@hithard it's a bit of thread hijack however I think it's a closely related topic. I have worked on making a couple of female friends. Used to have plenty back in the old country but that's a different story.
Now generally I find them less reliable than my male friends. And since they are both exes there's always a little bit of drama. And they never set me up with their friends. Do you make an effort to make female friends? Any ground rules on how to play it?
Now I know a lot of guys around here don't believe in keeping ex's around because I wouldn't tolerate that behaviour from their girlfriends. However I'm wondering if there is another type of category. One of these girls I had one date with some heavy make out sessions but that was it.
@guru1000 I m hoping you can drop by. G1000 has mentioned that he turns the less attractive o l d girls into friends. I'd really appreciate knowing how you play that. In terms of:
1. Getting around this ex jealousy issue.
2. How you find the time? You're incredibly busy with plates and work how do you fit these girls in?
3. How do you interact with these girls? Do you flirt away with them or treat them like a buddy or play beta game and provide lots of comfort?
Uber, I try to keep as many friends as I can, both male and female, and tend not to burn bridges. The only exception are ex-gfs, which I NEXT and remain in no-contact permanently.
I have three girl friends ("g-friends") that I consider pretty close--and another few girl friends in orbit that I may be in contact with once every year or two. It's important to understand the distinction that a g-friend can only endure under the pretense that she wants you, but you don't want her.
The three g-friends I currently have, I have dated or fvcked in the past, but did not see long-term compatibility. They are great people with great personalities and the relations sustain only because they will continually reach out to me, not vice-versa. If I had to continually reach out to them, then the friendship would not likely sustain. These g-friends are good for the following three reasons:
1) I can call upon them for favors at any time;
2) They have already labeled me as a "player" or have bfs, and thus have no expectations and are not clingy; and
3) They will be around to service my social or sexual needs;
Important to note, if I am in an exclusive relation, as I have been recently, I stop communicating with these g-friends out of respect to my exclusivity (as will my partner). But, irregardless, whether it be 6 mos, 1 or 2 yrs, once I exit the exclusive relation, these g-friends, whether in exclusive relations themselves or not, will resume communications with me as if I just didn't disappear, lol.
As to how I interact with them: If I want to hang out and go to the beach, then we'll go to the beach. Sometimes I bring them shopping with me to help pick out ties and shirts. Other times, I want company to get something to eat. If I need sex, and plates or dates are not around for the night, then I'll ask them to come over and watch a movie. I treat them entirely as friends, but with benefits. I provide neither promises nor false hope. The relations are clearly understood on their merit with no confusion. No beta throws, no "games," just simple friendships. I don't like that a few cheat on their "exclusive" bfs with me in times that I sexually escalate, but I also understand the deeper nature of women, so I don't pass judgement.
