How to approach college girl at my college

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Hello,

Now there's this girl in class who I 'think' is showing high interest in me, I purposely ignored her for half of semester and it seems like its grabbing her attention. I have to tell you all the details of interest before I go any further.

Throughout the semester I always catch her looking at me and she smiles sometimes and now she waves at me with a smile. I don't talk to her directly and recently she started sitting close to me. She even comes to my group in physics lab.

Now even tho I have been ignoring her which is the right thing to build interest, it wasn't done entirely on purpose.. I just don't know how to start a conversation. I'm quite shy and introverted. I have a natural 'mean face' even tho I'm not.. I'm not even funny and I don't know how to carry a conversation with a girl so I don't bother..

I do like this girl and Im sure she likes me but I don't know what to say at all or how to continue the conversation once it gets dry. I don't know anything about this girl other than we have calculus and physics together.. but I don't want to talk about class..

She gets a lot of attention from other guys, but for some reason she shows high interest in me.

What do I say first? How do I approach this girl the right way? And how do I continue the conversation once it gets dry? (With examples please) I tend to learn a lot better that way.

 

[C00lAF]

Hello,

Now there's this girl in class who I 'think' is showing high interest in me, I purposely ignored her for half of semester and it seems like its grabbing her attention. I have to tell you all the details of interest before I go any further.

Throughout the semester I always catch her looking at me and she smiles sometimes and now she waves at me with a smile. I don't talk to her directly and recently she started sitting close to me. She even comes to my group in physics lab.

Now even tho I have been ignoring her which is the right thing to build interest, it wasn't done entirely on purpose.. I just don't know how to start a conversation. I'm quite shy and introverted. I have a natural 'mean face' even tho I'm not.. I'm not even funny and I don't know how to carry a conversation with a girl so I don't bother..

I do like this girl and Im sure she likes me but I don't know what to say at all or how to continue the conversation once it gets dry. I don't know anything about this girl other than we have calculus and physics together.. but I don't want to talk about class..

She gets a lot of attention from other guys, but for some reason she shows high interest in me.

What do I say first? How do I approach this girl the right way? And how do I continue the conversation once it gets dry? (With examples please) I tend to learn a lot better that way.

Lol u didnt read the bible right?
Anyways what you are trying to do or have been doing is called playing hard to get,ignoring is kinda rude.2nd point you have symptoms of sever onetits wich means obssesing over 1 particular girl(or a plate,objectifying them helps you alot),wich means 7.5 out of 10 you wont end up in her bed cause u display behaviours such as:desperation(u wanna talk to her so bad),needyniss(you NEED her to talk to you or you feel devistated),the list goes on and on,you get my point.
Another mistake of yours is comparing yourself to other guys,the basic concept of being a dj is beleaving that you are the award and that plate is the lucky one to get your attention,fvck anything besides you and what you want. Plus she is showing u high intrest cause you are the only one who didnt shower her 455 with attention,she wants to win you to feel good about herself.
Okkkeeey,lets get to the point if i was you,i would smile(not a fake one,read about the diffrence there is an article in this site about smiles,find it) and hit her with a good morning,after that you say this in ahhhh idk how put this in words..in a non serious/funny yet smooth way with a smile on your face,tell her that its rude to look at you like that for weeks without saying anything,depends on your way of saying it she would either glare or laugh and starts explaining her self,you want the latter reaction,after she is done making noises extend your hands and introduce yourself,maintain eye contact and dont forget to blink and keep that smile on,after that command her to come with you to grab some coffe or something(dont pay for it,just dont) in ofc a fun way on the way there,be genuinly intrested in her as it will help you in active listening and coming up with good conversation topics(why did she choose her major,listen activley and ask questions based on her answers)when the meeting is in its peak,tell her that you have got a lecture or something to do,and she sounds like an intresting person that you would like to know on another level(no gf/bf bullsh1t this early,please),tell her to give you her contact info,hand her your phone,take hers,whatever u choose,nice to meet you,see ya.
Common mistakes:1.dont script this or you will forget it,grab the concept and do it your way.
2.body launguage,open,chest out,shoulders pulled backwards,heads high,no hands in your pockets,dont place objects infront of you.
3.dont talk about yourself,after you establish a connection with her,you can do what u want,just not now,create mystery and let her talk about her self
4.SPEAK CLEARLY AND SLOW(she says huh? And you are donezo)
5.dont take things too fast and build attraction naturally as you will see her alot.
6.approach side ways not direcrly and defenitly not from behind
7.for the love of satan dont turn into a chump after you take her number
8.no over complementing,flirt abit,make your intentions clear.
9.no gifts before atleast 2-3 months of knowing her.
Anyother questions?

