Dating a girl with anxiety and she is not use to people working through that disorder so she continually tries to push me away. Basically told me that the attention im giving her is making her fearful. We stopped talking the day before her birthday. Should I wait a while and continue to pursue her? If so how?
This isn't just anxiety you are dealing with. By what you have said tells me there is likely some cluster B there. I wouldn't take this on. When you are put in the position of the therapist it takes away from your relationship.
But if you must take this one here is what you will need to do:
-Set boundaries
-Don't Judge
-Don't get Frustrated
-Steer her mind elsewhere when you see it start happening
-Offer positive reinforcement
-She shouldn't drink alcohol
-She needs to exercise/workout
-She should Eat Right
-After an attack when they have calmed down and can talk rationally, help them sort out fact/fiction so they realize what is happening and can better ride the brake next time.
-Teach them to let you know when they get into an anxiety prone situation and urge them to let you know when its coming on so you can remove yourselves from such situations.
I was in a 5yr relationship with a girl that had anxiety. At times when we would go out to a crowded bar, she would feel her anxiety coming on. We eventually got to a point where she felt comfortable telling me and we would simply leave. Her not telling me, and us staying there always resulted in drama.
Her trying to push you away because she fears you getting close is not just anxiety....
