Consistently good behavior is Rare.

[wifehunter]

Walk away... It's the default setting for keeping your life a drama free zone. If you expect to get used and abused, you won't be surprised.

But, what if that rare girl comes into your life?

 

[Atom Smasher]

That's what those of us relationship-minded men are looking for... that rare 2%. I've got one in my life right now, and she's a gem. I've developed a highly refined "radar" system, and have indeed rejected every woman I've been with in my 59 years until now. None of them were good enough for me, but this one meets my requirements in spades, because she values femininity and masculinity.

By far, most women today are internally destroyed, emotionally and intellectually. I easily think it's 98% or thereabouts. But the 2% is out there. When you catch one, you know it.

I've walked away for most of my life, just as you suggest, because I would rather die alone than be with the wrong one. Now that I'm a bit older (though still in better shape than I was in my 30s), I've developed an eye toward settling down. But that is appropriate for my stage in life. I advise the younger ones to hold off on marriage until 30s or 40s at the earliest, and to NEVER cohabitate with a woman before marriage.

It really is a numbers game, and the pickin's are slim. Like in anything else, patience and perseverance pays off.

 

[wifehunter]

That's what those of us relationship-minded men are looking for... that rare 2%. I've got one in my life right now, and she's a gem. I've developed a highly refined "radar" system, and have indeed rejected every woman I've been with in my 59 years until now. None of them were good enough for me, but this one meets my requirements in spades, because she values femininity and masculinity.

By far, most women today are internally destroyed, emotionally and intellectually. I easily think it's 98% or thereabouts. But the 2% is out there. When you catch one, you know it.

I've walked away for most of my life, just as you suggest, because I would rather die alone than be with the wrong one. Now that I'm a bit older (though still in better shape than I was in my 30s), I've developed an eye toward settling down. But that is appropriate for my stage in life. I advise the younger ones to hold off on marriage until 30s or 40s at the earliest, and to NEVER cohabitate with a woman before marriage.

It really is a numbers game, and the pickin's are slim. Like in anything else, patience and perseverance pays off.

Thanks! This stuff gets exhausting. I'm getting my second wind now!

 

[mrgoodstuff]

After you had enough "bad" ones a good sweet one will literally make your c0ck hard. They really do want the best for you.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

That's what those of us relationship-minded men are looking for... that rare 2%. I've got one in my life right now, and she's a gem. I've developed a highly refined "radar" system, and have indeed rejected every woman I've been with in my 59 years until now. None of them were good enough for me, but this one meets my requirements in spades, because she values femininity and masculinity.

By far, most women today are internally destroyed, emotionally and intellectually. I easily think it's 98% or thereabouts. But the 2% is out there. When you catch one, you know it.

I've walked away for most of my life, just as you suggest, because I would rather die alone than be with the wrong one. Now that I'm a bit older (though still in better shape than I was in my 30s), I've developed an eye toward settling down. But that is appropriate for my stage in life. I advise the younger ones to hold off on marriage until 30s or 40s at the earliest, and to NEVER cohabitate with a woman before marriage.

It really is a numbers game, and the pickin's are slim. Like in anything else, patience and perseverance pays off.

How old is she and how and when did you meet her?

Also, what if you find a gem really early on? Say in your 20s for example. Are you supposed to just let some other scrub wife her up and while I would be left searching for that gem again until decades later? This is a dilemma I have often contemplated about.

 

[bigneil]

After you establish attraction and rapport (a few weeks period where the man does most of the pursuing) she should start to do most of the texting.

Always be walking away and only stay with the ones who pull you back. I always have one foot out the door and my girls have learned this.

Examples:

0) Never send date reminders.
1) If she is 15 minutes late, you say "we should do this another night". Make her work to convince you otherwise.
2) If she does something you really don't like, wait until she reaches out and then tell her "I really like you, but I had to consider walking away when (that) happened".
3) If she doesn't reply to your date invitation, politely withdraw the offer.
4) After dates, don't contact her until she thanks you.
5) Never say anything negative or spiteful. She is either great, or you leave her for someone who is great.
6) Never complain, never explain.
7) Occasionally blow her off.
8) Occasionally sneak out on her without saying goodbye.
9) Be independent - what state will you move to next?
10) Give her the time of her life when she does everything right.

Bottom line - she needs to know she can lose you.

 

[Atom Smasher]

How old is she and how and when did you meet her?

Also, what if you find a gem really early on? Say in your 20s for example. Are you supposed to just let some other scrub wife her up and while I would be left searching for that gem again until decades later? This is a dilemma I have often contemplated about.

For the past few years I've been dating women in their thirties. My present girlfriend is 58, but an absolute stunner. This is no exaggeration. She is thin, with a perfect shape, and truly looks liked she's in her thirties (as do I, in fact). She's got one of those friendly smiles that lights up a room. You can see her inner spirit just by looking at her.

