kennedycoleslaw
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Feel like I may have missed my best opportunity with a 10 (physically and personality) that I recently met. Not your standard situation so I'd like to get input.
(Sorry if too many details)
Met this 10 in a weekly casual sports league. I'm around average looking but I'm athletic. Difficult to make more than quick small talk to her on league day since there's so many people around, but about a month ago I randomly ran into her at a bar.
Bar Encounter #1 - She's there alone randomly because she got off work late (service industry) and wanted to go out (both of our local neighborhood bar). I chat her up with good amounts of ****y/funny, sarcasm, and negging. I can tell she is kind of shocked that a guy is negging her and not treating her like a 10. We have a playful rapport. I lead her around the bar and play a bar game. We talk more outside. Really good conversation but her body language is a little distant and I've barely established any kino all night. When the bar is closing I tell her I parked my car a mile or so away and she offers a ride. When we get to my car she sees a cat and says let's go pet it. She runs out of the car but the cat runs away. She asks if I'm good to drive and offers to give me a ride to my house. I waver and say I have a meeting in the morning. I don't get her number. I already see her on league night every week so I knew I'd see her again.
Bar Encounter #2 - The next week -- same night -- I go back to the bar with a friend around the same time and she's there again. Came by herself again. She's talking with a group of people so I play it cool. She approaches me after 15 minutes. Really good conversation, not great body language (she's not very close). I tell her I was about to play a bar game with friends. She says she just wants to play 1 on 1. I don't break plans with friends and invite her to play teams with us. We play, I give her pointers along the way, she's receptive. We flirt, I continue playfully negging her a bit. After the game we start to get close. She gets the big deer eyes and seems to be at a loss for words. I start making some contact. We are inside the bar (I should move her outside but don't). She mentions a food truck, implying we should go. I say let's get one more drink and then go. She says she has to be up early. I let her go but get her number. Moments after leaving she comes back in because she forgot to close her tab. Then leaves again.
Sports League The Following Week - She's very receptive but it's hard to talk much in this setting. A group goes out for food after but again it's only group conversation.
Bar Encounter #3 - A week since the last bar encounter and again she's there. We talk briefly but convo isn't as good. She starts texting and I say I'll be back. I don't approach her again for another hour or so, when the bar is about to close. She has been talking to 2 guys for a while and I think one of them got her number. At one point she leaves but comes back in moments later to talk more to the 2 guys and says she changed her mind and wants to drink more. I approach on the other side of the bar and she's receptive. Guys on the other side of the bar are shut out, which feels good. We have good conversation but no touching. Bar's about to close, I off-handedly mention that I could drink some more. She says she's going to hang out with her neighbors and leaves.
Bar Night Next Week - I text her a few hours before we usually 'randomly' run into each other and ask her if she wants to check out a band at another nearby bar. She's at a concert that night. Don't see her.
Bar Encounter #4 (last week) - I'm catching up with a friend from out of town. She comes at the usual time and sits down next to me at the bar. I mostly keep talking with my friend but give her some playful kino. She starts competing for attention and gets flirty and touchy. I give her more attention and all 3 of us talk for a while. Good convo. My friend leaves and we continue talking. I escalate touching. I go to the bathroom and when I get back she says that I'm getting too close. I back off the touching, we continue talking for a bit. I ask her if she wants to come back to my place and smoke weed and she says no (unfortunately it's 2:30 am so an excuse is valid). I close my tab and leave feeling sort of rejected.
I'm sure I should've been more direct up to this point, but where should I go from here (if not already too late)? I guess I haven't been direct because she's a 10 and because of my fear of rejection which is made worse because I see her every week for the sports league.
(Sorry if too many details)
Met this 10 in a weekly casual sports league. I'm around average looking but I'm athletic. Difficult to make more than quick small talk to her on league day since there's so many people around, but about a month ago I randomly ran into her at a bar.
Bar Encounter #1 - She's there alone randomly because she got off work late (service industry) and wanted to go out (both of our local neighborhood bar). I chat her up with good amounts of ****y/funny, sarcasm, and negging. I can tell she is kind of shocked that a guy is negging her and not treating her like a 10. We have a playful rapport. I lead her around the bar and play a bar game. We talk more outside. Really good conversation but her body language is a little distant and I've barely established any kino all night. When the bar is closing I tell her I parked my car a mile or so away and she offers a ride. When we get to my car she sees a cat and says let's go pet it. She runs out of the car but the cat runs away. She asks if I'm good to drive and offers to give me a ride to my house. I waver and say I have a meeting in the morning. I don't get her number. I already see her on league night every week so I knew I'd see her again.
Bar Encounter #2 - The next week -- same night -- I go back to the bar with a friend around the same time and she's there again. Came by herself again. She's talking with a group of people so I play it cool. She approaches me after 15 minutes. Really good conversation, not great body language (she's not very close). I tell her I was about to play a bar game with friends. She says she just wants to play 1 on 1. I don't break plans with friends and invite her to play teams with us. We play, I give her pointers along the way, she's receptive. We flirt, I continue playfully negging her a bit. After the game we start to get close. She gets the big deer eyes and seems to be at a loss for words. I start making some contact. We are inside the bar (I should move her outside but don't). She mentions a food truck, implying we should go. I say let's get one more drink and then go. She says she has to be up early. I let her go but get her number. Moments after leaving she comes back in because she forgot to close her tab. Then leaves again.
Sports League The Following Week - She's very receptive but it's hard to talk much in this setting. A group goes out for food after but again it's only group conversation.
Bar Encounter #3 - A week since the last bar encounter and again she's there. We talk briefly but convo isn't as good. She starts texting and I say I'll be back. I don't approach her again for another hour or so, when the bar is about to close. She has been talking to 2 guys for a while and I think one of them got her number. At one point she leaves but comes back in moments later to talk more to the 2 guys and says she changed her mind and wants to drink more. I approach on the other side of the bar and she's receptive. Guys on the other side of the bar are shut out, which feels good. We have good conversation but no touching. Bar's about to close, I off-handedly mention that I could drink some more. She says she's going to hang out with her neighbors and leaves.
Bar Night Next Week - I text her a few hours before we usually 'randomly' run into each other and ask her if she wants to check out a band at another nearby bar. She's at a concert that night. Don't see her.
Bar Encounter #4 (last week) - I'm catching up with a friend from out of town. She comes at the usual time and sits down next to me at the bar. I mostly keep talking with my friend but give her some playful kino. She starts competing for attention and gets flirty and touchy. I give her more attention and all 3 of us talk for a while. Good convo. My friend leaves and we continue talking. I escalate touching. I go to the bathroom and when I get back she says that I'm getting too close. I back off the touching, we continue talking for a bit. I ask her if she wants to come back to my place and smoke weed and she says no (unfortunately it's 2:30 am so an excuse is valid). I close my tab and leave feeling sort of rejected.
I'm sure I should've been more direct up to this point, but where should I go from here (if not already too late)? I guess I haven't been direct because she's a 10 and because of my fear of rejection which is made worse because I see her every week for the sports league.
