Girl takes forever to c*m

[JonnyD123]

I pride myself on my cunnilingus skills, I feel like I've gotten pretty damn good at it over the years. I also believe that if you can give a girl a good orga$m, you can pretty much get her to do anything.

This recent girl however, is testing my jaw and tongue endurance to the max. Let me preface by saying the one time I have been able to make her O, she said it's the best one she's ever had. She pretty much had a seizure/giggle fit simultaneously for 15 minutes on my bedroom floor. I digress.

She's 24, great shape, no previous abusive BF's or any (severe) psychological damage. We still have $ex, and she says it still feels amazing for her, but I like the satisfaction of making her weak at the knees. Looking for guidance here if anyone else has experienced this. The other night I went down on her for almost 2 straight hours (for real), and couldn't take it anymore thought my tongue was about to fall off. Thoughts?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Some of them need to be opened up. She might be blocking and controlling feelings and it makes them take forever. I had the same situation took a few years to get her to 10-15 min.

 

[sazc]

I am so not about the tongue, takes me forever. Other ways I can multiple, easy. Its not necessarily you, your style, or your technique.

 

[Roober]

Women are all different... Some can do it only be penetration, others only by outer stimulation, breast stimulation, and others by touch...

I could get my ex to just by breast stimulation, so it always made getting her in the mood really easy. You just have to find her buttons and push them!

You should have stopped at 15 minutes or so, cause it wasn't going to work... two hours of that doesn't sound fun for either person.

 

[JonnyD123]

You should have stopped at 15 minutes or so, cause it wasn't going to work... two hours of that doesn't sound fun for either person.

I actually really enjoy it, and obviously she thoroughly enjoys it. We've talked about it and she says how she hits this plateau of pleasure, and it takes a lot for her tip over the edge.

Introducing toys has helped immensely, however, it's not feasible carrying it around wherever she goes.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

The other night I went down on her for almost 2 straight hours (for real), and couldn't take it anymore thought my tongue was about to fall off. Thoughts?

2hrs that's crazy man! Sorry dude but that just sounds cringe worthy. If you can't do it in 10-15min then it's probably not going to happen.

Seriously stop trying so hard and just have fun. You'll learn how how her body re-acts over time.

 

[CMNILS87]

2 hours of eating a girl out means you're her ***** of she doesn't find you that hot. With most women if you tick off there sexy enough magic mike box. They should *** easily. The last few girls I haven't gave oral to, do my own thing and they keep coming back like it's the last time they'll ****.

 

[Fruitbat]

I must be a total ******* because I only care for her orgasm in as much as I like to share and reciprocate sex. I get no kick out of it. I get a kick out of the stuff that's on me.

2hrs is way to long and I've had plenty of partners who took a little longer.

In my experience, when it's a new guy girls *** quicker. If she struggles to do it in a "normal" length of time, it's either because she has an issue (it's NOT your technique. Since when would a girls bad technique in sex or oral stop u cumming and how easy is it to say "do it like this"....) OR she just isn't that hot for you and is screwing for other reasons.

As long as you do actually go down and attempt to please her, you've done your bit.

Your technique is absolutely the last thing that it's about. As men we think of sex as getting a reaction from a machine - do it like this and you get a result.

If I was seriously trying to change this, find out what makes her dirty - I've dirty talked a woman who took FOREVER from sex and oral into a 2 min finger bang on the back seat of a coach by telling her how naughty it was.

Most of sex is in the mind

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I must be a total ******* because I only care for her orgasm in as much as I like to share and reciprocate sex. I get no kick out of it. I get a kick out of the stuff that's on me.

2hrs is way to long and I've had plenty of partners who took a little longer.

Like I said I had the one. She was used to guys "taking" what they want and would control her feelings so she doesn't feel as "used". They definitely wasn't eating a lot of puzzy. It was like the **** was desensitized or something. Got it to normal after a few years.

In my experience, when it's a new guy girls *** quicker. If she struggles to do it in a "normal" length of time, it's either because she has an issue (it's NOT your technique. Since when would a girls bad technique in sex or oral stop u cumming and how easy is it to say "do it like this"....) OR she just isn't that hot for you and is screwing for other reasons.