We met on Christian Mingle, and here is the place where my experience becomes somewhat unique... We share a very strong faith together, and hence our spiritual values are virtually the same. This goes a LONG way toward compatibility.

On Christian Mingle I simply put up a very well-designed profile and let them approach me. I've been "Nexting" women for years. Suddenly, out of nowhere, she contacted me with a smile, saying "Nice profile". For the first couple exchanges she bored the pants off me, but then things got exciting as I brought her out of her shyness.

I've hit the mother lode, for sure, but it took 44 years to do so. Your mileage may vary.

</brag_post>

I've often thought about the "finding a gem in your 20s" phenomenon as well. I'm not sure how to answer that. How many men in their twenties think she's a "gem" until they get married? Does a man in his 20s posses enough discernment to know this at such a young age? I would say that perhaps this could be the case if the young man in his 20s is "red pill", to use the lingo.

I think that the good ones do get married off early, but mostly to betas. So when a non-beta, educated young man discerns that he has one of the rare gems in his sites, he should investigate marriage if he is inclined in that way. He must be absolutely, 100% convinced that she is a one-in-a-million though

Here on SS we should know how to thoroughly vet a potential mate. She must pass a lot of tests in order to qualify. She must be an obvious 2-percenter that you would be a fool to let go.

Edit: You asked when I met her. 6 months ago in-person and 9 months ago in writing.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

For the past few years I've been dating women in their thirties. My present girlfriend is 58, but an absolute stunner. This is no exaggeration. She is thin, with a perfect shape, and truly looks liked she's in her thirties (as do I, in fact). She's got one of those friendly smiles that lights up a room. You can see her inner spirit just by looking at her.

We met on Christian Mingle, and here is the place where my experience becomes somewhat unique... We share a very strong faith together, and hence our spiritual values are virtually the same. This goes a LONG way toward compatibility.

On Christian Mingle I simply put up a very well-designed profile and let them approach me. I've been "Nexting" women for years. Suddenly, out of nowhere, she contacted me with a smile, saying "Nice profile". For the first couple exchanges she bored the pants off me, but then things got exciting as I brought her out of her shyness.

I've hit the mother lode, for sure, but it took 44 years to do so. Your mileage may vary.

</brag_post>

I've often thought about the "finding a gem in your 20s" phenomenon as well. I'm not sure how to answer that. How many men in their twenties think she's a "gem" until they get married? Does a man in his 20s posses enough discernment to know this at such a young age? I would say that perhaps this could be the case if the young man in his 20s is "red pill", to use the lingo.

I think that the good ones do get married off early, but mostly to betas. So when a non-beta, educated young man discerns that he has one of the rare gems in his sites, he should investigate marriage if he is inclined in that way. He must be absolutely, 100% convinced that she is a one-in-a-million though

Here on SS we should know how to thoroughly vet a potential mate. She must pass a lot of tests in order to qualify. She must be an obvious 2-percenter that you would be a fool to let go.

Edit: You asked when I met her. 6 months ago in-person and 9 months ago in writing.

Well they don't have to be a "gem", but you need to be attracted, she has to be loyal and she has to WANT to work with you specifically. You can grow together. How many of us where perfect gem's in our 20's?

 

[Scars]

Most women feel like a "gem" at first, until they feel betrayed and lose trust. A woman doesn't even need a good reason either. I've had what I thought were "good gems" and flipped the script as soon as they got comfortable. I guess that's why they say you need to date through all the seasons before marriage so you know exactly what you're getting yourself into. Even then, a girl can fake the act for a very, very long time.

 

[Atom Smasher]

There is a real advantage to being older. You pick up on this stuff with internal radar that seems supernatural to younger men. I get it that the long-term quality of a younger women is difficult to discern. I don't even consider them actual adults until about age 33.

The term, "gem" refers to the raw material. Have you ever seen a real gem in the natural before it is polished? It looks like any other rock. It's up to us to discern what kind of material she's made of, and then to polish her to the shine that WE want.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Exactly

 

[Konada]

For the past few years I've been dating women in their thirties. My present girlfriend is 58, but an absolute stunner. This is no exaggeration. She is thin, with a perfect shape, and truly looks liked she's in her thirties (as do I, in fact). She's got one of those friendly smiles that lights up a room. You can see her inner spirit just by looking at her.

We met on Christian Mingle, and here is the place where my experience becomes somewhat unique... We share a very strong faith together, and hence our spiritual values are virtually the same. This goes a LONG way toward compatibility.

On Christian Mingle I simply put up a very well-designed profile and let them approach me. I've been "Nexting" women for years. Suddenly, out of nowhere, she contacted me with a smile, saying "Nice profile". For the first couple exchanges she bored the pants off me, but then things got exciting as I brought her out of her shyness.

I've hit the mother lode, for sure, but it took 44 years to do so. Your mileage may vary.

