I feel like getting hot girls would have meant way more for me if I was younger.

[Listen_to_Olly]

I don't even know how to describe it but as a guy who entered his 30s just recently, but started to feel like this in his late 20s, I feel like getting hot girls and just even all of this in general has lost its appeal to me as I have gotten older.

A year ago I slept with this beautiful girl that was 21 years old and even though the sex felt great, along with knowing I pulled her, the next day I was kinda saddened by this feeling. I felt like if I had gotten with her if we were both 21, it would have felt that much better.

Now it's like I get hot girls, we ****, its over, we go on, and that's like it. Even when I date them, it doesn't have that same magic to it. When I was in college though, the whole thing felt better. Like I would date a hot girl, we would go out, go to a formal together, go to social events together where we saw lots of familiar faces, and just talking to my friends about all of my success with women.

It's like that feeling of community that came with school made getting a cute girl that much better but now that I am in my 30s, it is like whatever, you get them and move on....

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

That's why I plan to marry later on. There's some people here where their only social skills are pulling women and nothing else. They just seem weird to me. Married people who have kids seem a bit more normal (if they were divorced it still counts) albeit stressed out. I know the secrets of the game and woman though so I believe I will have the best of both.

 

[Dingo]

As you get older you realize that beauty albeit important is only one aspect to a healthy pairing.

Maybe unconsciously your getting that....

 

[Listen_to_Olly]

As you get older you realize that beauty albeit important is only one aspect to a healthy pairing.

Maybe unconsciously your getting that....

I don't want an LTR for love or intimacy, personality means jack **** to me, this is a don juan forum and not some marriage place.

 

[foreverAFC]

yeah man, banging hot young girls all the time sounds like such a drag

 

[Listen_to_Olly]

That's why I plan to marry later on. There's some people here where their only social skills are pulling women and nothing else. They just seem weird to me. Married people who have kids seem a bit more normal (if they were divorced it still counts) albeit stressed out. I know the secrets of the game and woman though so I believe I will have the best of both.

I have considered that route soon too, I mean at this point why not?

Other than a nice wedding, what else can you really experience with women in your 30s? Sex is sex, I've had plenty of it.

Then I realized that it isn't even the sex that got me going as much as it was as being known as the guy that has plenty of sex. It wasn't the sex after the prom I loved as much as it was taking a pretty girl out to prom and being known as the guy that did. It wasn't the sex in college I loved as much as it was being known by his peers and bros as the guy who had tons of it.

I mean it's just sex, we really want sex for things outside of sex because sex is just that, a few minutes (YMMV) of pleasure. It is the validation, acknowledgement from our peers, and recognition for being guys that are good with women that we want from sex.

I might as well consider a marriage, at this point there isn't much left to do than have a nice wedding.

 

[devilkingx2]

that "magic" is the pedestal, and you took them off of it.

a hotter girl is the same as car that looks cooler, you don't buy your cars solely off of which one looks the coolest right?

 

[Poon King]

Mindset and wisdom is everything in this game.

Stop looking for "magic". This isn't a Disney movie. Magic doesn't exist.

Too many men don't truly understand what a woman's purpose is. Women don't exist to "complete you" or give your life purpose. They exist to help you reproduce and to give you sexual pleasure. They can also provide great companionship under the right conditions. That is their ONLY purpose.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Happiness comes from inside, if it's not there right now then you just can't be truly happy.

Even a surprise you just got laid party waiting for you outside your bedroom with all your besties lined up giving you high fives as you walk out will get old after a while if your happiness does not come from inside you.

 

[Who Dares Win]

I don't even know how to describe it but as a guy who entered his 30s just recently, but started to feel like this in his late 20s, I feel like getting hot girls and just even all of this in general has lost its appeal to me as I have gotten older.

A year ago I slept with this beautiful girl that was 21 years old and even though the sex felt great, along with knowing I pulled her, the next day I was kinda saddened by this feeling. I felt like if I had gotten with her if we were both 21, it would have felt that much better.

Now it's like I get hot girls, we ****, its over, we go on, and that's like it. Even when I date them, it doesn't have that same magic to it. When I was in college though, the whole thing felt better. Like I would date a hot girl, we would go out, go to a formal together, go to social events together where we saw lots of familiar faces, and just talking to my friends about all of my success with women.

It's like that feeling of community that came with school made getting a cute girl that much better but now that I am in my 30s, it is like whatever, you get them and move on....

Can relate with what you said.

Had problems in my late teens and early 20s to pick up girls, was out of shape, socially retarted and insecure so hot girls werent even a concern as much as buying a 2 million euros car is not now.

Then in my late 20s and now it got much better and just like you I finally started to have my share of hot girls, so yeah I can understand what you talk about, I had a great girl two yrs ago full package if she had bigger b00bs she would have been a goddess.

