Sad I missed the boat on young girls..

[Elastoplast]

I'm 31 now, had a mental illness throughout my 20s and was pretty much bed ridden in my mid-20s, I've had no experiences with women, even though I was and am still to some extent a pretty handsome guy. Although I tried my best with my condition I blame myself for my failure with the opposite sex, since I was being approached as a young man but could barely keep myself together.

I'm finding it painful to accept that the boat for girls aged 18-23 has pretty much sailed and that I missed the prime of my life, maybe if I was between 26-28 I could still do something about it. I'm also not interested in girls my age since not only are they less attractive, they have they had fun they are looking for something else now, I refuse to settle for a 2nd rate love life and would rather not participate at all.

Recently when I've gone to the night clubs I used to try to frequent as a young man with an age group of roughty 19-25, I do get odd looks that I never remember as a young man, clearly I'm too old for the scene I wanted to experience, also my age immediately destroys my status in such a place.

What is more it's kind of painful to me that rather than being hit on because you are young, attractive and have a future, if I ever do turn my life around I'll have to rely on money as the crutch (nothing wrong with that but it's not me and not what i wanted to experience).

I do feel too old at 31 to hit on an 18 year old for example, and in the UK society will castrate you for it, even 24 is seen as too young.

Difficult for me to swallow this one, it's an empty unfulfilled major part of my life I can't fulfill anymore.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

This is only in your mind. I am older than you, live in the UK, and was seeing an 18 year old briefly last year. Earlier this year, I was seeing a 21 year old.

There is an age of consent for a reason; because once people get to a certain age, they are allowed to do as they please.

If you sort yourself out and make yourself attractive, there's no reason you can't still date women of any age, within the limits of the law. People might frown on relationships with an age difference, but that is usually just borne from jealousy.

 

[Who Dares Win]

At 31 its still acceptable to go for 24 yrs old girls, Im 31 myself except that thankfully I dont live in the uk which in my experience is one of the worst places for men in terms of dating and sex.

Can relate with the "not interested in girls my age", they are ugly as fvck most of the times, overweight, lost part of their femininity, are often jaded due to someone some league higher who pumped and dumped them and probably alpha widowed them too.

You basically get a used broken car at ful price while those who broke it had mid term rent for free.

Agree also on the "who are you part", at our age we can clearly feel as girls weight us according to our job and wealth, sometime I feel like an apple in a market that get hold and touched from women to see if its the right size and consistence...even on tinder the first goddman question was "whats your job".

Some guy here will tell you that age doesnt matter and that he still scores 18yrs old girls at 50, credit to him but personally I wouldnt feel that relaxed to deal with someone that probably doesnt even realize whats going on, knows nothing about movies or media I like, and has basically a group of friends who make it all more complicate for us.

 

[Desdinova]

I'm 31 now
I'm finding it painful to accept that the boat for girls aged 18-23 has pretty much sailed and that I missed the prime of my life,

You missed nothing. I dated women in that age range throughout my 30s. I'm on the verge of turning 39 and my current GF is 23. I initially banged her when she was 21. I've also dated women younger than her.

A man's 30s are the best years to be single. There is a very wide age range of women to date. You can go from age 18-40 and have a lot of fun doing it.

Recently when I've gone to the night clubs

Then quit going to night clubs and meet women elsewhere. There is no law that says you can only date women you meet in night clubs.

What is more it's kind of painful to me that rather than being hit on because you are young, attractive and have a future, if I ever do turn my life around I'll have to rely on money as the crutch

Where the fvck are you getting these dumb ideas from? I'm a cheap ass motherfvcker when I begin dating any woman. They have to prove that they're worthy of me spending money on them.

I do feel too old at 31 to hit on an 18 year old for example

You make it sound as if you're a creepy old man. Here a hint... Don't act like a creepy old man and 18 year olds won't see you as a creepy old man. If you are exciting and fun to be around, women will gravitate toward you regardless of your age.

 

[Elastoplast]

That's not my experience, top tier young hotties that I could have got as a young man have no interest in me anymore - because my age rules me out.

Then quit going to night clubs and meet women elsewhere. There is no law that says you can only date women you meet in night clubs.

Except for this is where you get the concentration of the hottest birds and is the environment I tried to experience as a young man - and would still like to experience.

P.S. I have posted this thread elsewhere as well to get a wide range of opinions.

 

[Bingo-Player]

is this some sort of joke !?!

at 31 you ARE in the prime of your life , to be honest this could continue to 51 easily if you look after yourself correctly

chicks dont really give a fvck as long as you make her pu$$y tingle and have all your sh1t in order ,

she will let you smash doesnt matter how old you are

get your game up to speed , get a good haircut and some nice clothes and get out there pull some birds

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

top tier young hotties that I could have got as a young man have no interest in me anymore - because my age rules me out.

This is bullsh!t. The two women I spoke about above were about as hot as you'll see. Like 8-9 /10. If you're telling yourself that you're going to fail, you already have.

 

[bigneil]

Is this a woman talking again?

