Dealing with turning 30

[Infern0]

I got 4 months to go....

Obviously I know it doesn't really mean anything but I'd be lying if I said it wasn't getting to me.

I've been making up for lost time since I was an AFC until the age of 28. Most of my friends are like 23-26, although I look young for my age so most people assume I'm mid 20s .

I've been seeing an 18 year old and it's bad enough at 29, but as a 30 year old...

I don't know the point of this thread but is it normal to be bummed out a bit? I feel like I wasted most of my 20s. Now i am fairly seasoned as a DJ and in tge best shape if my life and I'm NO way ready to settle down in the burbs and start a family haha.

 

[Desdinova]

I've been seeing an 18 year old and it's bad enough at 29, but as a 30 year old...

What's bad about it? I dated a 19 year old when I was 35. I'm 38 now and dating a 23 year old. Don't let society's "creepy old man" label get to you. You're only a "creepy old man" if you're desperately seeking female attention. You avoid the "creepy old man" label if you're genuinely fun and interesting.

I don't know the point of this thread but is it normal to be bummed out a bit? I feel like I wasted most of my 20s. Now i am fairly seasoned as a DJ and in tge best shape if my life and I'm NO way ready to settle down in the burbs and start a family haha.

My 30s have been full of pvssy. More pvssy than my 20s. You still have at least a good full decade ahead of you. The best part about your 30s is you have a very wide age range of women to choose from, which means you have more women at your disposal. At age 20, your age range is usually somewhere from 18-23. At age 35, your age range is 18-40. If you're childless, you can easily fill every day of your week with a different woman.

If you ever get to the point of wanting to settle down, the age range you'll want to focus on is 18-23. You can certainly still date these women in your 30s.

You have absolutely nothing to worry about for your 30s. There's more pvssy at your disposal than in your 20s.

 

[Glassguy]

I have 7 months left of my 30's lol.

My 30's have been full of pvssy. Currently I am hanging out with a 26 yr old who looks like a Victoria Secrets model (small tits and everything), and two 28 year olds, both HB8s.

Work out, stay busy and they will come.Luckily I look like I am only 28-30, and 40 is the new 30.

Most younger chicks who are worth their salt like dating older guys because we are more secure and they think we are more trustworthy than the fvckboys they are used to dating.

I think you'll be fine as long as you are taking care of you.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Being there recently, after couple of weeks after your birthday you will think about how you feel now and laught about it.

What really matters is what you look like, better be a 35 yrs old guy who looks 25 than the other way around.

Regarding women what you get depends on your value and look surely not on a number written in your passport.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

I'm 51 and turning 30 bothered me more than any other decade birthday. However, I got way more p*ssy in my 30's than I ever did in my 20's and 90% of the best sexual situations that I've been involved in happened in my 30's and 40's. I'm in a more quiet period in my life now, so it's too early to judge my 50's but I find that most women just elicit a yawn from me, especially when they are trying to shock or titillate me with offers of exotic sex. All I see now is just another head case with the same clam that billions of other women have and find that it's not worth the drama or risk to actually pursue these offers.
Call it wisdom or call it grace, there is a natural trajectory of maturation that occurs with age that will enable you to make better choices with women as your life progresses.

 

[zekko]

Whenever you enter a new decade I think there's a small adjustment to be made. It's normal to feel some reluctance because you are literally losing your identity. You're exchanging your identity as a guy in your 20s for an identity as a man in your 30s. The good news is that while you are losing a few minor youthful attributes, overall your 30s are far better than your 20s. For most people.

By the way your 40s are great, too. I'm halfway my 50s now and I'm enjoying them greatly, but it's a different type of thing than previous decades.

 

[SteR]

Made the exact same thread when I was about to turn 30 too, haha: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/getting-anxious-about-turning-30.206409/

I'm nearly 33 now and have to say the last ~3 years have been the best of my life, hands down. @zekko told me at the time I had nothing to worry about and he was right

Now I just worry about when the good times are going to slow down..

 

[Filter]

26 here, so I've got some time yet.

One thing I will say is that a lot of strength athletes peak in their early-mid thirties. Lots of talented amateur fighters I know are early thirties. As long as you keep your fitness up, I think everything will be ok for quite a bit longer. I train with some national level athletes that are 30-32 and they're strong as fvck.

I would think that as long as your career is something you enjoy doing, or working on correcting it, then your thirties will be awesome.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Society is changing in regard to the meaning of age. 40 is the new 30. A long time ago, when people got married right out of high school, had kids, and got one of those things that used to exist in this country called a "job," then being 30 meant married for 10+ years with junior high school age kids. Today, being 30 means living with Mom, having no job, and basically being a teenager.

When the US still had middle class jobs, it was easy for young people to become adults. But now the middle class is gone, and those kids are stuck at home with their parents. That's the future of our economy. People are going to have to live in larger groups just to survive.