 

[narcissist]

Just go up to her. Who cares if you fvck up. It is obvious from what you tell us that you have not gone through the process of approaching a bunch of women and fvcked up a bunch of approaches.

At this point you have to go up to a sh1t ton of women and just be sh1t at appraoching. Allow yourself to suck at conversations, allow yourself to be sh1t with women, dont try to make the approach perfect. What does this mean? It means that every approach should be an experiment for you, including this girl. Just go up to her and and say "whats up, you're cute, I want to take you out, whats your number?" If shes interested she will give you her number, if not then she wont. If she does and you take her out and you suck at convo's oh well, at least you are in a position to work on it. It doesnt matter what you say, are what her response is, or how the approach went, all that matters is that you fvcking went up. Once you get over your obvious problem of building up an approach for half of a semester, THEN AND ONLY THEN should you start worrying about the mechanics of the approach.

But heres the point I am trying to make:

YOU WILL NOT IMPROVE WITH WOMEN UNLESS YOU GO FVCKING TALK TO THEM. YOU HAVE TO FVCK UP WITH THEM FIRST BEFORE YOU BECOME GOOD.

Stop treating this girl as something that will work out. You have to go up and allow yourself to be sh1t. Allow yourself to fvck up. Allow yourself to get rejected.

So this is the advice you need: Go approach a bunch of women. Do not care about the outcome, unless the outcome is how you are improving. Treat each approach as something that is making YOU better. Eventually you'll get pvssy.

PVSSY SHOULD NOT BE YOUR GOAL RIGHT NOW. YOU HAVE TO FINE TUNE WHO YOU ARE.

If you cannot even hold a conversation with a girl, then that tells me that you have not gone through the process yet. At this point in your journey you gotta think of women as a means to an end. NOT THE END.

 

[Big dog]

Just go up to her. Who cares if you fvck up. It is obvious from what you tell us that you have not gone through the process of approaching a bunch of women and fvcked up a bunch of approaches.

At this point you have to go up to a sh1t ton of women and just be sh1t at appraoching. Allow yourself to suck at conversations, allow yourself to be sh1t with women, dont try to make the approach perfect. What does this mean? It means that every approach should be an experiment for you, including this girl. Just go up to her and and say "whats up, you're cute, I want to take you out, whats your number?" If shes interested she will give you her number, if not then she wont. If she does and you take her out and you suck at convo's oh well, at least you are in a position to work on it. It doesnt matter what you say, are what her response is, or how the approach went, all that matters is that you fvcking went up. Once you get over your obvious problem of building up an approach for half of a semester, THEN AND ONLY THEN should you start worrying about the mechanics of the approach.

But heres the point I am trying to make:

YOU WILL NOT IMPROVE WITH WOMEN UNLESS YOU GO FVCKING TALK TO THEM. YOU HAVE TO FVCK UP WITH THEM FIRST BEFORE YOU BECOME GOOD.

Stop treating this girl as something that will work out. You have to go up and allow yourself to be sh1t. Allow yourself to fvck up. Allow yourself to get rejected.

So this is the advice you need: Go approach a bunch of women. Do not care about the outcome, unless the outcome is how you are improving. Treat each approach as something that is making YOU better. Eventually you'll get pvssy.

PVSSY SHOULD NOT BE YOUR GOAL RIGHT NOW. YOU HAVE TO FINE TUNE WHO YOU ARE.

If you cannot even hold a conversation with a girl, then that tells me that you have not gone through the process yet. At this point in your journey you gotta think of women as a means to an end. NOT THE END.

Exactly. Clear and to the point

 

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Just go up to her. Who cares if you fvck up. It is obvious from what you tell us that you have not gone through the process of approaching a bunch of women and fvcked up a bunch of approaches.

At this point you have to go up to a sh1t ton of women and just be sh1t at appraoching. Allow yourself to suck at conversations, allow yourself to be sh1t with women, dont try to make the approach perfect. What does this mean? It means that every approach should be an experiment for you, including this girl. Just go up to her and and say "whats up, you're cute, I want to take you out, whats your number?" If shes interested she will give you her number, if not then she wont. If she does and you take her out and you suck at convo's oh well, at least you are in a position to work on it. It doesnt matter what you say, are what her response is, or how the approach went, all that matters is that you fvcking went up. Once you get over your obvious problem of building up an approach for half of a semester, THEN AND ONLY THEN should you start worrying about the mechanics of the approach.

But heres the point I am trying to make:

YOU WILL NOT IMPROVE WITH WOMEN UNLESS YOU GO FVCKING TALK TO THEM. YOU HAVE TO FVCK UP WITH THEM FIRST BEFORE YOU BECOME GOOD.

