That's good, I'll give that a try.
I suppose it doesn't hurt to post it now, mainly for feedback from the others here. I was tempted to make a separate thread about it but I kinda figured I already nipped this one and it doesn't matter now....but after reading some replies, is there anything else I could do to make it better if this ever comes up again?
So about a month ago the wife went out with the 2 single friends I mentioned. They were running a 5k, not so much for competition but just to participate. My wife did her first 5k last year and I told her how proud I was of her to achieve this goal, etc., etc. So, doing this 5k with the friends, I think this was her 3rd 5k to run. The 5k started at around 5:30PM. It was understood that I'd deal with the kids the rest of the evening, no problem. We do that stuff for each other. A 5k takes no more than maybe 1 hour to run even for the slow-pokes so in my mind I am anticipating that she'll be back by the time the kids are going to bed, I'm figuring around 8:30, 9 at the absolute latest.
I did not actually ask her what time she'd be home. We've been married over 10 years I guess I just figured she'd be home around our usual time. The only time we ever stay out later than that is if we're out for date night or we're all out as a family somewhere.
So, 9PM comes and goes, I tried calling her around that time, twice in fact. No answer. I get the kids to bed wondering what the hell is up cause there is no way they're still running. I figured they would go get dinner, but come on answer the damn phone when I call. She finally calls me back at around 10:30 to see what I wanted. By that time I'm pretty angry she isn't home so I cut the convo very short by simply asking where she was and when would she be home. She says she'll be home shortly.
So I'm pissed off because of how disrespectful she is being. I had kids asking where mommy is and I can't even give them an answer because I don't know. I figure I'm not going to worry about it anymore and go to bed, so I lock all the doors and the gate to the property in such a way she is unable to get in. No keys are gonna work, garage door openers unplugged, gate's barred, all windows locked and house is dark. So finally around 12:30 i hear banging on my bedroom window from one of her friends that she needs to get in cause she left her purse inside. I honestly didn't even realize that. So I get up and open the door for her to come in and get it and tell the wife to just wait outside right where she is. So this friend who is getting her purse is looking around like "wtf is going on?", after snagging her purse keeps looking to my wife wanting some kind of explanation of what's happening, wife has none to give cause she doesn't know either.
Wife was still in her jogging outfit from when she left but I noticed she had glitter on her, and I asked where that came from, it was from the other friend who typically likes doing that crap. Wife motions for friends to leave but they keep hanging around near the street I guess expecting some huge fight to erupt. I never fight in such a manner. I keep my voice low and controlled since it's a private conversation. Eventually they drive away. This is a key thing to remember later.
To make a long story short, I detailed all the crap I was pissed off about with her not answering when I called to staying out so late with these women. "Well I wasn't the one driving".....BULL****! That's a cop out excuse, you're an adult, you have means of calling to get a cab or Uber or whatever. I dont accept any answer which attempts to absolve yourself of all responsibility.
So after I air all that out I'm debating in my mind if I'm going to make her go somewhere else for the night. I already was forced into dealing with the kids who were worried which was NOT what I was expecting that night so why the hell not go ahead and just make a full day of it. They'll wake up in the morning, I'll get them breakfast, we'll relax a while and just enjoy a leisurely Sunday. Why not? I'm already dealing with it anyway. Ultimately I decided she's sleeping on the couch and I don't want to see her the rest of the night. I also very forcefully suggest to her that a lot of mess in parts of the house that only she deals with (for work, some sewing area stuff, etc....I'm never in that room) that she WILL get cleaned up by tomorrow evening and start putting her responsibilities in this house for her family at the top of her priority list versus whatever the hell she was doing with the 2 friends tonight.
Once all that was done, I went inside to turn on the garage door openers again and I could hear her talking. WTF? Is she calling them up to give them a play-by-play? So I go back outside the front door where we were earlier and she's coming around with her gym bag and I see the shadows of the 2 friends. Apparently after the drove off down the road, they both walked back up to our house in the shadows away from the street lights and waited up the path in my driveway. UN-F*CKING-BELIEVEABLE! Did they think I was going to beat her? Who knows, but one thing I know for certain, if they were about to get a new member to join their ranks of single partying females, they weren't going to fail to welcome her with open arms.
Wife got sh!t straightened out the next day like I told her. I'm trying to ensure that the long play is a good one though for our marriage. There is another short story I'll type up and maybe post later. I figure if I've already posted all this crap I may as well do the whole thing, but I've already taken over a lot of this thread unintentionally.
