. I told her that i wont get jealous until she loses her weight. I went on to tell her that she is beautiful but just needs to get back down in size. I honestly said this in a nice and empathetic way. I was not mean. I didnt insult her. I complimented her beauty yet i told her the truth. Some how this makes me an a**hole, a jerk and every other name in the book. My little sister even took her side and stated " you never tell a girl that she is getting fat. You just let her be because she will figure it out on her own."

Women are comfortable living in delusion. Their friends dont tell them the truth and heaven forbid a man tells them the truth. Rather than improve their lives they prefer not to confront reality because it might hurt their feelings. This makes me sad because i am realizing that there is nothing to respect in the female mind. I feel like i have pedastalized and have chased something not worth chasing. There is truly nothing there. I am kind of depressed about it. How can i ever love a woman enough to get married or have a child. I cant love something that i dont respect.

being the a hole is nice plus she was the retard to think you would feel "jealous" for her fat ass.

also its your sister tell her **** off, you shouldn't care what she says

 

[PantyWhisperer]

"Let her be because she will figure it out on her own."

Hahahaha, nope. She'll be clueless as to why the fvck she's attracting all these unsexy guys and believe it's certainly not about her weight. Not until it slowly sinks in over a few years and she eventually realizes it's because she's unsexy herself due to her size. By that time she might be even fatter and the way back insanely hard.

Just making her aware of it could save her years of suffering from blindly trying to figure out her lack of success. I do mean commenting on it, not shaming in a nasty way. They might still react dramatically, but when things go bad they'll turn to what you told them as they're looking for causes.

In addition to that, the unsexy guys will continue to tell her how beautiful and sexy she is, even though she is a pig.

 

[Urbanyst]

You should always tell women when they gain weight.

The ego problem of women today comes from everyone always telling them how awesome and beautiful they are. I have a policy where I don't generally lie to people unless telling the truth would seriously ruin my life or get me fired from my job.

I never lie to women about their looks. A woman being angry at me is not the most scary thing in the world.

 

[SkrooU]

You can tell women they're fat. I do it all the time.

 

[SgtSplacker]

It's not delusion... To them it's real.

Women go by what everyone around them thinks. If they can win over the masses there's no more to it than that. It's a reality generator

 

[EyeBRollin]

So the weird thing with this is that she will call you an ******* for saying it, but deep down she will respect you more and won't forget what you said. Women know when they're fat. Don't enable them. It's the fear of losing you that gets them to act on it.

 

[amazingswayze]

OP you are absolutely hilarious.

Women are comfortable living in delusion. Their friends dont tell them the truth and heaven forbid a man tells them the truth. Rather than improve their lives they prefer not to confront reality because it might hurt their feelings. This makes me sad because i am realizing that there is nothing to respect in the female mind. I feel like i have pedastalized and have chased something not worth chasing. There is truly nothing there. I am kind of depressed about it. How can i ever love a woman enough to get married or have a child. I cant love something that i dont respect.

Your second paragraph is poetry. I've felt this way for a while but didn't know how to express it.

Some of you guys might disagree but this forum is rather dry lately. I've been interested in TRP lately on reddit. Keep it up though, and good job on staying true to your beliefs.

 

[glass half full]

The way I see it, it doesn't need to be said.

Look at it this way...how many times have you (any of us) had to either figure out their head games, or ask and still leave the convo just as stupid as when it began?

This fits in the same category as playing games. IMO, if you're in a situation you can't win with a woman, why fvcking even play...when you can just walk away?

7 billion people in the world. Just walk away. Preferably in the middle of a confrontation on her bs. If it's her weight, just look her over, and leave. Words sometimes are more powerful
when not spoken.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Personally I run out of empathy while I fill myself up with sense of justice.

If a woman can mock me or joke about my d1ck size or sexual experience I can do the same the other way around, if her ass needs a licence plate I'll let her know as much as the fact that more men have been served from her body then the amount that have been served from the store clerk at the shopping center.

Everyday I hear women bashing guys in very mean ways about their height, their value and even their dignity yet despite a bomber would have enough space to land on their asses dont even mention that she is nothing less than amazing.

Oh and beware of women interested in you that you reject cause not even a compressor would make you hard for them, all her friends and yours too will strike you as if you are public enemy nr.1.

 

[glass half full]

I bashed a horrible one once...she was cutting me with height, d!ck size, etc. She didn't know me intimately.
I told her she looks better when she wears her Padded bras. (She's flat chested). It's funny, one day her tiny little ass has tits, next day she doesn't.

 

[SgtSplacker]

You should always tell women when they gain weight.

The ego problem of women today comes from everyone always telling them how awesome and beautiful they are. I have a policy where I don't generally lie to people unless telling the truth would seriously ruin my life or get me fired from my job.

I never lie to women about their looks. A woman being angry at me is not the most scary thing in the world.

I see posts on Reddit all the time of regular looking girls with titles including the words "amazing, incredible" when it's just a regular looking girl with no special assets to speak of. A girl takes her clothes off nowadays and the betas line up to blow up her head with compliments. I have seen a woman post the most disgusting photo of a diseased looking vagina and get compliments on it.

 

[The Duke]

I encourage fat shaming. There are way too many fat females as well as men out there. I've never seen it as bad as it is these days. Too many millennials = too much delusion! Its all a product of every kid getting a trophy for participation. They've been told they were great when they weren't. They've been told their weight is fine when its not. They've been told they can be any thing they want when they can't. Time to face the music folks. We are the fattest country in the world. Time to Make AMERICA Great Again.

My ex-wife gained 15lbs one time. I told her that if I wanted a fat girl I would have found me one to begin with.

My sister used to be a hottie and still has a pretty face but she is 30lbs over weight. I remind her how important looks are to men and that the best men get the most attractive girls. I also let her know her poor eating habits and no exercise is why she looks like she does.

Being fat tells me you don't care, are lazy, lack work ethic, lack will power, and you lie to yourself.

It takes a lot of dedication/discipline to eat right and be in the gym 3-5days a week. Props to the folks that keep at it.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Meh, current and past girlfriends always tell me about my lossing/gaining weight. Why shouldn´t we be able to talk to them about theirs? Fokking double standars