How to keep a girl normal in your eyes.

[jebach123]

My problem is when I like a girl I either hold her on a pedestal and just go crazy over her or I just focus on her flaws and always keep convincing myself to "hate" her.

What happens is I take her off the pedestal but in my head it is like "ok shes here now dont look at her immideatily do this do that ignore her bla bla bla"

How to be interested in a girl and pursue her but have her on the same level as that fat ugly girl and don't let girls get mixed with your sanity and vibe?

 

[wifehunter]

First, don't pursue her. Recognize that she is a flawed human being like all the others. Focus on your mission.

 

[Roober]

Have multiple women?

Also something I struggle with. The key is believing your the prize, not her, which means you always have to be willing to walk away. Think of what you have to offer. I know I am a great catch, all of my ex gf and ex wife friends used to tell her that. I even had her coworkers hit on me, and I still ignored it. The key is actually believing it yourself. By hooking up with multiple attractive women, you know you can pull them, and it becomes part of you...

I am nowhere near there yet, probably still an AFC, but I am reading and beginning to apply the things here...

 

[narcissist]

By not giving a fvck about women, and not making women your entire life's purpose.

You got sh1t to work on if you are telling yourself when and when not to look at a girl when she arrives. Look wherever the fvck you please, whenever the fvck you please.

 

[RangerMIke]

You really can not think more about her than any other woman you are dating. When you think too much about one woman your mind turns to mush. When testosterone mixing with oxytocin it's sends a bonding message to the man's brain, to attach to the woman you are thinking about.

None of this sh!t is magic, it's all chemistry. The way to fight it... the ONLY way to fight it is to have more than one woman in your life.

 

[LastManstanding]

What they are all saying is true. You will think about that one girl too much, to the point where you give off psychosomatic displays of fear and nervousness. The minute that I start mentally comprehending the
"game" AKA (eye contact, number closing, etc.) I never get the girl. The only women that I have f***ed/dated/messed around with EVER, were girls that made it so easy for me that I did not have the thoughts that you were having now.

It's funny too is that these girls that make it easy for you to get with them can also flip the script once they know that you are putting actual thought into your every relationship/dating move. It could even be something unrelated to you two (death in the family, job loss, depression) but it doesn't matter because it will work against you regardless of reason. They pick up on the body language and verbal cues. I think this is what everyone refers to as "frame." Here is what has worked for me.

1. Only pursue the women who display obvious interest
2. Never care about them more then they care about you (abundance)
3. If you change in any way that she feels like you are slipping as a man you will be dumped on your ass with 90% of women.

In my opinion, cold approaching and pickup are not efficient as far as time and effort. Put yourself in many social situations and expand your current circles and you will run face first into a good partner. Just keep your eyes open for them. When you do get with a girl you want, don't feel bad and keep other women close to take her place. The same **** is happening to you.

 

[Skyline]

You really can not think more about her than any other woman you are dating. When you think too much about one woman your mind turns to mush. When testosterone mixing with oxytocin it's sends a bonding message to the man's brain, to attach to the woman you are thinking about.

None of this sh!t is magic, it's all chemistry. The way to fight it... the ONLY way to fight it is to have more than one woman in your life.

Is this why when were feeling down about a particular girl, physically working out seems to make us feel better? Or think more clear at least.

 

[jebach123]

Is this why when were feeling down about a particular girl, physically working out seems to make us feel better? Or think more clear at least.

working out is always the answer for anything

 

[ubercat]

Working out 4 guys is an emotional and physical reboot. it also gives you more energy to go enjoy life with. it improves your attractiveness not just muscles but also your skin tone and colour.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Don't even try to deny your emotions if they are extremely strong. Just act in spite of them. Perseverance. Act in spite of your emotions and learn to love the pain that comes with doing so, because it makes you tough as fvck. You control yourself, not your emotions.

 

[3agle 3yes]

How to be interested in a girl and pursue her but have her on the same level as that fat ugly girl and don't let girls get mixed with your sanity and vibe?

There is an easy trick, assuming you know how to manipulate your mind.

Assume she is already attracted to you and you just have to respond. The catch though is that you have to REALLY believe till it comes across in your words and body language.

The strange thing about this, is that there are some women who weren't even interested in you before, that will become interested. Femininity in its nature is RECEPTIVE.

Look up the definition for 'receptive' (seriously look at all the definitions): willing to consider or accept new suggestions and ideas.

or how about this: having the quality of receiving, taking in...

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Have a life...

If your girlfriend is the only thing in your life then of course you are going to make her too important. Make the rest of your life interesting or fulfilling or fun, and she will be less important.

Plan B. Wank constantly and watch enormous ammounts of porn so that no woman can live up to your expectations.

Plan C... Multiple women if you have the mentality or skills for it.

Plan D join a monastery.