Exclusive girl disrespected me, what to do?

[Anpha]

Hello guys,
I was exclusive with a girl for around a month and caught her talking to other dudes on a similar variant of tinder. I told her i was disappointed in her and told her I'd like some space (2 weeks while she's on exams) so i can think about the relationship. I have seem to lost all respect for this girl as she has pretty much stepped on me and talked to other dudes.

Should i next her or can i fix this relationship? The answer is obvious but it's hard for me to just walk away like this. It'll be hard on her as it's her first relationship but I don't have any feelings left for her, when someone disrespects me this hard they turn hideous in my eyes.

What should I do? and how should i go about doing it?

I'm currently talking to 2 plates and going on a date with one of them this coming Friday. Appreciate any help.

 

[Styr]

If you don't have any feelings for this girl any longer, and moreover, she disrespected you, then what do you expect people here to do?

 

[Roober]

Online dating? That's an easy next. Two weeks while she is taking exams? Just don't contact her any more or reply to anything she sends...

 

[Julian]

dude have some self respect here. if you can say you have been 100% down for her and have not done any sketchy things and have respected the exclusivity then dump that hoe.

what she did was fked up an hurtful to you. i would cut her off if i had been clean with her to that point...now if i was being a player and doing scummy things on my own time id cut her a break.

the point is how can you possibly trust her now..you cant. this is why we dont commit because these hoes aint loyal. its not in their nature to be

 

[BeTheChange]

Wtf is there to think about?

Your girlfriend was cruising for c0ck on Tinder and you're deliberating over what to do. Why is this even a thread...?

Grow some balls and dump this h0e.

 

[El Payaso]

NEXT.

Why would you even THINK about "fixing" this relationship.

Like someone else said. Have some goddamn self respect. Dump her like old milk.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I don't understand why folks here are so black and white about things. If i catch a girl I'm seeing on tinder I'll mention it so she knows I know then I'll just start seeing other women while I'm piping her.

As far as I'm concerned I'll bang any female I don't have to be exclusive with. And she just gave you a major hall pass.

 

[Trump]

Hello guys,
I was exclusive with a girl for around a month and caught her talking to other dudes on a similar variant of tinder. I told her i was disappointed in her and told her I'd like some space (2 weeks while she's on exams) so i can think about the relationship. I have seem to lost all respect for this girl as she has pretty much stepped on me and talked to other dudes.

Should i next her or can i fix this relationship? The answer is obvious but it's hard for me to just walk away like this. It'll be hard on her as it's her first relationship

I'm sure that's why she was talking to other dudes. She wanted to ensure she had a shoulder to cry on when you dropped her.

but I don't have any feelings left for her, when someone disrespects me this hard they turn hideous in my eyes.

What should I do? and how should i go about doing it?

I'm currently talking to 2 plates and going on a date with one of them this coming Friday. Appreciate any help.

Come on bro, in one sentence you say that you want to 'fix' the relationship and that she will be suicide watch if you drop her because she is so in love with you, in the next sentence you say you have no feelings for her and are having sex Friday with a new girl. Which is it?

It sounds like you are trying to prove to us you are very rock and roll.

 

[BeTheChange]

Listen, you are only 21 years old. You have no idea how many girls I dumped at your age for "disrespect".

Sooner or later, you will figure out that this isn't a 'one off'. You will start to understand that men and women are fundamentally different.

You have no idea how much I would want to speak to me at your age. Consider yourself lucky.

With this current girl, I suggest you experiment with her.

This woman is nothing. In a year's time, she will be nothing but a memory. Start using game techniques on her. Stop taking her seriously.

Don't break it off just yet. That is butt-hurt on your part, caused by your ego.

Have fun and experiment.

We generally agree on most topics but I think you're wrong on the last part here. Some things are worth more than "gaming chicks". He isn't just talking about some plate. This is a girl who requested exclusivity and he gave it to her. That's a girlfriend. And she either cheated on him already or was laying the groundwork for it.

Self confidence doesn't just magically appear. It's developed and honed from doing things like dropping chicks because they have behaved in a manner which was deliberately disrespectful to you. You are basically advising this guy to sit and smile while his gf fvks around just so he can get his end away. No thanks....his time is better spent developing new prospects.

Some women are just not even worth the time required to game them as fvck buddies. My ex is one such example. I went completely ghost about a month or so ago and haven't looked back, even though turning her into fvck buddy status would have been easy.

Just out of interest what exactly would a woman have to do to you for you to consider dropping her completely in that moment?

 

[BeTheChange]

Listen, I dropped plenty of birds for "disrespect".

The truth is merely that I was taking women far too seriously. And my natural inclination came out in a dumping.

That was the only "respectable" way to deal with a woman within her frame.

Like I said, we are probably dealing with a young man, attempting to exist in his sexual way within a woman's frame. And I've been there.

You keep dropping girls through butt-hurt, until you learn to manage them.

