Juggling women

[Dman101]

Hey guys I'm currently juggling 4 women and need some advice on this. I'm in my early 30s

Girl 1 is my main girl. She is 33, in shape, probably is the best looking, has a good job and is in love with me. My family really likes her, and her family likes me. Shes really pushing for marriage, and her aunt puts pressure on me a little also. Shes a good girl, loyal, can cook and clean but doesnt always do it has a little attitude about it sometimes. Weve been dating for almost 3 years now, in the beginning she found panties and stuff like that in my room but she stuck around and now thinks we are exclusive. The negatives are that she isnt super talkative and fun or interesting which I like in a woman as I am laid back. Also the sex isnt amazing, she isnt a freak type girl, she will do things just for me, but shes not genuinely turned on by pleasing me. I also dont *** often from sex with her. She calls me almost everyday and is a little clingy at needy, if I dont pick up she will call me 2 or 3 more times

Girl 2 is 28, known her for almost a year now, shes pretty probably not as much as the first girl, skinny, we connect well, can have fun talks, shes really good in bed, loves to see me *** and is a real freak. She pushed for us to be exclusive and I pushed back on it at first, but then told her what she wanted to hear to keep her around. She doesnt bother me too much, we see each other once a week and its always fun. The negatives are that she is a little skinny so she has less body, shes a little OCD and nervous about silly things sometime. These first 2 are the main 2 that I have right now

Girl 3 is 26, I lied and told her I was 28 as thats what my pof page said. We hit it off right away, slept with her on the 2nd date and see her once a week. She comes to see me after work once a week, we have good sex and watch a movie and thats about it, no dates really and she paid for the last one. Shes not as good looking as the other 2, has bigger muscles than most women, but shes cute, fun, bubbly, talks a lot, and is stress free. I've known her about 4 months, and she hasnt asked me about other women or anything which is rare.

Girl 4 is a girl I've been sleeping with for over 4 years. We never been out of the house, we just have sex. Shes a cool person, but her face isnt that pretty, but she has a very nice body, and likes to have sex with me. We see each other very randomly, but we always have sex.

I have a few other girls that I text here and there. recently 2 other girls gave me the lets just be friends line so I dont talk to them anymore. Things are good with my dating life, but its very stressful having 2 girlfriends, lying about everything, sneaking out to call the 2nd one when the first is sleeping, hiding their stuff and cleaning my house all the time looking for hairs. I'm looking for some advice on how to play this. I've thought about quitting the game for girl 1, but the sex issue is a little worrysome, and I dont exactly want kids right now, but shes a very nice girl and I dont know if I can break up with her because were so close and so deep in this. I've thought about breaking up, which would leave me with 3 girls and more free time for my business and meeting someone else, but its not easy.

 

[The Duke]

Understand that Girl #1 isn't going to get better. None of them ever do. The pressure for marriage will increase, and she'll eventually leave you when she doesn't get it. Her attitude with cooking and cleaning will get worse, especially when she gets married or thinks she really has you. The sechs will get worse. She won't "do things just for you" once she has you nailed down. And your/her family isn't the one who has to deal with her schitt day in and day out.

Sounds like you need the body of #4, the sexuality & personality of #2, easygoingness of #3 and the face of #1. Hahahaha, we all have this same problem. At the end of the day, they are all women. There is no such thing as a perfect woman. Good luck tho!

Women are experts at putting on a show(manipulating) to get what they want.

Always do whats best for you when making decisions like these, especially focusing on your business.

 

[BetterCallSaul]

Well here's my take on things...

Girl 1: marriage will not improve your prospects of sex with her nor make her more into it.. Same with other things like cooking; it wont improve in marriage. Is she a procrastinator? Or is she just selfish and/or self-centered too much?

Girl 2: Honestly the part you wrote about how she likes seeing you orgasm during sex is nice. Frankly I've forgotten at times what that even feels like, so if she's doing that regularly, that's a nice bonus for her. Overall it sounds like she's just enjoying being with you and having fun.

Girl 3: Again sounds like she's just keeping things simple and fun.

Girl 4: For this chick to stick around for so long just having sex (how old is she anyway?) yeah there's a reason why she's keeping it easy, as you say, her face isn't the best looking. I'm sure she's figured this out by now and doesn't want to risk losing you and having sex regularly.

 

[Dman101]

Yeah girl 1 has been wanting to marry me for about 2 years now. Shes older and wants to have kids, her clock is ticking. Shes also very loyal and has a big heart, the type of person that is more concerned about other people than her self. She can not leave me on her own, shes in love and is not capable of leaving me on her own. She told me she realizes it may not be going where she wants it to and may move back home across the country, but the next day she tells me I have her heart etc. She likes sex, but once she cums shes kind of checked out and wants me to ***, but I like to have sex a long time, and I dont *** fast usually so thats an issue. She wants a key to my house which I refuse. Am I supposed to dump her for her own good in a case like this? Part of me says to just take the plunge and marry her, but the other part of me wants to keep what I have with the others, and enjoy myself, its just a lot of work and lots of lying to keep 2 gfs around. I am seeing that getting new women is pretty challenging at this point as my pof attempts havent worked like they used to lately.