Stop treating this girl as something that will work out. You have to go up and allow yourself to be sh1t. Allow yourself to fvck up. Allow yourself to get rejected.

So this is the advice you need: Go approach a bunch of women. Do not care about the outcome, unless the outcome is how you are improving. Treat each approach as something that is making YOU better. Eventually you'll get pvssy.

PVSSY SHOULD NOT BE YOUR GOAL RIGHT NOW. YOU HAVE TO FINE TUNE WHO YOU ARE.

If you cannot even hold a conversation with a girl, then that tells me that you have not gone through the process yet. At this point in your journey you gotta think of women as a means to an end. NOT THE END.

Yes, you're right. Thank you. I will remember this post for years to come.

 

[devilkingx2]

here's my approach strategy:

1. accept that no matter what you say it probably won't result in success anyway.

2. realize this frees you up to say anything you desire

3. thing of some hilarious gag or something that would make a great story to tell your friends, just some opener that's a huge novelty to you (example: i used to go up to girls with a mini bible in hand going "do you have a moment to hear about our lord and savior jesus christ?" while holding back laughter, then when they inevitably say no i'd just put the bible away and keep talking to them normally)

4. try out opener on random girls until you grow bored (the bible thing was pretty funny and made great stories, one particularly harsh girl completely demoralized me though so i stopped doing it and gave the bible to a friend. got several numbers out of it though.

5. repeat step 3-4 until you've either gotten too many dates to schedule more, OR until you've run out of morale/motivation

the point of step 3-4 is that enjoying the approach as a novelty and telling funny stories is going to make every approach a success but if you care about things like, actually getting the girl, then you won't enjoy any approach you do ever (even the best PUAs get rejected all the time)

 

[Juanto]

Speaking of approaching, I know this 21 year old girl who works at a coffee place close to my place, and also lives right on the other side of my street. We´ve exchanged a few looks but today I heard she has a boyfriend (back in France, we are in Portugal). Apparently she likes to play pool close to where we live, but how should I go about this? For example give her my business card with my number and tell her when she wants to shoot me a text to play some pool (and ignore the boyfriend situation)? And how can I be discreet about it since its her working place?

 

[devilkingx2]

Speaking of approaching, I know this 21 year old girl who works at a coffee place close to my place, and also lives right on the other side of my street. We´ve exchanged a few looks but today I heard she has a boyfriend (back in France, we are in Portugal). Apparently she likes to play pool close to where we live, but how should I go about this? For example give her my business card with my number and tell her when she wants to shoot me a text to play some pool (and ignore the boyfriend situation)? And how can I be discreet about it since its her working place?

problems:

1. she has a boyfriend, even if you don't care about good morals, even if you know that he won't track you down and kick your ass or that she won't lie about what happened to throw you under the bus, even if you know that you wouldn't accidentally catch feels for a girl who is taken (or worse, a girl who leaves her old man for the new and is therefore particularly disloyal) there is still the main issue: she'll be much harder to get if she's not a complete slvt, why would you opt to play the game on hard?

2. you wouldn't be able to use experimental game, you'd have to keep things by the book/tried and true because if you accidentally do anything that would piss her off, things may be awkward if you ever go to that shop, or she may c0ckblock you or offer you intentionally ****ty service, etc.

to avoid those problems, i recommend figuring out her relationship status and how serious it is before you dive into the flirting, also use indirect game for your approach

 

[Juanto]

problems:

1. she has a boyfriend, even if you don't care about good morals, even if you know that he won't track you down and kick your ass or that she won't lie about what happened to throw you under the bus, even if you know that you wouldn't accidentally catch feels for a girl who is taken (or worse, a girl who leaves her old man for the new and is therefore particularly disloyal) there is still the main issue: she'll be much harder to get if she's not a complete slvt, why would you opt to play the game on hard?

2. you wouldn't be able to use experimental game, you'd have to keep things by the book/tried and true because if you accidentally do anything that would piss her off, things may be awkward if you ever go to that shop, or she may c0ckblock you or offer you intentionally ****ty service, etc.

to avoid those problems, i recommend figuring out her relationship status and how serious it is before you dive into the flirting, also use indirect game for your approach

Thanks devilking. And what do you mean more precisely with indirect game in this case?

 

[devilkingx2]

Thanks devilking. And what do you mean more precisely with indirect game in this case?

direct game: "ayy bby, how you doin'? "

indirect game: "oh hello stranger, i noticed you're looking at [insert book you've never heard of], well now i know you've got good taste, that one's one of the classics of [insert genre you know nothing about], [author you don't give a sh!t about] was a genius, my names [your name] by the way, what's yours?"

disclaimer: those examples are for comedic effect to illustrate a point, do not actually try those word for word.... unless you're amazingly good looking, then do whatever

essentially, direct game is when you make it obvious from the outset that this is a pickup attempt, works best in places where you're supposed to pickup (bars, parties, clubs, etc.) or if you're amazing (famous, super good looking, etc.)

indirect game is when you "just so happen" to see a pretty girl doing something you (conveniently) want to talk about, so you go over and say hi, works best for daygame or if your game isn't refined to perfection yet

 

[devilkingx2]

This should be a deal-breaker, always.