 

[sazc]

Happy early birthday @Infern0 40 is the new 25, you'll be okay! I'll never know why you judge yourself so harshly for seeing a 18 y.o. tho. It is what it is, idk why you think it's bad. If you're happy - just.be.happy!

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Inferno,
It must feel like Hell old Fellah...My heart goes out to you,you poor Old Devil LOL.

 

[Scars]

This thread was reassuring. I'm about to turn 28 in 2 days.. so I am knocking on 30's door. Often times I feel older than I am. Having a kid really young, doing the family thing for years, just to have it all far apart.. I guess I should be grateful all this is happening now rather than later. You guys make being 30 something to look forward to. I have a few health problems, such as being diagnosed with hypertensions (high blood pressure when I was only 25) I often times feel like I'm old, and realized I'll probably die of a heart attack when I'm like 50... I guess I should be making the most of it. Not that I'm not already... but 30 sounds like a time to really kick it into gear.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This thread was reassuring. I'm about to turn 28 in 2 days.. so I am knocking on 30's door. Often times I feel older than I am. Having a kid really young, doing the family thing for years, just to have it all far apart.. I guess I should be grateful all this is happening now rather than later. You guys make being 30 something to look forward to. I have a few health problems, such as being diagnosed with hypertensions (high blood pressure when I was only 25) I often times feel like I'm old, and realized I'll probably die of a heart attack when I'm like 50... I guess I should be making the most of it. Not that I'm not already... but 30 sounds like a time to really kick it into gear.

Go thru your thirties and make those your best years and take impeccable care of your health. Some of us punished our bodies and livers going into our 30's and had to make up for it in our 40's.

 

[Scars]

Question for you 30+ guys. Assuming you wanted to pick up a girl within the same age group. 25-35, how does a typical pick up go? Does the whole "let's meet for drinks" stuff still work on the 30+ woman? Or is that too over done? I imagine if a girl has enough interest, it doesn't really matter what you do for a first date.. but I am trying to limit my alcohol intake, and if I have one, it usually leads to many... I'm also not a fan of coffee. I guess I could order a tea or something though.

 

[SteR]

I imagine if a girl has enough interest, it doesn't really matter what you do for a first date..

Bingo. Do whatever the hell you feel like doing.

 

[Elastoplast]

When guys say turning 30 you can still get young chicks, yes I'm sure you can.

But from what I've seen most 18-21 year old girls will turn you down, especially since they are so heavily tied with their social groups and have a selection of young hot guys to get with. For this reason I think on the whole (but not absolutely) by 30 or even younger (maybe 28) the boat sails for getting girls in the 18-21 gap, it's not that they won't do it it's more a question of her social circle and how to meet her etc. since attending her environment will usually always lower your status and value, getting over all of that is a huge feat in itself not to mention societal programming.

The annoying thing is most young guys the same age will have no problem bedding a 30+ year old chick so long as she is hot since guys on the whole are far less influenced by their social groups.

But this is just what I've witnessed and experienced so far in my corner of the world.

 

[Who Dares Win]

When guys say turning 30 you can still get young chicks, yes I'm sure you can.

But from what I've seen most 18-21 year old girls will turn you down, especially since they are so heavily tied with their social groups and have a selection of young hot guys to get with. For this reason I think on the whole (but not absolutely) by 30 or even younger (maybe 28) the boat sails for getting girls in the 18-21 gap, it's not that they won't do it it's more a question of her social circle and how to meet her etc. since attending her environment will usually always lower your status and value, getting over all of that is a huge feat in itself not to mention societal programming.

The annoying thing is most young guys the same age will have no problem bedding a 30+ year old chick so long as she is hot since guys on the whole are far less influenced by their social groups.

But this is just what I've witnessed and experienced so far in my corner of the world.

The sheep mind mentality of girls makes male c0ckblockers non influent in terms of disturbing an interaction.

 

[Epimanes]

Man... im almost 40..(38) .. often i feel 20 tol i hang out with some 20yos then im like nope.. im 40. >.<

 

[Atom Smasher]

Guys, the time of people being "old" in their 40s are long gone.

I'm 59, and happier, more successful, and in better shape physically than at any other time in my life, save my football years in HS and College (physically).

One thing is for sure... aging gives you wisdom IF you value wisdom. It also helps you to "sweat the small stuff" much less. It's really cool to see people losing their sh!t around you for this and that while you just smile knowing that this, too shall pass.

It's funny how different things are from the perspective of mature years. You don't think of yourself as "old", and you don't think of younger adults as "young". It's just a big pool of "grownups". At least that's how I see it.

So take heart. I myself remember 30 as a rough birthday. I think it's because 30 is official adulthood. There are many perks and blessings to adulthood, so walk forth boldly and design an adult life that you can be proud of, one tiny piece at a time.

 

[Roober]

I have to say... I believe 30's are the best time to be single. Your range is wide, 18-40, have have an established job, vehicle, and place to live... Women in their 20's looking for love tend to look older because of all the idiot beta pill fools in their 20's.