How I made out of a BPD relationship

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Youve met this girl, things seem magical, she seems to be an awesome docile good looking sweetheart and seems to follow what you say. It's an amazing connection.

She throws her body at you, tells you she loves you and mirrors exactly the way you are, she will mirror your best qualities and you will love it, the sex will come early and often and you will feel like you never want it to end.

Then some behaviours will begin to show up, random guys, strange foreigner friends, maybe she self harms, lives in a grandiose world, some childhood drama and strained relationships with her father or mother or divorce.
You rationalise maybe that's what makes her so special.

If you haven't heard about borderline, get a beer and grab a chair.

This girl is the most insidious creature ever, she doesn't love you and she doesn't love herself either, she's using you for her own needs. If you are a narcissist like me you are probably using her too but don't know it.
The thing is she will turn you inside out, normal game doesn't work on her.

Your ego will be turned inside out if you are codependent or normal.

It's important never to engage with such women let alone marry or get into an ltr with one.


If you have found yourself into the clutches of one, she will put up emotional manipulation and ego stroking and everything to let you stay unless she's done with you herself. Understand this she doesn't love you, it's either your need for female validation or the narcissist to make her your b1tch that is keeping you around.

She will compliment you in ways which you don't believe to be true or unnecessary. Your gut will recognise this, but you are thinking with your little head.
She will lie or cheat or you will get so ****ed with her disrespect that you'll dump her yourself.
Immediate slandering will follow. Probable suicide gestures threats. She will never put blame on herself and put everything on you.
Her flirting, cheating etc will never amount to anything. She can't put the blame on herself.

Walk away disengage. AND BLOCK HER. Pick up those pieces. You won. You are NO DOORMAT. Your respect for yourself needs to go up. You banged her brains out, you did every sort of **** you wanted her to.
You don't need false rape allegations or pregnancy scares or any domestic violence ****.
To save face she will do whatever she can to avoid putting the blame on her, her fragile ego can't tolerate that.

It took me a lot of reading and contact to understand what happened.
Laugh at yourself for the **** you put up with, fix yourself and pity her as the cloud lifts, she will keep bouncing here and there trying to manipulate guys just the way she tried on you. Let them all learn the hard way.

I got out in a couple of months, banged her brains. Many stay stuck for years.

She's not marriage material or short term or long term or nothing. Nothing is worth the aftermath of the breakup. MAYBE a pump and dump but keep it wrapped and go ghost.
 
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this man speaks truth. my ex bpd is clinically diagnosed..and she herself admits that 80 percent of the issues in our relationship was from her. some bpd are self aware enough to know the reactions their behavior will cause.
 

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You can't win with them don't even try.

The truth is they only have as much power as YOU give them.

It'll never work with one and they won't get better. Only thing is to just not play their game cos if you do they win.

It's a shame because they can be insaaaaane amounts of fun. But I guess that's because they are insane.
 

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I don't give a fvck. There's not a woman on this Earth that I cannot handle. None can break me down, as I am too semiconsciously aware of what she is doing and how I should react. Plus, I know what I want, and very few things can change that.
 

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If a guy has been in a bad relationship with BPD it's usually his own fault.

Same applies to women when they say "my ex was a jerk"

No sympathy for guys who complain about this. If you have a scarcity mindset you are asking to get screwed over. I'm can spot BPD from a mile away.
 

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I don't give a fvck. There's not a woman on this Earth that I cannot handle. None can break me down, as I am too semiconsciously aware of what she is doing and how I should react. Plus, I know what I want, and very few things can change that.
Chest beating is not impressive and doesn't fool anyone.

You'd do well to realize you aren't invincible, that would actually make you stronger
 

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Chest beating is not impressive and doesn't fool anyone.

You'd do well to realize you aren't invincible, that would actually make you stronger
Got rid of a chick about 2 and a half months ago who fits almost all of the traits OP mentioned. Yeah, she was crazy, but still didn't compare to my mother or older sister. And I can handle them pretty well roo. I'm too strong for this. If you are not strong enough to handle a 'BPD' under your normal self, then a tip I can give you is to be arrogant towards her and those in relation to her. As idiotic and bad as that sounds, it's a very good way to maintain yourself in any social setting or in any form of pressuring/manipulation.
 
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Chest beating is not impressive and doesn't fool anyone.

You'd do well to realize you aren't invincible, that would actually make you stronger
Yup. And the dude is like 19 talking like this. Look for him to get blindsided by his BPD oneitis in another 3-4 years. And if of course, we'll be here when he does...
 

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Yup. And the dude is like 19 talking like this. Look for him to get blindsided by his BPD oneitis in another 3-4 years. And if of course, we'll be here when he does...
I'd have probably been saying the same things before I got with mine "I can handle her noooo problem" etc.

You don't know until you know
 

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I'd have probably been saying the same things before I got with mine "I can handle her noooo problem" etc.

You don't know until you know
Exactly, you might be a damn millionaire with multiple girls with a jet and they'll be fvcking a gardner behind your back. They are emotionally stunted. Your game is worthless. The rules are out the window.
Look at brad pitt.

You want to tame a hormonal adult with the emotions of a 5 year old ? It's just a waste of time.
On top of manipulations and mind fuvcking and weird sh1t all the time.

Your caretaker tendencies might kick in and then you are essentially taking care of a kid while being a lover.

It's harmful and useless. Think with your head, not your little head. The only people who can handle them in an intimate long term relationships don't exist.
 

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If you have a scarcity mindset you are asking to get screwed over.
This!

The moment you see, or even sense, drama, WALK AWAY. Even if the chick isnt technically BPD, you are reinforcing, rewarding, her use of drama if you stick around.

There are more females. There are always more females...
 
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