The whole point of being a charming man who can cold-approach is that you have the freedom not to fall into this little box.

And you use this great freedom only to confine yourself? Makes no sense at all.

Every time that I go out to approach, there are at least 15 good options (at least). If I started screwing around with Michelle from Macdonalds, I would cause myself unnecessary grief for that area when I am doing my laps.

Don't get me wrong: you will bump into the same chicks eventually. I saw this girl in a supermarket today from behind... she was fvcking hot (HB8). I considered the approach. When she turned around, it was a girl that I had already number closed, and completely flaked on me a few months back LMAO.

But when you purposely start approaching store assistants, you are causing yourself grief for absolutely no reason.

Think about value. A venue has a billion times more value than a woman.

depends on the value of the venue of course, and on your actual game. i once hit on every single girl in a college class that i had for the entire semester, and it worked out fine (got a bunch of numbers, zero texts back, however it didn't have any negative repurcussions or anything)

if the venue isn't important you can do whatever, if the venue is important then as long as you make sure to not do anything risky you should be fine (though, if your game is very, very risky, don't try it anywhere that's important to you)

we don't know enough about Juanto's game to say whether or not he can hit on a girl without potential fallout or awkwardness(several of the girls i cold approached in that college class didn't even care enough to say hi, let alone to bother me while i was talking to another person or cause me problems).

 

[Juanto]

to avoid those problems, i recommend figuring out her relationship status and how serious it is before you dive into the flirting, also use indirect game for your approach

Hard to do this(figuring out her relationship status) when she is working, especially since its almost impossible to be impossible with her. The place is small and I can sit at the bar and she is immediately in front of me, but there is always at least one other colleague of her, and potential clients around.

I do know she lives with 2 other girls (I live alone), and that she plays pool in a place close to me as well.

 

[Juanto]

depends on the value of the venue of course, and on your actual game. i once hit on every single girl in a college class that i had for the entire semester, and it worked out fine (got a bunch of numbers, zero texts back, however it didn't have any negative repurcussions or anything)

if the venue isn't important you can do whatever, if the venue is important then as long as you make sure to not do anything risky you should be fine (though, if your game is very, very risky, don't try it anywhere that's important to you)

we don't know enough about Juanto's game to say whether or not he can hit on a girl without potential fallout or awkwardness(several of the girls i cold approached in that college class didn't even care enough to say hi, let alone to bother me while i was talking to another person or cause me problems).

Venue isnt important, I go there only from time to time to have some snack during the afternoon. Its a very small place as well.

 

[devilkingx2]

I am a fairly seasoned daygamer. And I know that if you are crushing on a store clerk, you are doing it fvcking wrong.

Fvck her. There are 15 more on the street tomorrow.

Any girl that you have to think about for any length generally goes badly anyway. The point is to throw yourself into sets - not develop a sniper mentality for nailing one woman.

oh yeah, that's a good point. i forgot about how it's a bad idea to hit on anyone who's paid to be nice to you lol.

i wouldn't call myself seasoned, but i've done a couple dozen cold approaches i'd say.

Hard to do this(figuring out her relationship status) when she is working, especially since its almost impossible to be impossible with her. The place is small and I can sit at the bar and she is immediately in front of me, but there is always at least one other colleague of her, and potential clients around.

I do know she lives with 2 other girls (I live alone), and that she plays pool in a place close to me as well.

so... how exactly do you plan to hit on her if you can't even get her alone to talk to?

 

[devilkingx2]

I am seasoned. Which is exactly why I have the cheek to call guys out on here

There are literally many many beautiful women (options for you) in the average daygame trawl.

You have decided to sniper one particular woman - this is beta game.

Now don't get offended or anything like a woman. It's okay for men to fall into nonsense now and again.

Correct it. I seriously can't imagine honing my game for the hot chick that I saw today working in ASDA supermarket.

Come on, man. I know this game. I play it weekly.

I have absolutely no idea why you are making life hard for yourself with this store clerk with a boyfriend. There is another (probably better) option walking by in 10 minutes with less risk.

Forget about her, and approach sexier women.

the store clerk thing was Juanto not me lol. i meant that i forgot to tell him it's a bad idea to hit on someone who has to be nice as a part of their job because it's hard to tell if they're interested

but this is good advice for him, and i completely agree with you