Managing this girl is demoting her to experiment/fun status.

Do not get me wrong, if the drama exuded by her is far greater than his ability to multi-task, then perhaps he should just dump.

But you seriously don't understand my suggestion to plate her whilst looking for adventure sex? It's about learning to treat women right. It's about taking this b*tch off a pedestal and learning some real women management.

He can dump her in a strop, or he can learn some emotional control through this slag.

That's it really. A man should do what benefits him. IMO dropping a disrespectful girl would be far more beneficial in the long run.

So by your logic a girl could do pretty much anything to you and you wouldn't drop her as long as she was an "easy lay"....think we will just have to agree to disagree on this one.

 

[SgtSplacker]

That's it really. A man should do what benefits him. IMO dropping a disrespectful girl would be far more beneficial in the long run.

So by your logic a girl could do pretty much anything to you and you wouldn't drop her as long as she was an "easy lay"....think we will just have to agree to disagree on this one.

I'm with Deesade on this one. Always keep your doors open. It's not about putting your foot down or not. It's not about doing something to be in control. I'm always in control, I decide what someone is in my life and I don't have to prove something to them or myself. The moment a girl does something I don't like she changes in my eyes forever. No drama, no sit down convo, all decision making and execution.

Women need to understand that your approval is something she has to earn.

Last time a girl did something like this to me I just downgraded her. She thought I was being beta and accepting it until she started to notice she didn't have first options of my time and affection. And all while I'm taking advantage of the established sexual relations we already had. She could come over and pipe, and I had something to do after every time. An excuse to make her leave, is all it really was. She started to notice, and of course her frame did not allow her to see what was really going on. She just thought I was ignoring her for no reason, lol. I told her what was bothering me and she of course disputed my reasoning with hamstering. I just explained to her that she was not making me happy anymore despite any rationality she had for her actions she just wasn't making me happy plain and simple no arguments there. That woman never left my frame from then on.

And in the end what she did to piss me off I was doing to her before and after the downgrade. I was seeing other women and she knew it and this drove her nuts. I used the negative aspects of her character, her jealousy against her in such a way that any overt reaction would have been out of place. Just like when a girl friend zones you and you look like a chump complaining about it. Well I fuuck zoned her.

 

[BeTheChange]

I'm with Deesade on this one. Always keep your doors open. It's not about putting your foot down or not. It's not about doing something to be in control. I'm always in control, I decide what someone is in my life and I don't have to prove something to them or myself. The moment a girl does something I don't like she changes in my eyes forever. No drama, no sit down convo, all decision making and execution.

Women need to understand that your approval is something she has to earn.

Last time a girl did something like this to me I just downgraded her. She thought I was being beta and accepting it until she started to notice she didn't have first options of my time and affection. And all while I'm taking advantage of the established sexual relations we already had. She could come over and pipe, and I had something to do after every time. An excuse to make her leave, is all it really was. She started to notice, and of course her frame did not allow her to see what was really going on. She just thought I was ignoring her for no reason, lol. I told her what was bothering me and she of course disputed my reasoning with hamstering. I just explained to her that she was not making me happy anymore despite any rationality she had for her actions she just wasn't making me happy plain and simple no arguments there. That woman never left my frame from then on.

And in the end what she did to piss me off I was doing to her before and after the downgrade. I was seeing other women and she knew it and this drove her nuts. I used the negative aspects of her character, her jealousy against her in such a way that any overt reaction would have been out of place. Just like when a girl friend zones you and you look like a chump complaining about it. Well I fuuck zoned her.

It's got nothing to do with "putting your foot down" or having her "earn my approval". I couldn't care less. I would simply prefer to use what limited free time I have at the moment to spend it on better prospects.

And no matter how you try and justify it, even fvckbvddies require some maintenance. That's just not time I'm willing to give for someone who pulls that kind of behaviour. You might think differently. For me self-respect and time spent elsewhere is worth more than cheap pvssy. Each to their own.

 

[BeTheChange]

The girl in this case was merely speaking to other men on Tinder.

Guy get's upset, because he is blue-pill, and has probably never had the experience of dealing with a girl who has orbiters whilst using an alpha frame. So, he does the predictable thing - trying to "fix the relationship" (beta-game).

If he dumps her, it will merely be an ego response - caused by his getting played. That is just as beta in my opinion.

If he really can't get over that, then okay - dump her. Wise up for next time with a clean slate (plate), and don't be so easily tricked into being sexually-exclusive with anyone.

Law Of Power #20: Do Not Commit To Anyone.
It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others— playing people against one another, making them pursue you.

Cruising for c0ck on Tinder is not the same as entertaining orbiters. It's outright laying the groundwork for cheating if she hasn't already.

Dumping her is not beta. Trying to fix the relationship is. I might agree with your "turn a blindeye" position if this was just a plate. There are far more compelling reasons to dump someone in this situation than simple ego preservation (some of which I outlined above). Anyone who values their time would understand this.