Will you guys help a 3/10 get a date?
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sorry mate. but that's women rate me. so i guess it sticked
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If you're rating yourself like that, you need to focus on building your self confidence. I'm not some kind of Rico Suave, but I know I've come a long way in the past few years. Used to suffer from major depression but now I feel pretty secure and confident in myself. Self improvement is my favorite hobby. Set small goals for yourself in all aspects of your life and work towards them every day. Work out, learn an instrument, try to get a better job or promotion. Quit a bad habit. Something, anything. As you achieve these goals you will start to value yourself much more.
but what if women see you like that. is it game over?
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Have you read the DJ Bible? Especially the works of Pook? You need to see yourself as a catch. Don't pedestal women. Pedestal yourself. Girls are attracted to confidence. Sure, physical appearance helps out, but you can be a good looking guy and get nowhere with women if you have no self confidence. What's the context behind you being rated a 3 anyways? How many women said that? And in what setting?
mostly online dating, social networks: Facebook, Tinder etc. Lots of women. Yes the words of Pook are inspiring but i was wondering if he was including guys like myself when he made the Book Of Pook.
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The Book of Pook is for everyone. Also, it sounds like you might be directly asking these women to rate you, which isn't something a confident guy would do, resulting in a lower score. Because women like confidence. Even if you aren't the best looking guy, you can do things to improve your physical appearance if that is what you are really concerned about. Get in shape. Workout, diet and stick to it. Dress nicely. Get a good haircut. Maybe these could be small things to help you boost your confidence.
Also, it's all a numbers game. I bang maybe 1 out of 100 chicks I approach. Guys that are really good? Maybe 10-15 out of 100. The more you do it, the more numb you'll become to rejection, and the better your game will get.
Also, it's all a numbers game. I bang maybe 1 out of 100 chicks I approach. Guys that are really good? Maybe 10-15 out of 100. The more you do it, the more numb you'll become to rejection, and the better your game will get.
devilkingx2
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depends on why you're a 3/10
if you're like 4'4 then good luck
if you're fat then you can lose weight and get buff in the gym instead
if you're bald then you can shave your head and make it work
if you've got acne then there's all sorts of expensive chemicals you can rub on your face for that
if you're broke you can get a job
if you've got a bad sense of style you can get a stylish friend or ask us stylish DJs to recommend you some suave wardrobe choices
if you've got a terrible personality, you can work on that, fix your anger issues or insecurities or whatever, learn to tell some good jokes, etc.
if you're boring you can read some books, watch some shows and get good at telling jokes to become more interesting
if you're ugly for reasons not mentioned above then save up for plastic surgery
if you're not really a 3/10 and it's all in your head then post your pic so we can give you compliments with a "no homo" disclaimer attached to build up your self esteem
this has been a comprehensive guide to self improvement by yours truly
if you're like 4'4 then good luck
if you're fat then you can lose weight and get buff in the gym instead
if you're bald then you can shave your head and make it work
if you've got acne then there's all sorts of expensive chemicals you can rub on your face for that
if you're broke you can get a job
if you've got a bad sense of style you can get a stylish friend or ask us stylish DJs to recommend you some suave wardrobe choices
if you've got a terrible personality, you can work on that, fix your anger issues or insecurities or whatever, learn to tell some good jokes, etc.
if you're boring you can read some books, watch some shows and get good at telling jokes to become more interesting
if you're ugly for reasons not mentioned above then save up for plastic surgery
if you're not really a 3/10 and it's all in your head then post your pic so we can give you compliments with a "no homo" disclaimer attached to build up your self esteem
this has been a comprehensive guide to self improvement by yours truly
You care too much about others' opinions. And worse still, you derive your value and your intrinsic sense of
worth from their opinions. I can almost guarantee this is emancipating from your pores and your very being.
Check out David X........he hasn't let his unsightly physical appearance stop him
watch "be relentless" for a bit of an attitude adjustment
Of course that doesn't mean you shouldn't work on your physical........but sort out your mentality at the same time
Loot at this poor bastard.....no legs no arms..........he's married.......and a motivational speaker...
You beat easily a 10/10 when you are awesome, funny, know what you want, smart, self confident, independent, ...