Girl 1 is a bit of an unambitious dependent type of woman. Girl 2 is pressing to meet my family and giving me small threats like she wont keep doing this forever since I tell her my family is a little weird about things and put off her meeting them. She is 28 and wants a kid and marriage by 30 she says. One thing about her is she likes to drink and will get even freakier when she drinks, she said it relaxes her and shes stressed alot.

Girl 4 is 29 now, she knows I am a player type and dont do the gf bf thing, she says she knows she shouldnt be doing this, but that she gets what it is, and understands that we just like having sex together.

Honestly having a combination of all of these women would be ideal, if girl 3 looked a little better I'd probably be more serious about her since shes younger and possibly the most sexually into me.

I just dont want to make a big mistake of losing a girl who would do anything for me, take care of me when I'm sick, be down for me , or the mistake of marrying someone and not being sexually and emotionally satisfied

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear DMan,
You have the best of four Women,and you ask for advice from the Forum...Most here would give their eye teeth to be in your pants....Saul sums these Ladies up very well...Your last three Plates are saving you from getting too involved with Number one...Marriage to her would be a disaster to a hot blooded Young Guy like you...For someone as promiscuous as you,life wont get much better...You have the lonely Old Man Syndrome in your early thirties...Crazy!...So between Nos one and Two,you will be lucky to keep both,keep spinning never push things...Try the Bread from every Oven,variety is the Spice of Life...Lifes big regret is that there are so Many Women and so little time LOL.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

I did the lying and rotating girlfriends, making sure to hide evidence when I switched them out, etc and I only lasted a couple of months due to the stress. My moment of clarity came when main girlfriend, who I eventually married, left for work and I made the bed afterward, which she often did. This particular morning I just happened to be off that day. When I pulled the comforter off and shook it, a pair of girl #2's panties came fluttering out, it being between the top sheet and the comforter. Needless to say that was a close call!! Girl #2 was better looking and a freak in bed but was cheating on her live in BF when she first started seeing me, lived rather far away, and started pushing me to be exclusive. So with all of that I went with #1 and so glad I did. Couldn't have picked a better woman to be my wife and have a family with. Solid on every level.

It's a fun game but only in the short term. I tip my hat to you for being able to pull it off for so many years. You're like the Roger Federer of plate spinning!

 

[Dman101]

Too funny, yeah I actually got caught a few times in the first year or so, but this girl has stuck by me through that. What was it that made you marry the main girlfriend? Was the sex good when you were dating? What changed after you got married? I am starting to get a little tired of it, its a lot of stress and energy taken out of other things, wouldnt mind having a serious girlfriend. The sex life with the main chick is just weird, when we first met, I got nervous and couldnt get my **** up, but she stayed around. Now, my **** gets up but doesnt stay rock hard like it does with the others possibly because of how we started and because I probably wont *** from the sex alone, and her sex energy isnt as high as the others. She cums quick and after that shes kind of checked out just there trying to make me hurry up and *** lol. I'm 31, a part of me wants to find a 23 year old freak with a tight body and years ahead of her, but a lot of these women are so flaky and hard to get with. I used to hit up women on pof saying hey hows your day going, and that used to work like a charm, but lately not at all like 0 for 30. I seem to attract the good girl type who lives at home with the family looking for a good man, I have my stuff together, bought a house last year, dress good, tall somewhat in shape.

 

[PantyWhisperer]

Too funny, yeah I actually got caught a few times in the first year or so, but this girl has stuck by me through that. What was it that made you marry the main girlfriend? Was the sex good when you were dating? What changed after you got married? I am starting to get a little tired of it, its a lot of stress and energy taken out of other things, wouldnt mind having a serious girlfriend. The sex life with the main chick is just weird, when we first met, I got nervous and couldnt get my **** up, but she stayed around. Now, my **** gets up but doesnt stay rock hard like it does with the others possibly because of how we started and because I probably wont *** from the sex alone, and her sex energy isnt as high as the others. She cums quick and after that shes kind of checked out just there trying to make me hurry up and *** lol. I'm 31, a part of me wants to find a 23 year old freak with a tight body and years ahead of her, but a lot of these women are so flaky and hard to get with. I used to hit up women on pof saying hey hows your day going, and that used to work like a charm, but lately not at all like 0 for 30. I seem to attract the good girl type who lives at home with the family looking for a good man, I have my stuff together, bought a house last year, dress good, tall somewhat in shape.