In my experience as they get comfortable and used to you they can come quicker. So for a new girl, I might figure her out and it takes 10-15 minutes, after we get good on her it could take 2-3 minutes for a quick nutt on her part.

As long as you do actually go down and attempt to please her, you've done your bit.

Your technique is absolutely the last thing that it's about. As men we think of sex as getting a reaction from a machine - do it like this and you get a result

Technique is important, because it matters what SHE thinks feels good. The same technique doesn't work on all, and may actually even be irritating to a nother or not feel anything. Figure out what works on her.

If I was seriously trying to change this, find out what makes her dirty - I've dirty talked a woman who took FOREVER from sex and oral into a 2 min finger bang on the back seat of a coach by telling her how naughty it was.

Most of sex is in the mind

I believe you here, and never really used the verbal and mental gift, women were just into me enough where the would get into me. But the ones who need verbal coaxing, I'm not sure I've been as successful on.

 

[Fruitbat]

In my experience as they get comfortable and used to you they can come quicker. So for a new girl, I might figure her out and it takes 10-15 minutes, after we get good on her it could take 2-3 minutes for a quick nutt on her part.



Technique is important, because it matters what SHE thinks feels good. The same technique doesn't work on all, and may actually even be irritating to a nother or not feel anything. Figure out what works on her.


I believe you here, and never really used the verbal and mental gift, women were just into me enough where the would get into me. But the ones who need verbal coaxing, I'm not sure I've been as successful on.

You are right about the initial few ****s. Yes, the firsts few are less fun for me too - once you feel your partner enjoys it and you have no inhibitions. I was more getting at LTRs, most I had the first year was very quick but once you are very used to each other then it takes longer. My ex wife went from about 2 mins to about 20 by the end. I also found I lasted longer and sometimes got bored after 7 years of the same woman.


I agree technique is important in as much as there are really only about 3 or fours general ways, aggressive, soft, rhythmic etc and other things which you can do without getting too obscene. What I mean is this is SO easy to sort out. Most women I have slept with I just try stuff out, often what my last GF wanted (you get habitual) first and judge by her reactions. I will tell a woman what needs to be done but it easier I guess for guys, we are generally the more dominant.

As for the mind being a sexual organ, it's more from neccisity than choice. Admittedly I have never attracted many women and I haven't got a good physique really, neither am I hung like a horse. I just found talkjng dirty is another dynamic which I got a lot of return from but it is really dangerous. If you get it wrong you come off as a perv and some women don't get it. If you can get by without it, only do it if required and if it's natural.

I just find describing that I have plans for her and I've been thinking through exactly what I'm going to do as sex approaches is a very simple and extremely effective way to build her up. Again, needs to be the right woman, who is receptive to you.

 

[Roober]

You are right about the initial few ****s. Yes, the firsts few are less fun for me too - once you feel your partner enjoys it and you have no inhibitions. I was more getting at LTRs, most I had the first year was very quick but once you are very used to each other then it takes longer. My ex wife went from about 2 mins to about 20 by the end. I also found I lasted longer and sometimes got bored after 7 years of the same woman.


I agree technique is important in as much as there are really only about 3 or fours general ways, aggressive, soft, rhythmic etc and other things which you can do without getting too obscene. What I mean is this is SO easy to sort out. Most women I have slept with I just try stuff out, often what my last GF wanted (you get habitual) first and judge by her reactions. I will tell a woman what needs to be done but it easier I guess for guys, we are generally the more dominant.

As for the mind being a sexual organ, it's more from neccisity than choice. Admittedly I have never attracted many women and I haven't got a good physique really, neither am I hung like a horse. I just found talkjng dirty is another dynamic which I got a lot of return from but it is really dangerous. If you get it wrong you come off as a perv and some women don't get it. If you can get by without it, only do it if required and if it's natural.

I just find describing that I have plans for her and I've been thinking through exactly what I'm going to do as sex approaches is a very simple and extremely effective way to build her up. Again, needs to be the right woman, who is receptive to you.

ALL women are open to dirty talk, sounds like you need to hone your skills. You need to have a varied approach when it comes to dirty talk, and it has to be borderline nasty. It is a very tricky line to walk without turning her off to it.

