F'd up and need help fixing it...

[Jediknight888]

So I went after a girl who was in a LT relationship. The guy she is with is a complete loser but she seems to be totally hung up on him. Anyway I used a lot of tips from this set and everything was going well with her. I was slowly stealing her away. We started hanging out more and more and finally slept together. We had then actually talked about becoming official as she said she had dumped her bf. However, I caught her with him a few days later and realized she had not been totally honest. The f'd up part is that I've never gotten to actually talk to her. She just dissappeared out of my life. I'm now limited to contacting her through email which is lame. And I'll admit ver the last few months I have contacted her way too much. I'll let a month go by with no contact then I'll write 5 or 6 emails. Typically little to no response. Sometimes she'll write me but she'll find a way to play it off like she's contacting me for some other reason. Now she's just shut me down totally. Blocked on all social media. No response to emails. The problem is that I really do like this girl and I her BF is such a loser/x-con. I'm a good looking doctor so it's kinda ****ed me up that I got dropped for such a loser. Help....how do I get her to open up again?

 

[sazc]

It's over. Unless you want to look like a total beta male chimp, you need to move on.

She fvkked with you, why would you want to waste your time on her?

 

[Jediknight888]

Thx.

 

[dude99]

So I went after a girl who was in a LT relationship. The guy she is with is a complete loser but she seems to be totally hung up on him. Anyway I used a lot of tips from this set and everything was going well with her. I was slowly stealing her away. We started hanging out more and more and finally slept together. We had then actually talked about becoming official as she said she had dumped her bf. However, I caught her with him a few days later and realized she had not been totally honest. The f'd up part is that I've never gotten to actually talk to her. She just dissappeared out of my life. I'm now limited to contacting her through email which is lame. And I'll admit ver the last few months I have contacted her way too much. I'll let a month go by with no contact then I'll write 5 or 6 emails. Typically little to no response. Sometimes she'll write me but she'll find a way to play it off like she's contacting me for some other reason. Now she's just shut me down totally. Blocked on all social media. No response to emails. The problem is that I really do like this girl and I her BF is such a loser/x-con. I'm a good looking doctor so it's kinda ****ed me up that I got dropped for such a loser. Help....how do I get her to open up again?

You don't. You find one that is interested and stop chasing girls who aren't

 

[Roober]

He's an alpha and you are not!

Most losers embrace the alpha nature of treating women to the extreme. And lots of women out there love it. They will complain about it over and over and over and over, but stay with the guy... They know he does not give two $hits about them, so the man in that situation has all the power. It's not healthy at all, but only when he finally does something terrible, will she recognize it...

 

[Jediknight888]

He's an alpha and you are not!

Most losers embrace the alpha nature of treating women to the extreme. And lots of women out there love it. They will complain about it over and over and over and over, but stay with the guy... They know he does not give two $hits about them, so the man in that situation has all the power. It's not healthy at all, but only when he finally does something terrible, will she recognize it...

I think it's just cause she thinks he's her project that she can't give up on fixing him. She complained to me once about him caller her names and getting physical with her. At the end when she started acting bitchy towards me I called her the same names and it's funny how I was such a prick for saying the exact same things to her but there was no sin too great for this other guy. Hard to figure out. Anyway it's over. Thanks for the replies. On to the 60 day challenge!

 

[JohnChops]

Prime example of why you never wife up a cheater. If a girl is cheating on her current BF with YOU and then YOU wife her up, she will cheat on you. I know plenty of docs, some beta and some are as alpha as they can be, occupation doesn't mean jack ****. Why are you putting the boyfriend down? He's the one railing the girl you tried to "steal" from him. Move on. It's over. Don't make the mistake again.

 

[wifehunter]

Triangles are never fun.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So I went after a girl who was in a LT relationship. The guy she is with is a complete loser but she seems to be totally hung up on him. Anyway I used a lot of tips from this set and everything was going well with her. I was slowly stealing her away. We started hanging out more and more and finally slept together. We had then actually talked about becoming official as she said she had dumped her bf. However, I caught her with him a few days later and realized she had not been totally honest. The f'd up part is that I've never gotten to actually talk to her. She just dissappeared out of my life. I'm now limited to contacting her through email which is lame. And I'll admit ver the last few months I have contacted her way too much. I'll let a month go by with no contact then I'll write 5 or 6 emails. Typically little to no response. Sometimes she'll write me but she'll find a way to play it off like she's contacting me for some other reason. Now she's just shut me down totally. Blocked on all social media. No response to emails. The problem is that I really do like this girl and I her BF is such a loser/x-con. I'm a good looking doctor so it's kinda ****ed me up that I got dropped for such a loser. Help....how do I get her to open up again?

Thing about it, is sometimes they are with someone like them or cheat on you with someone more like them. So you can't call him a loser per say, maybe she is a loser.

 

[Jediknight888]

Thx all. Consider thread closed.

 

[Jediknight888]

You are calling the ex a total looser, here yet, you are making poor choices yourself.

Perhaps. There is also a lot more to this story then what I have shared. She was 21 I am 34. She was an assistant working for my wife and I. My wife and I seperated. She saw this and decided to go after me. I lost respect for the guy BC she told me on several occasions he got physical with her and she had bought a BB bat to keep under her bed BC she was so afraid of him. You can call it alpha or whatever you want to. To me that's a loser.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Perhaps. There is also a lot more to this story then what I have shared. She was 21 I am 34. She was an assistant working for my wife and I. My wife and I seperated. She saw this and decided to go after me. I lost respect for the guy BC she told me on several occasions he got physical with her and she had bought a BB bat to keep under her bed BC she was so afraid of him. You can call it alpha or whatever you want to. To me that's a loser.

If wife meets your needs and attractive to you get back with her. Messing with girls like this can destroy your life. All you've worked for.

 

[Jediknight888]

I'm really not trying to get her back. My wife and I are back together and she's pregnant and everything is great. It still bugs me though that this girl I hung out with at work everyday and some nights just said f u one day and now it's to the point that we're enemies. I've chalked it up to her being young and hurt by the whole thing even though she called it off. IDK. We both said perhaps in the future if things don't work out with my wife or if she has problems well be in touch. But now I reach out and say hope all is well and it's "leave me the f alone you f ING creep." It's just really taken me back. Literally went from sleeping together to that type of response.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Read this, re-read it, and then re-read it again until you fully grasp this.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/thread...life-as-a-man-when-it-comes-to-dating.237707/

 

[sazc]

Triangles are never fun.

Ohhhh idk.... Old Hippies Always High On Acid was a really fun mnemonic (if you went to school in Santa Cruz, Ca )

 

[Jediknight888]

Very good thanks.

 

[sazc]

I'm really not trying to get her back. My wife and I are back together and she's pregnant and everything is great. It still bugs me though that this girl I hung out with at work everyday and some nights just said f u one day and now it's to the point that we're enemies. I've chalked it up to her being young and hurt by the whole thing even though she called it off. IDK. We both said perhaps in the future if things don't work out with my wife or if she has problems well be in touch. But now I reach out and say hope all is well and it's "leave me the f alone you f ING creep." It's just really taken me back. Literally went from sleeping together to that type of response.

OMFG if you could just listen to yourself......
She's a douche and you're butthurt. Fvck her. People are a$$holes, quit trying to sort that $hit out. SHE has issues, its that simple, and enough said. Move on and focus on your wife and that baby. Stop wasting your emotional energy spinning on some fvcked up chick. Make your marriage strong so your baby will grow up solid.