Girl repsonse when I ask for her for coffee

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escaleraroyal

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In text conversation:

Me: Let's grab a coffee at starbucks.
Her reply: LOL


Not sure what that means.
Still trying to figure out how to overcome that.
I rather have a girl not reply at all than LOL me.

My theories about her response:
- Not enough rapport
- She doesn't feel safe
- She is broke
- She is lazy (it's cloudy and wet outside)
- She is really busy
- Still uncomfortable seeing me in person
- I'm making her feel too horny that She is afraid that she can't control herself when she sees me
 
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da dynamically said:
It's always low interest. 99% of guys sticking point is because of low interest. When dealing with a highly interested woman, you don't feel like you need a damn PHD in female psychology.

If you are a relatively cool guy, there are enough women out there with high interest for you. Don't waste time trying to calibrate to low interested women. It will mess up your calibration/self-esteem. You will run into a highly interested woman and think "It's too good to be true. There MUST BE A CATCH!!!! Women can't be this easy!!!"

For a woman with high interest, YES, it really IS easy!
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Your right... With the right woman for YOU it's not a lot of hard work.
 
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She not a b!tch, or on the fence, or playing games, she just isn't interested in you. There is a small chance that she is interested in you and is playing games, but the chance of that happening is small. But it really doesn't matter, the correct response is that you just ignore her and move on.
 
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escaleraroyal said:
In text conversation:

Me: Let's grab a coffee at starbucks.
Her reply: LOL


Not sure what that means.
Still trying to figure out how to overcome that.
I rather have a girl not reply at all than LOL me.

My theories about her response:
- Not enough rapport
- She doesn't feel safe
- She is broke
- She is lazy (it's cloudy and wet outside)
- She is really busy
- Still uncomfortable seeing me in person
- I'm making her feel too horny that She is afraid that she can't control herself when she sees me
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Lol = no thanks. I just don't have the balls to be honest and say no.

Remember anything except a "yes!" Is a no


Wanna go for a coffee?

"Um not sure if im busy or not" = no
"Maybe. I will let you know" = no
"I have to check my schedule" = no
"I have an appointment." = no
"My aunt bunny is sick." = no
"Lol." Hopefully he can take a hint aks no.

Anything except "yes" is low interest unless there is a counteroffer. Everything else you next.
 
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da dynamically said:
It's always low interest. 99% of guys sticking point is because of low interest. When dealing with a highly interested woman, you don't feel like you need a damn PHD in female psychology.

If you are a relatively cool guy, there are enough women out there with high interest for you. Don't waste time trying to calibrate to low interested women. It will mess up your calibration/self-esteem. You will run into a highly interested woman and think "It's too good to be true. There MUST BE A CATCH!!!! Women can't be this easy!!!"

For a woman with high interest, YES, it really IS easy!
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Spot on.

If a woman is difficult or confusing its because she either has low interest or she is a high maintenance/insecure b!tch. It doesn't matter which one it is.. your response should be the same: Hit the eject button. The same rules apply once a relationship is established. Men should learn to notice AND accept when a woman has lost interest rather than degrading himself by trying to "reverse it".

Remember.. if you're not having FUN its because you have no leverage. If you have no leverage its because a woman doesn't like you. Remember that women don't have to like you to keep you around. Women love collecting men (orbiters) to boost their ego's and for backup plans.

Never try to force relationships on people. When someone wants you around they WORK to keep you around. Doesn't matter if you just met or if you've known them for years.
 
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escaleraroyal said:
In text conversation:

Me: Let's grab a coffee at starbucks.
Her reply: LOL


Not sure what that means.
Still trying to figure out how to overcome that.
I rather have a girl not reply at all than LOL me.

My theories about her response:
- Not enough rapport
- She doesn't feel safe
- She is broke
- She is lazy (it's cloudy and wet outside)
- She is really busy
- Still uncomfortable seeing me in person
- I'm making her feel too horny that She is afraid that she can't control herself when she sees me
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she kinda sounds like a b!tch unless these quotes are completely out of context and make more sense in context

i'd say that you have zero chance with her at the moment, if you literally just met and only talked to her for like a few minutes or a few texts then that's probably salvageable, maybe.

if you guys have spent any amount of time talking or knowing each other then you probably won't have any chance unless something radically changes (which would either take many months or a miracle)

i do like the idea of making theories though, don't ever stop doing that, it's good to look at where you went wrong. don't use your theories as a way to delude yourself into avoiding reality, but it's good to consider what you messed up so you can do better with the NEXT girl (because you generally can't completely recover from major mistakes with a girl unless she just didn't notice or doesn't care)
 
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I think you should keep her number and try and convince her that YOu are THE guy for her.

Do anything you can to appease her and lavish attention on her.

Repeatedly ask her out and - this is important - if she keeps rejecting you, NEVER give up!

One day, maybe, just maybe, she will say yes.

Good luck fella. Let us all know how it goes.
 
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HeadLightsOn said:
I think you should keep her number and try and convince her that YOu are THE guy for her.

Do anything you can to appease her and lavish attention on her.

Repeatedly ask her out and - this is important - if she keeps rejecting you, NEVER give up!

One day, maybe, just maybe, she will say yes.

Good luck fella. Let us all know how it goes.
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Don't forget to buy her a lot of gifts too!
 
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