I could be wrong here, but usually when women don't do that or send dirty pics or whatever, it is because they don't trust you, like fully believe in you. If you have their complete trust, you can do anything you want with them and it will be like niagara falls.

 

[The Duke]

I've never experienced anything like this, but here's what I've learned over the years that might help her get there sooner:
-Figure out her erogenous zones.
-Kiss the back of her neck.
-Pull her hair firmly.
-Kiss the inside of her thighs.
-Make sechsual sounds.
-Lightly Run your finger tips over her entire body.
-Music & Candles.
-Verbalize how you want to do her.
-Some women are very sensual and need all of what I've listed above.
-Pay attention to how wet she is getting.
-Some women need a lot of klitoral stimulation, others more vaginal.

The female brain is the most sechsual organ in their body. Maybe this girl has thoughts of some other dude, she doesn't see you as the one, who knows. Next time you get in bed with her while having pillow talk I'd ask what she likes and what makes her naughty.

 

[sazc]

Speaking as a female, the fact that you are actually trying, even if you dont succeed, makes a huge difference. It makes the woman feel like she matters to you. To believe that this guy values you enough to try, is a very powerful feeling. That alone will increase the attraction.

 

[Fruitbat]

Speaking as a female, the fact that you are actually trying, even if you dont succeed, makes a huge difference. It makes the woman feel like she matters to you. To believe that this guy values you enough to try, is a very powerful feeling. That alone will increase the attraction.

what about if you are one of many male suitors she is considering as she is dating online and has a ton of options?

This may ring true for women with a guy they really like already. I would tread carefully if she has options elsewhere, I have been binned for trying this kind of thing too much too early with the wrong girl.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

what about if you are one of many male suitors she is considering as she is dating online and has a ton of options?

This may ring true for women with a guy they really like already. I would tread carefully if she has options elsewhere, I have been binned for trying this kind of thing too much too early with the wrong girl.

It's always wise to make sure your not eating puzzy that you aren't fvcking. Get it to where she regularly takes your pipe, and then you can decide or not if you want to eat. The worst case scenario is she thinks you like it so much that's all your job is to eat, while she phvcks the guys who care less about her.

 

[sazc]

what about if you are one of many male suitors she is considering as she is dating online and has a ton of options?

This may ring true for women with a guy they really like already. I would tread carefully if she has options elsewhere, I have been binned for trying this kind of thing too much too early with the wrong girl.

Yea, in that scenario, I cant relate. I was never the type of female to have multiple partners at once. I just cant wrap my head around the type of female that would judge who they dated based on if they could get her off. There's a whole 'rest of the male' to consider and, unless he's really inept, or an a$$hole - in the bedroom, most men want to listen and learn for their female. That's been my experience and opinion. I'm not the be all and end all of every chick tho.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

@OP, no biggy. Some women don't get off on oral. Nether do I. I love them trying but I usually have to finish myself off for the money shot.

Seriously though, the big O is not a finish line. Not every woman will be in the headspace to c*m everytime. We all want our partners to have a goid time but not worrying about it and just having fun might give better results than 2hrs of oral.

It seems like putting unfair pressure on the woman. "dammit, I will make you *** whether you want to or not."

If it was reversed and she blew you for two hours but for whatever reason you couldn't c*m would that be your idea of a good time?

I gotta give you two thumbs up for endurance, persistence and determination though.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

@OP, no biggy. Some women don't get off on oral. Nether do I. I love them trying but I usually have to finish myself off for the money shot.

Seriously though, the big O is not a finish line. Not every woman will be in the headspace to c*m everytime. We all want our partners to have a goid time but not worrying about it and just having fun might give better results than 2hrs of oral.

It seems like putting unfair pressure on the woman. "dammit, I will make you *** whether you want to or not."

If it was reversed and she blew you for two hours but for whatever reason you couldn't c*m would that be your idea of a good time?

I gotta give you two thumbs up for endurance, persistence and determination though.

Getting head for two hrs would feel great, as long as she knew how to make it feel good.

 

[jdb]

You're her side piece