Not much changed at all between dating and married, sex-wise. I married her because she was a much more solid person in every way. Girl #2 would have wrecked me eventually. She ended up marrying a private detective, who of course, caught her cheating on him. Having been through that once, I couldn't risk it again, no matter how thrilling the initial rollercoaster ride may have been.

 

[Dman101]

Welp I finally got caught guys. My main girl number 1 of 3 years got number 2's phone number somehow. She my ipad was open one day and she looked at my emails and copied all of my contacts , and On Saturday night she said I said girl number 2s name in my sleep. She threatened to call and I told her not to, but she wouldnt listen, now I feel like sh!t. They spoke and compared notes on me how they both slept with me raw and girl 2 said I took her away 2 weeks ago, so I got exposed for all of my lies. Girl 1 wants to be with me still, shes a nice girl, has my back, ride or die, and looks better than the others, but something about the desperation and being so loyal turns me off. I'm not sure what to do about her at this point, Im mad for what she did. Girl 2, I'm very depressed over, we had so much fun together, best sex ever, such a great connection, people told me to keep her over girl 1 but I tried to ride it out and enjoy everything. I called girl 2 to apologize, we spoke twicew, but she was very upset with all of the lies I told her, she said I have low character and other girl must have low self esteem for wanting to be with me still. What we had definitely was very special, so I wrote this letter today really talking about how deep our connection was and how rare it is and how special she was to me. but I'm not sure if I should send it, was thinking about sending it maybe with flowers. What do you guys think.

 

[Roober]

That's why you try to keep the lies to a minimum. 3 years with #1 isn't really plate spinning, that sounds like a relationship. Sounds like you don't know what you want in life. Do you want to settle?

On the secks side, I am a firm believer that every woman has an animalistic side, you just have to bring it out of them...

 

[Dman101]

I hung out with the girl 1 a few times after she called girl 2 , and I realized the whole time my mind was on the 2. The kind of connection and sex we have was so good and I really wanted it back, so I delivered her flowers and the letter I wrote telling her how I feel about her. I know that this girl eats up mushy stuff and that I never was emotional or soft with her so I had a feeing it could work. This was the Tuesday before thanksgiving, she texts me the next day saying that she got the letter and flowers which were nice but what am I expecting from her. I told her I would appreciate the chance to see her because I had a lot to tell her. She said to call her so I did but she wouldn't see me in person, I told her how I feel about her, that I feel our connection is so special and that I love her. She was eating it up until she asked about the other girl. She asked if gorl 1 was spending thanksgiving with me and I said no but she thought I was. She told me to break up with the girl on the phone with her on 3way which I said I couldnt do because thats too harsh plus she'd find out too much info . I told her I need to break up in person and I'd do it over the weekend. I told her I had an appointment and I"d talk to her later.



After my appointment i called her back and told her I'm trying to live my life with integrity going forward, so I cant do it over the phone because thats disrespectful. I told her more about how much I care about her and about our connection, how I want to wake up to her in the morning, and be with her. She was really eating this up, she said she wont make any promises but that I need to break up with the other girl first. Thanksgiving comes I wish her a happy thanksgiving by text, no reply. Then Friday she says I thought about everything and honestly I really cant do it. I was upset but I just said I'm glad I had the chance to let you know how I feel about you and left it at that.



She was on my mind the whole week after this. Every morning I woke up thinking about her. One of my friends is good with game he told me I should show up to her house unannounced which was something I'd never do, but I thought about it and realized thats my only shot because texts or calls wont get me anywhere. I went over there tonight and she was shocked. I asked her for a few minutes of her time and we sat in my car talking. She actually was pretty cool, and receptive to me. She said she was delirious from not eating all day so I took her to go eat. I apologized again and told her how the connection with the other girl wasnt right and how I made a big mistake and how we were friends but didnt belong together. I had to lie and tell her that I broke up with girl 1, but actually I'm on a break with her until Monday. She said she had her number and could text her so I better not be lying, I told her that wouldnt be right because the girl is hurt right now. She told me she went on a date on Tuesday and the guy thought it went well but she didnt lol.



I could tell the attraction was there, I told her how great our situation was how we had such great convo, sex, and always had amazing times and that it was one mistake that messed things up. Everything felt natural how it used to be. At the end, I held her hand and walked w her to the car. I had my hand on her leg, while driving, massaged her back when we got to outside her place and we made out in the car. She resisted getting too sexual, and said that shes still mad at me and that this whole thing felt like a dream and she needs to sleep on things.



I can tell she really wants me but at the same time going this route its going to have to be a serious relationship. Its going to be hard to still spin plates . I can tell she wont let me in that easy and her sister is going to tell her bad things about me as she's done throughout our 1 yr relationships. Any advice on how to handle all of this. I know now I"m going to have to break up with girl 1 Monday which is sad as shes a very nice pretty girl who has high hopes for us. I really wanted girl 2 after losing her and I can tell I'm close to having her but I need to play this right . I'd appreciate all the advice I can get on this .