How are your past oneitisis doing

[Trainwreck]

Just remembering the past times I've been owned in my life by women lol. Haven't had oneitis in a while, so I started thinking about them.

1). The girl that brought me to this site is an engineer in New England right now. She found some beta need to boss around up there too lol.

2) Not doing **** with her life but living at her parents and partying every night. She has a useless degree and is a server too.

3) kind of similar to 2 but dating a man child with Peter Pan syndrome lol.

4. First ex is now married and lives on a farm in the mountains lol.

 

[Roober]

1) she became a flight attendant, got married, had some kids and got fat. Overall, she is doing okay I suppose other than looking like crap.

2) too soon to tell. If I had to guess 5 years from now. Probably hook back up with baby daddy and he continuously cheats on her, or still living at home with her parents.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Probably only three real cases, in decreasing severity. Have been other opportunities missed, but they are more 'ones that got away', which is slightly different

1) First real LTR as an adult. Unhealthy bond. Started living together after a few months. Gave up friends, hobbies etc etc. Drinking/smoking too much together. Arguing a lot Eventually ended up cheating on each other. Now married with two kids; not before trying to get back with me several times first. Saw her once with her new husband since who is a decent enough guy. Was friendly and amicable. No residual drama.

2) Similar scenario to one, but she didn't really drink nor smoke. She was basically anorexic when we met with severe bouts of depression. Got her healthier again, being the white knight. Got together 6 months after she divorced (married for 5 months). Red flags everywhere!
Eventually found out she was messaging her ex. I moved away for work. Eventually grew apart. As far as I know she's still living in the same place, doing same work, probably back to her unhealthy diet etc. I think about emailing sometimes, but more out of sympathy than anything.

3) Last (ever) case of oneitis.
Swedish actress. First serious commitment since starting personal improvements etc. Started out great when I was independent and strong (and seeing other women). She would say how 'easy' life was with me - but probably a bit too easy; she was unreliable and flaky. Still, she was proactive at least. Should have just carried on seeing other women; doubt she would have realised, nor particularly cared. She messages every so often with half-hearted offers to meet up. I can't really be bothered though. Might see if she wants a Christmas bang. Nothing more doing though; loads of red flags there as well.

I see the only true way to prevent oneitis for good is to spin multiple women until you unlearned those old needy behaviours and have reconditioned to understand the true nature of men, women and relationships in modern times.

 

[Roober]

I see the only true way to prevent oneitis for good is to spin multiple women until you unlearned those old needy behaviours and have reconditioned to understand the true nature of men, women and relationships in modern times.

That's it right there! It sucks that so many guys never see it and often just write it off as her being the problem...

 

[TheProspect]

I focus on what I'm doing. I don't give a fvck how they're doing.

 

[dustmuffin]

Why would I care?

 

[playa99]

All my oneitises were in HS and there all doing relatively well! Own houses, good jobs etc.. to be honest when I transformed myself i lost all attraction towards the girls I had oneitis for.

Apart from one, she's married a dude who fvcks dudes as well!

 

[Bible_Belt]

Twenty years ago, I made the mistake of using Forrest Gump game. I love you, Jen-nay! Why are you running away, Jen-nay?

And it's still awkward to this day. I'm not like that any more, but she still seems worried that I am. She married her other high school crush and that lasted about a month. Now she is married to another guy who is obviously a beta AFC. He's ugly as hell, but he's apparently rich and takes her traveling and skiing. She seems embarrassed of him. Her facebook page doesn't mention that she's married, but his is like an ode to her. She's still thin and hot, and just graduated as a nurse practitioner, so she makes a ton of money. She has confessed to me fairly recently that she never thought she would be such a failure with men and relationships.

 

[Shift]

She got fat.

 

[AttackFormation]

She has confessed to me fairly recently that she never thought she would be such a failure with men and relationships.

Won't prevent her from letting a guy she doesn't even like knock her up though. I was gonna say after that she'll bring the kids up under a facade of normalcy, but I guess she might divorce him and take the kids & his stuff instead. That similar situations are so common is why I fundamentally don't trust women. They don't just tell the big lies, they make them reality, and have no problem living with it.

 

[Alvafe]

don't care and don't know, understand anything in the past, stay there

 

[bigneil]

The last time I had oneitis was 2011. I had it from basically January 1 until about December when (randomly it dawned on me that) a girl I met in late October (age 19 versus 36 like my oneitis) had stolen my heart and I found I was thinking about her instead.

The only cure for a woman is another woman.

 

[JohnChops]

Normally I wouldn't care, however, my oneitis always pops back into my life.

From what I can tell, she hasn't gone back to school, doesn't go out, and her mouth dropped when she found out I was going to med school and about my other recent escapades. She ended up messaging me trying to reconcile, I was not having it, so I ignored her, nc as usual.

It feels good fellas.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Dunno. I don't think I care either tbh cuz I haven't really thought about any of them since I was 13. I must have had like 4 or 5 chicks I had oneitis for total in my entire life thus far, but none of them were when I was past the age of 13 though. It's kinda funny too because I only remember 3 of their names even though I know I've had oneitis more times than that hahaha.

 

[wolf]

My ex of 5 years is currently with a guy that looks a hell of alot like me. He even dresses the same way she (tried) dressed me.

We split up nearly 4 years ago and I don't have any ill feelings but also haven't seen her since.

 

[Infern0]

Twenty years ago, I made the mistake of using Forrest Gump game. I love you, Jen-nay! Why are you running away, Jen-nay?

And it's still awkward to this day. I'm not like that any more, but she still seems worried that I am. She married her other high school crush and that lasted about a month. Now she is married to another guy who is obviously a beta AFC. He's ugly as hell, but he's apparently rich and takes her traveling and skiing. She seems embarrassed of him. Her facebook page doesn't mention that she's married, but his is like an ode to her. She's still thin and hot, and just graduated as a nurse practitioner, so she makes a ton of money. She has confessed to me fairly recently that she never thought she would be such a failure with men and relationships.

Forrest Gump game haha.

Yeah I been there

 

[Skyline]

1) Has a kid with a dude she broke up with and now is having another with the guy she is with now. She has a really nice body but I think she's crazy since she's 18ish with two kids from two different dads. She also has those "crazy eyes."

2) I saw her at a party some time ago and she's still in college and all of my friends thinks shes hot as hell. Except me... I don't know what I was thinking, but I don't find her attractive now.

 

[Teddy_Beer]

Don't know. Don't care

 

[BlueAlpha1]

Cue 50% of the responses telling you they don't care because they're so above that. A rather pointless response that contributes nothing to the thread other than to prop themselves up as above anyone who participates.

Anyway, THE oneitis have no idea and it's been 1.5 years. I do wonder because I'm human, not a chest beating robot who pretends to have no emotion.

Another LTR joined the military because she had nothing else going for her. And that's all I heard

 

[Jason887]

1. Married a former homosexual and lives in South Korea. I believe she works on an assembly line?

2. Spoiled the family fortune, now works as a barista. Got fat.