To go or not. Need DJ opinions

[dk1990S111]

Girl I have been talking to was planning on having a little kickback at her place tonight but decided she would rather just go out with one of her girl friends to a bar. Invited me to come. Would you guys go in this situation?

 

[dude99]

Girl I have been talking to was planning on having a little kickback at her place tonight but decided she would rather just go out with one of her girl friends to a bar. Invited me to come. Would you guys go in this situation?

Take a rain cheque. The other girl will only get in the way of your plans and you wont be able to properly assess her interest level with her friend there.

 

[cola]

I'd go. Here is why. Since females are highly influenced by friends if you make a good impression on the friend it almost guarentee's a lay. Probably not that night, but the next one for sure.

But I would only go if I had nothing better to do. Last resort kind of thing.

 

[dk1990S111]

I'd go. Here is why. Since females are highly influenced by friends if you make a good impression on the friend it almost guarentee's a lay. Probably not that night, but the next one for sure.

But I would only go if I had nothing better to do. Last resort kind of thing.

Ya that's kinda what I was thinking. She called me a few days ago to settle an "argument" they were having so I talked to them both on speaker. The friend seemed cool from that convo but Ive never met her

 

[ZTIME]

Nope. Sounds like you haven't been around this girl for too long, so it's best to set up some ground work.

She had 2 options tonight:

1. Hang out with you which was the original plan.

2. Go to a bar with her friend.


She went with option 2. The invite for you doesn't mean a thing.

You're best to tell her you have other things to do and you'll hook up some other time.

You need to be priority #1 to this girl or any girl you choose to give your valuable time to.

 

[cola]

Ya that's kinda what I was thinking. She called me a few days ago to settle an "argument" they were having so I talked to them both on speaker. The friend seemed cool from that convo but Ive never met her

Yeah, most guys here will advise not to go. But if you really impress the friend it can work to your advantage..

 

[ZTIME]

Yeah, most guys here will advise not to go. But if you really impress the friend it can work to your advantage..

Totally agree with the friend thing. If the original plan was to hang out with her, then that's what OP should do.

In this case however, OP got pushed to the back burner.

OP now needs to lead by action, not follow by option.

 

[dustmuffin]

I'd go. Here is why. Since females are highly influenced by friends if you make a good impression on the friend it almost guarentee's a lay. Probably not that night, but the next one for sure.

But I would only go if I had nothing better to do. Last resort kind of thing.

This^

 

[dk1990S111]

Just don't want it to be a ljbf situation.

Will probably tell her to have a good time with her friend

 

[SuckItUp]

Either choice is valid. If go the key is focusing on the friend to get her to talk you up to your interest afterwards. Understand that going with them both diminishes your ability to isolate the girl you are interested in. If the friend is single you'll need to play Cupid for her so you can peel off with your "target".

 

[Glassguy]

Yeah, most guys here will advise not to go. But if you really impress the friend it can work to your advantage..

If they aren't super close friends, it could turn into a situation with the friend later down the road if it doesn't work out with this chick.

I'd go, but their attitudes would determine how long I would stay. If I was having a great time I would stay out with them. Who knows....Maybe they are into all partying together late in the night if you catch my drift.

If they are acting like school girls and I felt like a 3rd wheel, I'd tell them that "something came up and I have to take off and meet a friend" and bounce without further explanation.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Yeah, most guys here will advise not to go. But if you really impress the friend it can work to your advantage..

I'm not saying you're wrong because what you're suggesting can work under the right circumstances, however OP will already be operating at a disadvantage if he does go since the friend is there and if he wants to escalate it will be difficult, and calling the shots on his terms will be even more difficult. On top of that, what happens if some dude walks up to the ladies and starts hitting on his chick? That is a definite lose-lose scenario there. They are going to a bar for one purpose....some other dude comes up to them and fluffs up their ego and makes them tingle, they're gonna leave with new dude and OP is left to be a chump.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Until she is your girlfriend, all time spent with her should be 1 on 1.

The answer is no. Don't agree to that ****.

 

[stevo]

No I won't go. I don't need the validation. I don't need to meet or know her friends.

I'd instead tell her to come over on her way from the bar then I'd pass out.

If she does come over, great. She can wake me up when she gets to my place.
If she doesn't show up, well, I'd see her excuse in the morning and deal with it then.

Always go for your best case scenario.

 

[marmel75]

I guess it all depends on how comfortable you feel with being inquisitioned by the friend and how you will end up doing...some people do well in those situations others don't. If you feel comfortable than go for it but be ready for a lot of BS tests coming your way

 

[Alvafe]

both ideas are good, it will depend on how well you and the girl are and how you are with new people, if you are who feel its easy to chatty up new people and can have fun with people then it would be a good thing you go, but if you the kind of shy who will feel like you shouldn't have come then you don't.

but pretty much understand if you go you will need to chat with the girl and be ready to lose if she find you annoying, what Cola says can work the same way it can backfire on you, that will depend on how you del with this kind of situation, the safer choice is not to go

 

[Trump]

Girl I have been talking to was planning on having a little kickback at her place tonight but decided she would rather just go out with one of her girl friends to a bar. Invited me to come. Would you guys go in this situation?

Ya that's kinda what I was thinking. She called me a few days ago to settle an "argument" they were having so I talked to them both on speaker. The friend seemed cool from that convo but Ive never met her

Bro you want to play therapist with this girl or have sex with her?

You don't go. The point is she changed the plans with you on a whim. You can't agree to that. If this was coworkers hanging out OK but if you want to have sex with her, you decline.

 

[dk1990S111]

Bro you want to play therapist with this girl or have sex with her?

You don't go. The point is she changed the plans with you on a whim. You can't agree to that. If this was coworkers hanging out OK but if you want to have sex with her, you decline.

There wasnt a for sure plan to go to her house, she said she might have some people and I should definitely come. Guess I should have worded that better in the original post.

 

[El Payaso]

I wouldn't go. You not only have to work one girl but now you have to work two girls. Pu$$y isn't worth the headache.

 

[MrWiggles]

I wouldn't go. Maybe if it was a larger group. Being third wheel with a buddy and his gf is fine but third wheel with a girl you don't know well and her girlfriend would be too hard to handle unless you are super savvy.