Slow Down..

cola

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Hes walking through the hallways at work at a very brisk pace. Jennifer, the secretary says goodmorning and he retorts goodmorning without any thought. A million things to do by 5:00 pm he mumbles to himself. Jeff brought donuts and coffee for everyone he bumps into Jeff and knocks the donuts on the ground. Jeff screams at him "WHAT THE HELL MAN!!" Why don't you slow down.

He has a date with Susan. Susan is a hot australian he met at the meat section of whole foods. Long blonde hair, a golden tan, beautiful long limbs and a stomach you could iron clothes on.
He rushes in from work, hops in the shower. Barely scrubs. He puts on brand new khaki's and button down shirt he bought just for the date. The date isn't till 7 pm but its 5:25 and he is already completely dressed.
He kills some time watering the flowers in the garden but probably not enough. No one ever taught him to be fashionably late.
He picks up Susan, and she is pleasant. The gorgeous aussie accent she asks how his day was talking a mile a minute he describes every detail of his day, when a "fine" would have been sufficient.
The date ends, he goes for the kiss and he darts into her personal space like zorro swinging across a balcony. He stuffs his tounge down her throat swiftly and she pushes him off "what the hell, mate?" Have you ever kissed a woman? Slow down. She goes in the house and brushes her teeth from the disgusting slimey kiss.

Don Juans walk slow. They talk slow. When you call their name they turn their head slow. They kiss slow. When they smile they turn up their lips slow.
Everything is always slow and in control. Never a hurried movement.

From now on, go slow.

 

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Hmm, interesting i remember years ago I had an older female friend tell me this and its definitely something that stuck with me. She also said that behaving in this manner made it easier to "cop and blow"!
 

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Go slow and be patient.

I've seen too many guys rush into failure. They think that they have to close on the girl, lock her down, and win her over before anyone else does. What I've learned is that there are so many guys out there that do not have a fvcking clue how to behave with women and if you see a girl you like, there is no need to try and beat out other dudes, because chances are if you are patient and takes things slow, the dude you THINK is going to get the girl will fvck up. The story of the tortoise and the hare could be a story about two dudes after one chick.
 
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This is a very good post. I am aware of my speed and regulate it....slow is the key
 

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Good posts from you lately Cola dude. I like the Robert Green stuff you been posting, I've read all his books.

Go slow, be patient and relax like everything will fall into place. Nobody takes a hyper active clown seriously.
 

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Hes walking through the hallways at work at a very brisk pace. Jennifer, the secretary says goodmorning and he retorts goodmorning without any thought. A million things to do by 5:00 pm he mumbles to himself. Jeff brought donuts and coffee for everyone he bumps into Jeff and knocks the donuts on the ground. Jeff screams at him "WHAT THE HELL MAN!!" Why don't you slow down.

He has a date with Susan. Susan is a hot australian he met at the meat section of whole foods. Long blonde hair, a golden tan, beautiful long limbs and a stomach you could iron clothes on.
He rushes in from work, hops in the shower. Barely scrubs. He puts on brand new khaki's and button down shirt he bought just for the date. The date isn't till 7 pm but its 5:25 and he is already completely dressed.
He kills some time watering the flowers in the garden but probably not enough. No one ever taught him to be fashionably late.
He picks up Susan, and she is pleasant. The gorgeous aussie accent she asks how his day was talking a mile a minute he describes every detail of his day, when a "fine" would have been sufficient.
The date ends, he goes for the kiss and he darts into her personal space like zorro swinging across a balcony. He stuffs his tounge down her throat swiftly and she pushes him off "what the hell, mate?" Have you ever kissed a woman? Slow down. She goes in the house and brushes her teeth from the disgusting slimey kiss.

Don Juans walk slow. They talk slow. When you call their name they turn their head slow. They kiss slow. When they smile they turn up their lips slow.
Everything is always slow and in control. Never a hurried movement.