Start being it.
TheMonkeyKing
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This is the crux of your problem. You are focused on how others perceive you, rather than how you perceive yourself. Flip the script and you'll notice results immediately.
Game is 90% what you think and 10% what you do.
Mick jagger is an ugly mofo but he enters every room with confidence. Women will notice your confidence and your swagger even if you say you are a 3 out of 10. If you command the room and if you walk tall snd learn how to carry yourself you would be surprised how your 3 will jump to a 6 or 7 in no time. Read the don juan bible. Work on cold approaching. Build your confidence
Bible_Belt
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Wanting to be on a date is kinda pathetic. Girls think like that. You should want to be getting laid. Dating is for guys who don't know any better way to get sex.
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495/500 rejections. That must hurt a lot.
When you are depressed (3/10) I guess you need to feel to be able to move forward (some success), not to feel burning rejection 500 times. The inner game advice here is rock solid, but probably not actionable for him. I would try to increase the probability by being smart about it. Determine your best skill. Eliminate those skills not shared by women. Improve your skill further. Let's say you speak french. Determine your skill level and join the next course (even if it is a bloody beginner's course). Pro: Give a course.
You read the interest level of the other female participants. Ask the girl out with the highest interest level (smiles, questions, body language). If necessary move on to the next and the next and the next girl. Maybe you want to ask for coffee (small investment). It is probably not the most alpha way of doing things, but I guess a small success is better than none. Get the number. Wait a couple of days. Ask her out, must not even be coffee. Date.
When you are depressed (3/10) I guess you need to feel to be able to move forward (some success), not to feel burning rejection 500 times. The inner game advice here is rock solid, but probably not actionable for him. I would try to increase the probability by being smart about it. Determine your best skill. Eliminate those skills not shared by women. Improve your skill further. Let's say you speak french. Determine your skill level and join the next course (even if it is a bloody beginner's course). Pro: Give a course.
You read the interest level of the other female participants. Ask the girl out with the highest interest level (smiles, questions, body language). If necessary move on to the next and the next and the next girl. Maybe you want to ask for coffee (small investment). It is probably not the most alpha way of doing things, but I guess a small success is better than none. Get the number. Wait a couple of days. Ask her out, must not even be coffee. Date.
IBreatheSpears
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What do you do (I mean you personally) instead of go on dates?
Bible_Belt
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Girls who are the most down to fvck don't want dinner and a movie. It's boring, cheesy, and a waste of time and money. They typically want to meet you in a public place like a bar, have two drinks, and then go back to either her place or yours. The dating ritual is not about sex, it is about showing you are a good provider, which is what women traditionally had to trade for sex. Now that women work, they don't need men as providers. Many women still want that, though. They are the ones asking you what you do for a living as soon as you say hello, and trying to get you to buy them dinner. Girls who want to date don't want to fvck, they want to interview husband candidates.
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It is actionable. You need to have the mindset that anything is achievable if you work hard enough at it, like the guy without arms and legs in the video Reykhel posted. There is a Japanese Proverb that goes: "fall down seven times, stand up eight." Seriously, he needs to get rejected. Again and again and again. So he can go from the point where gets rejected and thinks "oh god, that was awful, poor me, I'm a failure" to "oh well, her loss, next". Some people are naturally skilled at things but the only way we can learn if we are not is through repeated failure. Fail enough times at something and you will slowly get better at it, so long as you keep trying.
Successful guys, you know the ones that are "ladykillers" get rejected plenty of times too. They just don't get hung up on one girl or let it hurt their ego when they get rejected. They know there's other women out there interested in them, and they're not gonna waste any time on the ones that aren't. next, next, next, next, next, next , next, WIN.
Oh, and btw, when I used that whole "two day rule" thing my success rate was far lower than it is now. Attractive girls get hit on multiple times a day. You need to ask her out early, preferably in person but if not, no later than the day after you get her number, otherwise she's gonna forget about you when the next guy comes along who doesn't use that stupid rule. The longer you wait, the more that initial attraction you built is gonna fade. I notice more flakes the further out I set the date.
mrgoodstuff
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Building confidence takes time, but will be a by product of "taking care of yourself". The more confidence you have, the more confidence you can get...
