Decorating Your Pad & Other Randoms

[BlueAlpha1]

Mature men of SoSuave, I have some questions for you about your pad/living quarters. Let's compare lifestyles in the home and best practices. GO!!!

How many suits do you own and what color?
1 black (I should probably up this to 3 and buy a navy and a gray)

What are a handful of essentials every man should have?
Multi-tool, set of wine glasses, coffee table books, travel pouch, quality pen, toolbox, set of cufflinks, good cologne, pocket knife, watch, bluetooth speaker/sound system


This or That, Yes or No?

House vs. Apartment. vs. Mom's basement - Apartment

Safety Razor vs. Disposables - Safety

Living Room Carpet or Hard wood - Wood + area rug

Shower Caddy vs. Soaps sitting on the tub ledge - Ledge (those damn things never stay)

Quality hamper (wicker) vs. $5 white plastic bin vs. $1 drawstring bag - Wicker

TV in bedroom? - Yes (I probably should scrap this)

Framed Art vs. Thumbtacked Sports Junk - Both

Plastic vs. Marble vs Padded toilet seat - White plastic (thinking of upgrading to marble)

Number of Sheet Sets - 2 (should probably own 3-4)

Empty liquor bottles everywhere - No (this stopped being cool after college)

Live plants - No

DVD racks - No (I'm down to 10 left on my tiny entertainment center)

Barstools/Island vs. Dinner table - Barstools

Jewelry box - Yes (watches plus some family heirloom rings)

Leather or cloth couch - Leather / Ottoman - Yes / Reclines - No

Curtains vs. Blinds vs. Sheets Thumbtacked over window - Blinds

Living room TV size - 60" / Smart TV - Yes / Mounted - Yes

Walls white vs. painted - White (want to paint, too fvcking lazy)

Exercise equipment? No (there is a gym on site here)

Do you have a view? Yes (3rd floor of an apartment complex overlooking the huge pool)

Now be honest...does your place look more like this



or this

 

[Bible_Belt]

Other than the chaise sofa, which I like, I think the top pic looks overly cluttered.

After my last gf moved out about three years ago, I stopped caring what my place looks like. My living room looks like a guy's storage shed. There's tools everywhere, a chain saw, weed eater, and table saw, as well as stacks of boxes of junk. I hardly ever clean anything. Last year I had a motorcycle taken apart in my living room. It looks like Fonzie lives here.

Conventional wisdom is that not being domestic will chase women away, but that's not exactly true. What it does do is send the message that I am not relationship material, which is true, I'm not. So we just skip straight to the sex, and she leaves. I have never had a girl come to my house and decide to not have sex with me based on the way it looks. The messy house goes with my theme of being Mr Right Now and not Mr Right.

Guys often complain on here about women being gold diggers and pressing them into commitment. If that's a problem, stop waving your money around and using it to attract women. Guys will brag about their great job, nice car, oversized house. If you're using that to get pvssy, fine, but you can't then complain about women being superficial, or wanting to get some of the stuff you just waved in their faces.

 

[Tom Shivoe]

My place looks like the bottom one but that's partly because I moved in 3 months ago with a suitcase and not much cash (getting divorced). I am slowly picking stuff up.

I like a lot of what Bible_Belt had to say but I do feel my apartment doesn't create a good mood. I guess even a deconstructed motorbike says you exist in society, you do stuff and have a life, whereas bare minimum furniture and a few books says "this guy has no personality" (unfairly I hope...)

 

[resilient]

I think a Don Juan has to balance the stylistic and functional purposes of a pad.

Here's my 2 cents:

First Photo

Worry less about what the plate thinks of your place and more about how it celebrates the life and values you live day to day. For example, that top pic had lots of photo frames near the window. I'm gathering that's because the people and experiences in his life are important and he likes to contemplate or remember the cool things he did or the people that important to him in life.

Second Photo

Holy crap man, clean up that leftover hot pocket sitting on that empty plate in front of the computer.

You don't have to wash the glasses right away, but at least have the decency to put it in sink to be washed later.

That couch wouldn't be as bad if it had a pull out bed. Fold or put away the unzipped sleeping bag that was used to sleep in last night on the couch.