From now on, go slow.
You are bringing a lot of quality to the forum man, I really appreciate it.
Another example: notice the difference between a beta walking into a room full of people in a party, and a DonJuan doing so. The beta hurries up his entry, saying a general hello and rushing to whatever site there is avalaible, close to the his friends probably.
The DonJuan enters the room at a normal pace, says hello and asks someone he knows how he's doing while serving himself a drink. Then he sits down wherever and joins the closest conversation.
It all comes downs to confidence really, the beta is always in a hurry because he wants to return to his comfort bubble the soonest that he can, the faster he goes, the less chanche he has to **** something up. The DonJuan has a great confidence in that everything will be ok, there's time, no need to hurry, everything will fall in place.
 

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Good post Cola. Keep em' coming.

I would go further and state to clear your mind. Quiet your inner voice. Stop the:

I gotta ...
I gotta ...
I gotta ...

You gotta ... do nothing.

On a first date, when I place a girl's hand on my crotch within the hour of meeting her, I have no thoughts in my mind. No expectations. My mind is a blank slate ready to carve the next story of what is about to happen. Think about the millisecond before an atomic bomb is just about to explode: It seems like time stops at that very moment and there is complete and utter silence. That is how your mind should rest during your date.

Relax. Be present in the moment.
 

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Going slow and controlled is my way of being. It hasn't always been that way. I once was that stressed out dude rushing forward, much of it was insecurity.

I don't want to live in a rush, before I know it life is over. I want it slow, I want to soak in every moment and be present in it. When the end of life comes I want it to feel like I've lived multiple lifetimes. Not because the actual time is longer, but because the depth of experience is so rich in that time.

I don't think women want a man who rushes through life. How can such a man ever enjoy her? How can such a man be present with her? How can such a man have time for her?

That was a great post illustrating a great point in an elegant way. Too bad I can't smash that like button twice.
 

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I like gurus take. You control the date/situation. You can do anything or nothing, end the date early and jet whatever. I think a lot of people get bent about having to get a kiss the first date, an F-close the first. If you really don't like her personality or anything else, why escalate. Just chill and relax. You worry about all that without living the moment.
 

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All fun and all but I got a problem with your theory.

Im a f*cking beast in bed. I kiss slowly then attack her mouth. Biting her lips kissing her passionatley, kissing her neck, wrapping my hand around her neck and press while im F8cking her, switching positions, make her squirt with my hands and d1ck, f1ck her hard, sweat my ass off, kiss her again, s*ckig titties, biting nipples, making her deepthroat, f*cking her so hard and fast that she says ''uhm wtf''. I never slow down under the sheets im a f8cking machine dude??
 

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All fun and all but I got a problem with your theory.

Im a f*cking beast in bed. I kiss slowly then attack her mouth. Biting her lips kissing her passionatley, kissing her neck, wrapping my hand around her neck and press while im F8cking her, switching positions, make her squirt with my hands and d1ck, f1ck her hard, sweat my ass off, kiss her again, s*ckig titties, biting nipples, making her deepthroat, f*cking her so hard and fast that she says ''uhm wtf''. I never slow down under the sheets im a f8cking machine dude??
Are they having orgasms? I mean body convulsing cant speak, cant move orgasms? Because every girl Ive ever made have that type of orgasm it was slow and deliberate sex. Finding that spot inside her and gently poking it while whisering things in her ear, gently nibbling her ear lobes.. being forceful yet gentle at the same time

Being aggressive in bed means positioning her how you want her, taking your penis out and gently grabbing her hair and cumming on her face. Not so much pounding her like a jackhammer.

Also if you have a larger penis most girls dont like you destroying their insides like that. Some do, but most do not. Apparently when you hit their cervix with that much force it hurts.. or so ive been told
 

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Always escalate....

Sure nice and slow during foreplay... build up the anticipation.... but you better know how to ravage her in bed... rag doll her ass.... leave her trembling....

If you're timid in bed you lose...
 
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