Picked up on this HB8 that works in a restaurant I frequent, a couple of weeks ago. She's a younger girl (21), I'm 35. She was constantly flirting with me whenever I visited the restaurant, writing notes on my check, comping free food, etc. so I eventually went for it and asked for her number.
I texted her about 10-15 minutes after getting her number to set up a time to meet. We decided on dinner two days later but she ended up flaking the day before due to work/school. I understood, waited a day or two and rescheduled.
We ended up going out a week later and went to a nice restaurant about an hour away from the city. I drove. We talked in car the entire way there, there was definitely chemistry and some light touching (initiated by her). We held hands briefly going into the restaurant and joked about how long it took to get there.
About 3/4 of the way through dinner she asked if I had children (she's seen my son at the restaurant before so it's natural she'd ask), I said yes and she seemed to be fine with it or was just playing it off like she was okay with it. She got up to use the restroom and when she returned she said that her friend had an emergency and that she needed to leave as soon as dinner was over. (I knew this was going south right here so I asked the waiter for the check and drove her home).
During the ride home she kept apologizing but was a lot less engaged in conversation (she was texting most of the time on her phone). She asked if I was dating and I said "yes, sort of but not really" she mentioned that she was dating a guy but it wasn't serious and that she wasn't really into him because she's into older guys. She kept talking about how she loves kids and would like to meet my daughter etc. Basically she was trying to show interest in me, so I take this moment to ask her when she's free again, and she says Thursday would be good to do this again and we start talking about where we should go next.
Anyway, we get back to her place, she gives me a hug, and says she has a great time. She texts me 2 hours later (2-3 am) to say she got home safe and that her friend's okay. I don't respond because I'm knocked out. I text her back in the morning "Great. Glad to hear she's doing okay. I had a good time last night" and leave it at that.
About 8 hours later I text her and ask if she's still free Thursday. She says she'll check, asks what I wanted to do and I told her (dinner again). She texts back the next day saying she can't make it-- too much work and school. I say, okay and ask if there's anything I can help with? She's hesitant at first but then asks if I can help her summarize an essay she's reading (she's foreign btw, been here for a year or two). I start feeling like a sucker but say yes anyway and help her out.
About a day later, I text her again seeing if we can reschedule that Thursday date and she says she's still busy the next week but maybe we can meet again sometime this month?
At this point I'm over it. I didn't respond and deleted her number.
So guys, did I do the right thing?
I texted her about 10-15 minutes after getting her number to set up a time to meet. We decided on dinner two days later but she ended up flaking the day before due to work/school. I understood, waited a day or two and rescheduled.
We ended up going out a week later and went to a nice restaurant about an hour away from the city. I drove. We talked in car the entire way there, there was definitely chemistry and some light touching (initiated by her). We held hands briefly going into the restaurant and joked about how long it took to get there.
About 3/4 of the way through dinner she asked if I had children (she's seen my son at the restaurant before so it's natural she'd ask), I said yes and she seemed to be fine with it or was just playing it off like she was okay with it. She got up to use the restroom and when she returned she said that her friend had an emergency and that she needed to leave as soon as dinner was over. (I knew this was going south right here so I asked the waiter for the check and drove her home).
During the ride home she kept apologizing but was a lot less engaged in conversation (she was texting most of the time on her phone). She asked if I was dating and I said "yes, sort of but not really" she mentioned that she was dating a guy but it wasn't serious and that she wasn't really into him because she's into older guys. She kept talking about how she loves kids and would like to meet my daughter etc. Basically she was trying to show interest in me, so I take this moment to ask her when she's free again, and she says Thursday would be good to do this again and we start talking about where we should go next.
Anyway, we get back to her place, she gives me a hug, and says she has a great time. She texts me 2 hours later (2-3 am) to say she got home safe and that her friend's okay. I don't respond because I'm knocked out. I text her back in the morning "Great. Glad to hear she's doing okay. I had a good time last night" and leave it at that.
About 8 hours later I text her and ask if she's still free Thursday. She says she'll check, asks what I wanted to do and I told her (dinner again). She texts back the next day saying she can't make it-- too much work and school. I say, okay and ask if there's anything I can help with? She's hesitant at first but then asks if I can help her summarize an essay she's reading (she's foreign btw, been here for a year or two). I start feeling like a sucker but say yes anyway and help her out.
About a day later, I text her again seeing if we can reschedule that Thursday date and she says she's still busy the next week but maybe we can meet again sometime this month?
At this point I'm over it. I didn't respond and deleted her number.
So guys, did I do the right thing?