</brag_post>

I've often thought about the "finding a gem in your 20s" phenomenon as well. I'm not sure how to answer that. How many men in their twenties think she's a "gem" until they get married? Does a man in his 20s posses enough discernment to know this at such a young age? I would say that perhaps this could be the case if the young man in his 20s is "red pill", to use the lingo.

I think that the good ones do get married off early, but mostly to betas. So when a non-beta, educated young man discerns that he has one of the rare gems in his sites, he should investigate marriage if he is inclined in that way. He must be absolutely, 100% convinced that she is a one-in-a-million though

Here on SS we should know how to thoroughly vet a potential mate. She must pass a lot of tests in order to qualify. She must be an obvious 2-percenter that you would be a fool to let go.

Edit: You asked when I met her. 6 months ago in-person and 9 months ago in writing.

My interest is in the bolded phrase. Correct me if I'm wrong but you took 3 months to finally meet her? That definitely goes against the grain if that's the case, what made you discern that this time it was different?

 

[Atom Smasher]

2.5, to be exact. I was in no hurry to meet her. We live 4 hours apart. I was in the mood to just practice my writing skills and see the results. After I met her and saw her a few times I realized she was definitely worth pursuing.

Some people just radiate a quality personality. It is so much ingrained in them that it radiates out and makes itself known. I noticed that right away. I observed that she was feminine, intelligent yet submissive, completely a one-man woman, has a servant's heart, a giving spirit, voices how she feels but is non-argumentative, always looks to herself to see where she might be wrong in any conflict (we've had no serious conflicts at all), holds herself accountable for her words and actions, is thin, hot and young-looking. She has a strong faith in God. All of these things are critically important to me. She also carries herself with poise and feminine gentleness. I'm probably missing a few things here but that's enough to convey how she stands out among her peers.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

2.5, to be exact. I was in no hurry to meet her. We live 4 hours apart. I was in the mood to just practice my writing skills and see the results. After I met her and saw her a few times I realized she was definitely worth pursuing.

Some people just radiate a quality personality. It is so much ingrained in them that it radiates out and makes itself known. I noticed that right away. I observed that she was feminine, intelligent yet submissive, completely a one-man woman, has a servant's heart, a giving spirit, voices how she feels but is non-argumentative, always looks to herself to see where she might be wrong in any conflict (we've had no serious conflicts at all), holds herself accountable for her words and actions, is thin, hot and young-looking. She has a strong faith in God. All of these things are critically important to me. She also carries herself with poise and feminine gentleness. I'm probably missing a few things here but that's enough to convey how she stands out among her peers.

Sounds like a winner.

It's all too easy to harp on about 'AWALT', as so many do. Guys who go on and on about how all women are just worthless trash are just being bratty, butthurt, ignorant or spiteful; usually a combination thereof.

Smart guys, those who have enough experience with women know they are not 'all like that'. It's the biggest loads of boll0cks I've ever heard. Sure, finding, attracting and keeping a good woman is not easy. But saying they don't exist at all is simply a hallmark of low-value martyr who's not willing to put in the effort.

Good for you, AS.

 

[Poon King]

Walk away... It's the default setting for keeping your life a drama free zone. If you expect to get used and abused, you won't be surprised.

But, what if that rare girl comes into your life?

Just make sure you never forget the following:

• "Rare girl" = Pedestalization
• Pedestalalization = Man loses leverage in relationship
• Man loses leverage = Man becomes co-dependent faggot
• Man becomes faggot = Woman loses interest
• Woman loses interest = Woman leaves
• Woman leaves = Man suffers

Is it ever worth it to pedestalize certain women? My personal opinion is NO.. but every man must make the choice himself.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I would say that finding the rare woman who is in the upper 2% of quality and enjoying a relationship with her is not pedestalization if he is a man of knowledge (so-called "red pill" knowledge).

Such a man takes great care to maintain his leverage as he keeps her in dread of losing him. He, on the other hand, knows that he can live just fine without her.

Men without that knowledge are at the mercy of the dynamic you outline here.

 

[Poon King]

I would say that finding the rare woman who is in the upper 2% of quality and enjoying a relationship with her is not pedestalization if he is a man of knowledge (so-called "red pill" knowledge).

Such a man takes great care to maintain his leverage as he keeps her in dread of losing him. He, on the other hand, knows that he can live just fine without her.

Men without that knowledge are at the mercy of the dynamic you outline here.

Indeed.

Also many women will play the part of "quality" to snag a man. What Red Pill men need to remember is that once her behavior changes its clear her "quality" mask was nothing more than a mask. However, most men lose their sh!t and start kissing ass because they still see her as "quality". Thus, they take the blame for her change in behavior rather than just losing interest in her as they should.

Wisdom is so important.

 

[wifehunter]

If I'm the head, I'm the one on the pedestal.

It's the natural design of it.