Don't listen to Olly (aka Jaylan) but:

*When I was 31 I was dating an 18 year old bikini model who won a statewide bikini contest that year.
*When I was 31 I was also dating the arch rival of the bikini contest winner, a girl she had a fist fight with in high school the year before.
*When I was 35 I was dating another 18 year old.
*When I was 41 I was dating a 19 year old (2.5 years).
*When I was 46 I slept with both a 19 year old and 20 year old beauty queen.

At this rate I will be dating women under 25 for the rest of my life. Sorry, Olly.

 

[Roober]

Agreed with everyone else here. I think 30's are dating prime! You can pull between 18-40+. I aim for 24-29, since they have typically put their heavy party years behind them.

 

[SteR]

Self-limiting belief. There's absolutely no reason you can't date younger women if you want to.

 

[RedZone]

To be honest, dating is probably better in your 30's than in your 20's anyway.

 

[Elastoplast]

I've been rejected for being too old not just in real life but online (where I should note I had my old photos on when I looked young).

Some girl even apologised that she thought I was younger and didn't notice my age online. This is all 19-20 range. So that's the litmus test there.

So while it's possible I can't see the odds being on the side of a 30+ year old. Besides there is the social aspect as well I wanted to experience i.e. socialising and then meeting a girl you like and hooking up, it's not natural for a 31 year old to be socialising with a bunch of 20 year olds. It also doesn't feel natural to me to be 31 banging an 18 year old, but kudos to you if you are the guy who has no issue with this.

 

[wifehunter]

I'm 43 (I've been told I look 23, 25, and mid thirties). I eat with nutrition in mind. Also, lots of water helps. My oily skin won't wrinkle for some reason or another.

My last lady was 19, and I met her when she was 18.

No, you didn't miss any boats! Take care of yourself!

 

[Elastoplast]

I just don't get this, really don't. Maybe it's like this in the States and comes with being monied and picking up chicks who aren't.

I'm in the UK and being 5 years older for a young girl is a deal breaker. So after 25 its bye bye.

After 25 you start to age out of the bar and club scene and start being considered as old you also start hearing the "your old line". I've never met anyone older than 30 in these places like the red pill claims.

 

[wifehunter]

I just don't get this, really don't. Maybe it's like this in the States and comes with being monied and picking up chicks who aren't.

I'm in the UK and being 5 years older for a young girl is a deal breaker. So after 25 its bye bye.

After 25 you start to age out of the bar and club scene and start being considered as old you also start hearing the "your old line". I've never met anyone older than 30 in these places like the red pill claims.

The club scene and bar scene are not my thing. I do talk to young girls 18-25 regularly at my local department and grocery stores.

Key word: Barriers

Club/bar chicks are super stuck up from all the low value attention they get. And, most of the guys there are low quality, throw away.

Like the "I have a boyfriend" line, the age barrier is just an obstacle they use to keep older disgusting guys away.

 

[Trump]

- I'm 31 now, had a mental illness throughout my 20s - pretty much bed ridden in my mid-20s,
- I've had no experiences with women
- I'm finding it painful to accept that the boat for girls aged 18-23 has pretty much sailed
- I'm also not interested in girls my age since not only are they less attractive, they have they had fun they are looking for something else now,
- I refuse to settle for a 2nd rate love life
- I do feel too old at 31 to hit on an 18 year old for example, and in the UK society will castrate you for it, even 24 is seen as too young.

Difficult for me to swallow this one, it's an empty unfulfilled major part of my life I can't fulfill anymore.

Come on bro, you trying to blame young girls for not recognizing how awesome you are in 30s because you wasted your 20s. It's not their fault.

Instead of blaming the customer, create a need or improve your product. Don't wallow in self pity because no one is recognizing how awesome your product is.

 

[Elastoplast]

Come on bro, you trying to blame young girls for not recognizing how awesome you are in 30s because you wasted your 20s. It's not their fault.

Instead of blaming the customer, create a need or improve your product. Don't wallow in self pity because no one is recognizing how awesome your product is.

I don't blame them at all, it's not about me it's an observation, there simply are no 30 year olds in these clubs hooking up with young girls.

Even a perfect 30 year old will be outgunned by a handsome young 21 year old with old money.

 

[wifehunter]

I don't blame them at all, it's not about me it's an observation, there simply are no 30 year olds in these clubs hooking up with young girls.

Even a perfect 30 year old will be outgunned by a handsome young 21 year old with old money.

Money money money... Life is more than money! Ditch these gold diggers!

 

[Infern0]

Henry cavill was going out with a 19 year old all year and nobody gave 2 ****s (he's 33)

But he's not putting up imaginary obstacles in his own head.

Don't see him getting "outgunned by 21 year olds"

 

[Who Dares Win]

Henry cavill was going out with a 19 year old all year and nobody gave 2 ****s (he's 33)

But he's not putting up imaginary obstacles in his own head.

Well the guy from lord of the rings and game of thorones too, but again celebrity status weights as much as the right height, a squared jaw, broad shoulders and a full head of hair all togheter.

I believe op at the most could star in a tv show as public.