Regretting the times you've screwed people over.....

[speed dawg]

I'll make this short and sweet. With the advent of facebook and other things, it's easy to connect back with people from the past. I keep happening upon people that I was a total sh*t-ball towards. I find myself wanting to contact them and apologize for this/that. I mean, just completely mean stuff. Sometimes I wonder why anybody would even want to be my acquaintance, due to my own selfish sh*ttiness. I have been a bad, bad, bad 'friend' at times in my life.

Guess this is more to get it off my chest than anything. These people have moved on and could care less about me I'm sure.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

I'll make this short and sweet. With the advent of facebook and other things, it's easy to connect back with people from the past. I keep happening upon people that I was a total sh*t-ball towards. I find myself wanting to contact them and apologize for this/that. I mean, just completely mean stuff. Sometimes I wonder why anybody would even want to be my acquaintance, due to my own selfish sh*ttiness. I have been a bad, bad, bad 'friend' at times in my life.

Guess this is more to get it off my chest than anything. These people have moved on and could care less about me I'm sure.

I think this is natural. Too often people often spout cliches about how "there are no regrets, only lessons". Just fluffy rubbish. But for the MOST successful among us, who really do live such busy lives that they forgot their past entirely, we all do what you described.

And you'd be surprised about the emboldened sentence, in my opinion, about how they all forgot about you. A lot of people fake an extreme attitude of nonchalance. Guys have their entire game "gimmick" based on that personality style, and girls do it too, sort of like a humblebrag. Meanwhile, they're all creeping on you and 20 others from high school also, whoever the hell pops into their mind.

I used to do this and realized while normal, how unproductive it was. I no longer even have a Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and never had an Instgram. Feels better this way. I am even heavily tempted to downgrade permanently from a smartphone down to a basic phone with no internet capabilities, because of the unconscionable amount of time squandered on stuff like this. A laptop in the home is one thing, but having the internet with you everywhere is a recipe for disaster.

In my opinion the top 5 features of a smartphone that'd be hardest to let go of:
1. GPS
2. Camera
3. Mobile check deposits (no more driving to the branch)
4. Bluetooth front door app (I can get in my apartment without my keys)
5. Quick and easy emails

But even a lot of basic phones (like the rugged Kyocera ones) have sufficient camera, GPS and email functionality. What do you think about ditching the smartphone @speed dawg so as to not waste so much time on this? After all social media is the root cause of it all.

 

[speed dawg]

I think this is natural. Too often people often spout cliches about how "there are no regrets, only lessons". Just fluffy rubbish. But for the MOST successful among us, who really do live such busy lives that they forgot their past entirely, we all do what you described.

And you'd be surprised about the emboldened sentence, in my opinion, about how they all forgot about you. A lot of people fake an extreme attitude of nonchalance. Guys have their entire game "gimmick" based on that personality style, and girls do it too, sort of like a humblebrag. Meanwhile, they're all creeping on you and 20 others from high school also, whoever the hell pops into their mind.

I used to do this and realized while normal, how unproductive it was. I no longer even have a Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and never had an Instgram. Feels better this way. I am even heavily tempted to downgrade permanently from a smartphone down to a basic phone with no internet capabilities, because of the unconscionable amount of time squandered on stuff like this. A laptop in the home is one thing, but having the internet with you everywhere is a recipe for disaster.

In my opinion the top 5 features of a smartphone that'd be hardest to let go of:
1. GPS
2. Camera
3. Mobile check deposits (no more driving to the branch)
4. Bluetooth front door app (I can get in my apartment without my keys)
5. Quick and easy emails

But even a lot of basic phones (like the rugged Kyocera ones) have sufficient camera, GPS and email functionality. What do you think about ditching the smartphone @speed dawg so as to not waste so much time on this? After all social media is the root cause of it all.

I probably couldn't ditch the phone, I use that to do my job. Email big files, text, all that stuff. We even have apps that access certain documents when I'm in the field. But yeah I have certainly considered getting rid of social media but it's more of a conscious decision than it is deleting the accounts (which can be easily reactivated).

Certainly about ready to devote life to something better.

And yes, the humble brag nonchalance is prevalent everywhere. People literally try to act too busy and too cool for each other, but they are all at home lonely. Very common among men, at least where I live.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

I probably couldn't ditch the phone, I use that to do my job. Email big files, text, all that stuff. We even have apps that access certain documents when I'm in the field. But yeah I have certainly considered getting rid of social media but it's more of a conscious decision than it is deleting the accounts (which can be easily reactivated).

Certainly about ready to devote life to something better.

And yes, the humble brag nonchalance is prevalent everywhere. People literally try to act too busy and too cool for each other, but they are all at home lonely. Very common among men, at least where I live.

It is really prevalent among guys who want to be perceived as good with women, regardless of whether they are or not. I have a "friend" (whom I really can't stand) who will cut you off mid-sentence if it's "not gettin' him to the money or pu$$y".

In other words, he's above that boring stuff like economics, politics, current events. All that stuff is met with "it's whatever dude" (white guy version) or "blase blah" (black guy version).

There seems to be this obsession in my generation with rebellion and the perception of "not giving a fvck". Not sure if it was prominent before my generation.

I always noticed these people were always on the verge of an outburst or breakdown as they whatever'd you to death. My "friend" would have these fits of rage and punch lockers at work. One time I sold a phone to a girl who was half-heartedly giving me the "uhm, whatever you think is best" when I asked probing questions about plans and phone options. I accidentely deleted a few old pictures off her old phone and she broke down in tears.