Woman I've been chatting up

[051AV]

A woman I haven't seen in a couple months, I've never progressed further than talking to her as she has some red flags.

It makes me laugh I get the same reaction out of her when she talks to me a big smile, bright eyes and she's constantly playing with her hair. This same woman can be really moody around me she acts like I've done something wrong and I should know about it.

I really don't want to lead her on but I can't ignore her either, she is happy when she talks to me, I know she's carrying some baggage its not worth it getting involved with her.

The reason for this post I find it interesting how women act around me, soon as she seen me she had a big smile and she was happy, I get the same reaction out of her every time, she also pushes her chest out as well lol. She really hasn't lost her infatuation with me I would have thought it would go away I guess its not going too.

 

[sazc]

A woman I haven't seen in a couple months, I've never progressed further than talking to her as she has some red flags.

It makes me laugh I get the same reaction out of her when she talks to me a big smile, bright eyes and she's constantly playing with her hair. This same woman can be really moody around me she acts like I've done something wrong and I should know about it.

I really don't want to lead her on but I can't ignore her either, she is happy when she talks to me, I know she's carrying some baggage its not worth it getting involved with her.

The reason for this post I find it interesting how women act around me, soon as she seen me she had a big smile and she was happy, I get the same reaction out of her every time, she also pushes her chest out as well lol. She really hasn't lost her infatuation with me I would have thought it would go away I guess its not going too.

Until rejection is undeniable, a female is going to have hope. I'm willing to bet if you brought a female with you she would change her mood, and it would be evident.
People, and the way they carry their baggage will never fail to intrigue me!

 

[hockeyfreak79]

Until rejection is undeniable, a female is going to have hope. I'm willing to bet if you brought a female with you she would change her mood, and it would be evident.
People, and the way they carry their baggage will never fail to intrigue me!

I don't fully agree, IME it's been the opposite. She'd be even more turned on and flirty. Woman love competition, drama and jealousy. It's happened to me so many times it's not even funny anymore. 1 minute you are a ghost but as soon as you are seen with someone else they want attention.


"This same woman can be really moody around me she acts like I've done something wrong."

You haven't tried to fvck her and you pretty much rejected her. Like LA said you screened her like you should. Subconsciously she knows this. Hence the way she "acts". Get it now?

 

[AlphaNate]

I don't fully agree, IME it's been the opposite. She'd be even more turned on and flirty. Woman love competition, drama and jealousy. It's happened to me so many times it's not even funny anymore. 1 minute you are a ghost but as soon as you are seen with someone else they want attention.

Pivot chicks FTW

 

[051AV]

I found out her past from a friend, she's an attractive woman but ........ I see this woman in a work environment she works in a office so I'm usually alone. Her attitude with me got to the point I was going to ask her what the fvck is her problem. I used to see her a lot it was nearly daily because of my work routine then things changed its been a good 2 months since I've seen her. She is strange thou if somebody is with me she isn't shy but when we are one on one she is really shy all I get out of her is giggles.

After being with a BPD its made me a lot more aware of red flags, so many women I've run across are loaded with red flags and baggage. This one in the post she had a rough marriage it didn't end well. So many women out there that have enough baggage to fill a truck, I'm not going to put up with that, you do it once your not going to repeat that mistake again.

 

[sazc]

I don't fully agree, IME it's been the opposite. She'd be even more turned on and flirty. Woman love competition, drama and jealousy. It's happened to me so many times it's not even funny anymore. 1 minute you are a ghost but as soon as you are seen with someone else they want attention.


"This same woman can be really moody around me she acts like I've done something wrong."

You haven't tried to fvck her and you pretty much rejected her. Like LA said you screened her like you should. Subconsciously she knows this. Hence the way she "acts". Get it now?

nope. then again, if she's seriously fubar'ed in the head, I wont be able to relate. women can get strange

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I found out her past from a friend, she's an attractive woman but ........ I see this woman in a work environment she works in a office so I'm usually alone. Her attitude with me got to the point I was going to ask her what the fvck is her problem. I used to see her a lot it was nearly daily because of my work routine then things changed its been a good 2 months since I've seen her. She is strange thou if somebody is with me she isn't shy but when we are one on one she is really shy all I get out of her is giggles.

After being with a BPD its made me a lot more aware of red flags, so many women I've run across are loaded with red flags and baggage. This one in the post she had a rough marriage it didn't end well. So many women out there that have enough baggage to fill a truck, I'm not going to put up with that, you do it once your not going to repeat that mistake again.

Yes, I can't totally relate. So out of curiosity was your "BPD" ex physicaly violent? A lot of guys throw this term out and I always wonder how true it is. I've had an ex that fit the BDP criteria minus being physically violent.

I don't know your age but that's smart by you to screen but the obvious point is never mess with co-workers. I did in my early 20s but I didn't give a fvck, I was a kid hungry for poon and it was there for the taking.

If you are going to get involved with a broad it's always best to match the "baggage" levels between the 2. That's my philosophy if I was looking for an LTR.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

nope. then again, if she's seriously fubar'ed in the head, I wont be able to relate. women can get strange

Fubar is definitely fun tho! Don't get me wrong.
People are strange, when they are strangers. js

Fvcked.Up.Beyond.Repair and or recognition.

For the younger whipper snappers, it's not YOLO or FOMO......it FUBAR! Oi!

It's a military derived acronym.

 

[051AV]

The BPD I was with wasn't physically abusive, she did have a temper thou, she knew how to use words to cut you to the bone. I don't work with this woman I'm chatting up. After I heard her marriage was an ugly one that was the end of any intentions of getting to know her any further. In my experience and what I've observed if a woman has been in an abusive relationship it scars them for life it never goes away. I don't think this woman is fubar'ed in the head but she's been single for a long time after her divorce, she has kids.

My red flag for women is if they come from an unhealthy family life or they've had unhealthy relationships its not worth it getting involved with them. Its the first thing I do now is try find out what her family life is. Any inklings of her hating her father or mother that's the end of it for me. Being with the BPD and her hating her father not having a good relationship with her mother for the longest time. Unhealthy family life/upbringing really screws women up big time its amazing how fvcked up women can get. The BPD is a very bright intelligent and attractive woman if it wasn't for her dad screwing up his daughters life she would be the perfect woman. Her mom is just as screwed up staying in an abusive marriage for so many years.

Look at the woman's family life and decide from there if you want to date her or not.

 

[marmel75]

nope. then again, if she's seriously fubar'ed in the head, I wont be able to relate. women can get strange

A woman once told me: "All women are crazy, some are just able to hide it better than others."

I've operated with this mind set ever since