Yet I felt like that if we were to meet in different condition with both of us being 19 and not me being 29 I would have had a total different experience, much more personally fulfilling.

Right now I can have the hottest girl possible in front of me yet there is no fast heartbeat or nervous stimulation, its not any different than driving a car in the traffic, its all about management and alertness.

Maybe @devilkingx2 is right, we just removed the pedestal or maybe your brain has been taken over from the logical part, hard to say except that when we are young we probably live certain facts with a total different commitment and involvment.

 

[Trump]

I don't even know how to describe it but as a guy who entered his 30s just recently, but started to feel like this in his late 20s, I feel like getting hot girls and just even all of this in general has lost its appeal to me as I have gotten older.

A year ago I slept with this beautiful girl that was 21 years old and even though the sex felt great, along with knowing I pulled her, the next day I was kinda saddened by this feeling. I felt like if I had gotten with her if we were both 21, it would have felt that much better.

Now it's like I get hot girls, we ****, its over, we go on, and that's like it. Even when I date them, it doesn't have that same magic to it. When I was in college though, the whole thing felt better. Like I would date a hot girl, we would go out, go to a formal together, go to social events together where we saw lots of familiar faces, and just talking to my friends about all of my success with women.

It's like that feeling of community that came with school made getting a cute girl that much better but now that I am in my 30s, it is like whatever, you get them and move on....

I think this post rings very true for alot of guys.

When you are in high school. college, mid to late 20s, because of the media, society's rules, peer pressure, family pressure, it is very important to have a girlfriend/hot girl to go out with, show off with your friends, to have sex with. But when you get older, you start caring less and less and care more about your place in society, your legacy, your offspring.

I think that's the main point of this site, to understand that notion as early as you can and not depend on women for anything but sex and babies.

 

[Listen_to_Olly]

Mindset and wisdom is everything in this game.

Stop looking for "magic". This isn't a Disney movie. Magic doesn't exist.

Too many men don't truly understand what a woman's purpose is. Women don't exist to "complete you" or give your life purpose. They exist to help you reproduce and to give you sexual pleasure. They can also provide great companionship under the right conditions. That is their ONLY purpose.

I actually do understand that and never wanted the Disney experience, truth is I just want something else out of the game even though I understand that women are for sex for the most part.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

No offense OP but you sound like a broad talking about all these "feelings".

The silver lining is you have plenty experience and you are living your life the way you want it to be. If you "feel" like you have a void find other ways fill that void. Atleast you have the knowledge to know you do not need a woman to feel complete and or successful. Good luck with the whole marriage deal.

 

[zekko]

Too many men don't truly understand what a woman's purpose is. Women don't exist to "complete you" or give your life purpose. They exist to help you reproduce and to give you sexual pleasure. They can also provide great companionship under the right conditions.

I agree with this, although I wouldn't say magic doesn't exist. You can find magic in seemingly the most ordinary, everyday events. The wind blowing through the grass under the blue sky on a sunny morning, for one quick example. Certainly you can find it in an attractive young girl. As you say, just don't place her in a position of importance that she doesn't deserve or that is detrimental to yourself.

 

[bigneil]

Seriously, is this a woman posing as a man? What 30 year old man bangs a hot 21 year old and then wishes he was 21? 21 year old men get laughed at by 21 year old women, who choose men with resources and experience. Using the half your age plus 7 rule (which matches a 40 year old man with a 27 year old woman, the first years they seem 'older'), 30 and 22 is ideal. I'm 46 dating a 20.99 year old, and made out with a 21 year old and 25 year old tonight at a costume party.

Sadly, gone are the days when women strived to provide more than beauty. Now they are told they are always beautiful (even when fat), and we are told "all women should be celebrated" which is hogwash. That's like saying "All sports players are superstars". So they aren't learning gardening, cooking, housekeeping or piano anymore. They aren't striving to be good mothers, wives, masseuses and lovers anymore. So now, a 30 year old woman is basically a jaded 20 year old woman with wrinkles, kids, tattoos and herpes, who demands you have a house or she'll b!tch at you within a few sentences. After all, your tax dollars provide her with the equivalent of a $65,000 annual salary just to sit at home, so unless you're making triple figures, welfare moms will laugh at you.

So men are better off staying single unless they want kids, in which case honor and the State will force you to deal with her, and they will underwrite her every bad decision.

 

[bigneil]

Women don't exist to "complete you" or give your life purpose.

Likewise, a woman's purpose is never to be with you, no matter how great you are. Once upon a time, that might have been the case. But today's "liberated" woman feels a need to be a CEO before having your child, and poo-poo's motherhood as a sacrifice of her body and career. This makes men and women even less compatible. Now your would-be wife is competing with you for your promotion.

 

[70th Win]

I'm finding that as I get older it's easier to get girls but there are definitely things I miss about being young. Some parts were easier back then.