Consider painting the walls or one wall at least off color. The books on the desk would look better raised with two book ends. Paint the trim of the window top and bottom so it doesn't contrast with the wall as obvious. Consider different colored curtains and a higher quality curtain rod.

Install a ceiling fan in place of that tiny light.

Move that wheel barrel in the background outside so it's not the first thing she sees when she looks outside, lol.

If it was a studio, I would suggest a coffee table and an interesting rug/carpet piece to put under it to separate the blah carpet. Clothes should go in a dresser. Need some green in here too. Maybe a fake plant or a succulent that's hard to kill.

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I currently don't own a home, yet when I did, I liked having decorations randomly displayed in my office/study. I've traveled to many countries around the world in my lifetime so far, so I like finding at least one cool item that I know I would like to proudly display on a bookshelf above my computer while traveling. Cool thing too is that it opens up DHV a story, and see if the plate likes to travel too (or has traveled globally).

Also, if you're an artist, photographer, sculpture, glass blowing, etc. proudly display that sh!t. Get a nice glass display or an interesting frame for your work.

 

[exhausted]

Mature men of SoSuave, I have some questions for you about your pad/living quarters. Let's compare lifestyles in the home and best practices. GO!!!

How many suits do you own and what color?
1 black (I should probably up this to 3 and buy a navy and a gray)

3 suits

What are a handful of essentials every man should have?
Multi-tool, set of wine glasses, coffee table books, travel pouch, quality pen, toolbox, set of cufflinks, good cologne, pocket knife, watch, bluetooth speaker/sound system

Tools!!
Wine and whiskey glasses
Leather ottoman not coffee table
Books, movies, records, cds
Numerous Concelable knives 3.5- 7 inches
Home defense, Shotgun, ar15, 9mm
Few colognes
Elite sound system, big screen plasma
Relaxing chilling area, New elegant yet very comfortable couches, women always comment on them.
Rec room is a must, finished basement with pool table, ping pong and gym


This or That, Yes or No?

House vs. Apartment. vs. Mom's basement - Apartment

HOUSE- to a woman u are established, responsible and make decent money

Safety Razor vs. Disposables - Safety

Straight razor, amazon has great deals

Living Room Carpet or Hard wood - Wood + area rug

I have hard wood floors

Shower Caddy vs. Soaps sitting on the tub ledge - Ledge (those damn things never stay

Caddy

Quality hamper (wicker) vs. $5 white plastic bin vs. $1 drawstring bag - Wicker

Hampers should be in closet or out of siggt

TV in bedroom? - Yes (I probably should scrap this)

Yep.

Framed Art vs. Thumbtacked Sports Junk - Both

Art upstairs, in rec room with pool table i have old school boxing posters

Plastic vs. Marble vs Padded toilet seat - White plastic (thinking of upgrading to marble)

Number of Sheet Sets - 2 (should probably own 3-4)

2 is adequate, soft high quality

Empty liquor bottles everywhere - No (this stopped being cool after college)

Never

Live plants - yes, always.

DVD racks - No (I'm down to 10 left on my tiny entertainment center)

Never

Barstools/Island vs. Dinner table - Barstools

Island and barstools in kitchen, table in dining room

Jewelry box - Yes (watches plus some family heirloom rings)

Leather or cloth couch - Leather / Ottoman - Yes / Reclines - No

Cloth, have german shepherd

Curtains vs. Blinds vs. Sheets Thumbtacked over window - Blinds

Curtains!!

Living room TV size - 60" / Smart TV - Yes / Mounted - Yes

Yep

Walls white vs. painted - White (want to paint, too fvcking lazy)

Painted.

Exercise equipment? No (there is a gym on site here)

Have a weight gym and boxing gym

Do you have a view? Yes (3rd floor of an apartment complex overlooking the huge pool)

Home and yes

Now be honest...does your place look more like this

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[dustmuffin]

Mine looks more like #2 but is clean. I don't have a lot of crap, because I don't like crap.

I live in a duplex that I own. I'm remodeling a house for me right now. I will probably decorate it and make it better than what I have now. I really don't care as long as it's clean.

 

[btownbuck2012]

I've got a pad in Brooklyn, New York. Specifically the Bushwick neighborhood. It's essentially a studio apartment. I pay $1,250 a month which is in jeopardy right now because I got canned a few months ago and am eating into my savings right now to pay rent. However, I will die out here before I move back home with mom and dad. I'll be homeless and, again, die before that happens. It's hard finding work though when your previous employee fired you for being a "sexist" in their liberal hillary clinton ass eating eyes.

In my pad I've got a bed, couch, nice shining wood floors, decent kitchen and small bathroom. I've got a dressor and some lights hanging over my windows. Always try to keep the pad clean. I've got a few bottles of scotch and bourbon stacked on the floor. I've got a great painting of abe lincoln with his hand pointed toward the sky after a rally with the american flag behind him that really gives the room a touch of class.

But again, I'm all about keeping the place clean and smelling nice. I'd love a place like that first pic you posted first in your original post but that ain't gonna happen for a while.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

I've got a pad in Brooklyn, New York. Specifically the Bushwick neighborhood. It's essentially a studio apartment. I pay $1,250 a month which is in jeopardy right now because I got canned a few months ago and am eating into my savings right now to pay rent. However, I will die out here before I move back home with mom and dad. I'll be homeless and, again, die before that happens. It's hard finding work though when your previous employee fired you for being a "sexist" in their liberal hillary clinton ass eating eyes.

In my pad I've got a bed, couch, nice shining wood floors, decent kitchen and small bathroom. I've got a dressor and some lights hanging over my windows. Always try to keep the pad clean. I've got a few bottles of scotch and bourbon stacked on the floor. I've got a great painting of abe lincoln with his hand pointed toward the sky after a rally with the american flag behind him that really gives the room a touch of class.

But again, I'm all about keeping the place clean and smelling nice. I'd love a place like that first pic you posted first in your original post but that ain't gonna happen for a while.

Much respect to you. I'd imagine for $1,250 a month in Brooklyn it's pretty basic, but I admire your determination to not move back home. I moved out for the first time when I was 19 (I'm 27 now) and have been on my own for the most part with a few stints back home. One time was a year, the other 6 months, the other 3 months, all with different relatives. It never worked out. I get along with these people much better at a distance.

I pay big cash where I am now given our cost of living. Currently paying $1600 for a 2 bedroom in central Florida, splitting it with a roommate who is pretty good all things considered. I pay $809 but that includes cable, internet, electricity, laundry, parking, and a small gym on site. It's hefty each 1st of the month but I've lived in some garbage heaps before. Dumpsters overflowing, crime ridden, pest control problems. It was either that, moving back home, or paying more for quality. I'm down with minimalism and all that, but sometimes "live below your means" is terrible advice because you get what you pay for.

 

[btownbuck2012]

Much respect to you. I'd imagine for $1,250 a month in Brooklyn it's pretty basic, but I admire your determination to not move back home. I moved out for the first time when I was 19 (I'm 27 now) and have been on my own for the most part with a few stints back home. One time was a year, the other 6 months, the other 3 months, all with different relatives. It never worked out. I get along with these people much better at a distance.

I pay big cash where I am now given our cost of living. Currently paying $1600 for a 2 bedroom in central Florida, splitting it with a roommate who is pretty good all things considered. I pay $809 but that includes cable, internet, electricity, laundry, parking, and a small gym on site. It's hefty each 1st of the month but I've lived in some garbage heaps before. Dumpsters overflowing, crime ridden, pest control problems. It was either that, moving back home, or paying more for quality. I'm down with minimalism and all that, but sometimes "live below your means" is terrible advice because you get what you pay for.

Yeah I agree. I think it's also important for guys like us to realize that we're doing much better than the "on paper" millennial. A-lot of people our age have never left home, are in mounds of debt, etc. This is the new reality for people our age and what success looks like to us at the end of our life will look very different than it did for our parents and grand parents. I'm not saying it will be worse than what they had, it'll just be different. We're paying our dues right now for a better future that we can call our own and that type of thinking is what keeps me motivated and positive on the days when I feel like sh*t.