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Don't Maintain LTRs with Trashy Women

Desdinova

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I keep on seeing threads posted here where the women are treating the OPs like fvcking garbage, and he's asking how to fix the situation. When you give the woman the official word of exclusivity of a LTR, you're rewarding her. If she's behaving badly, acting like a wh0re, or treating you like 5hit before she asks for exclusivity, you're essentially telling her that it's acceptable behaviour in your LTR.

QUIT having LTRs with pieces of 5hit. Give exclusivity a high status. She should be working hard to be eligible for being your GF. It should be her reward for good behaviour.

If she starts acting up after you become exclusive, nip the minor issues in the bud before they get out of hand. If she does something that shouldn't be even remotely tolerable in a LTR, kick her stupid ass to the curb. Quit wasting your time and energy on defective garbage. There's always going to be a better woman out there if your current GF is doing something completely unacceptable.

Have some self-respect and only keep women who respect you and are a compliment to your life.
 

ZTIME

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The problem is that too many guys today don't respect themselves enough before getting into a relationship. So they find these monster women who thrive on their low self esteem. These guys think they have a prize that they must hold onto at all costs.

I say it on here all of the time. Most of the solutions on these relationship disaster threads is to fix the OP, not provide answers how he can fix his relationship. Girls will always be dominant bitc*es to guys with low self esteem.
 

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I completely agree, exclusivity is being given out like peanuts by the average guy.

Some women become disrespectful because the man's behaviour allowed it. In this case, the man must show this behaviour is no longer acceptable, and retrieve the power in the relationship. But if this behavior has been allowed for too long, then it is almost irreversible and the man is better off leaving and learning some lessons in the process.

However, some women are just plain crazy and can't be reasoned with. They will always be abusive. And even in those very rare cases where the guy can manage and remain detached from the abuse, this woman will not be worth the trouble she causes. If a guy stays with this type of girl they clearly lack self esteem.

All of this can be solved if the guy learns how to, and gets other options of women in his life, and maintain a constant state of learning and improving.
 

BetterCallSaul

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The problem is that too many guys today don't respect themselves enough before getting into a relationship. So they find these monster women who thrive on their low self esteem. These guys think they have a prize that they must hold onto at all costs.

I say it on here all of the time. Most of the solutions on these relationship disaster threads is to fix the OP, not provide answers how he can fix his relationship. Girls will always be dominant bitc*es to guys with low self esteem.
I agree with you and Desdinova...these guys dont respect themselves at all. Some want to argue the results of feminism are a chicken and egg scenario when in fact it isn't. Men have allowed women this extra "freedom" to be disrespectful in general and many push over guys tolerate this behavior and it continues unchecked. Fat acceptance is just one example that I'll touch upon. 50 years ago, a fat woman? That was a very rare scene anywhere...but today? Fvcking fat women everywhere and media tries to drill it into everyone's heads that we need to just accept it.

Men don't have to allow any of this $hit to continue. Put down these b!tches immediately who are fat, who are self-entitled, and disrespectful. No, not all men will do this but dammit it has to start somewhere.
 

PantyWhisperer

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I agree with you and Desdinova...these guys dont respect themselves at all. Some want to argue the results of feminism are a chicken and egg scenario when in fact it isn't. Men have allowed women this extra "freedom" to be disrespectful in general and many push over guys tolerate this behavior and it continues unchecked. Fat acceptance is just one example that I'll touch upon. 50 years ago, a fat woman? That was a very rare scene anywhere...but today? Fvcking fat women everywhere and media tries to drill it into everyone's heads that we need to just accept it.

Men don't have to allow any of this $hit to continue. Put down these b!tches immediately who are fat, who are self-entitled, and disrespectful. No, not all men will do this but dammit it has to start somewhere.
Agreed - if I had a nickel for every fat, HB5 face chick who post tons of selfies or status updates on social media like they are the hottest chick in the world....well, I don't know exactly how many nickels I'd have, but I'd have a lot.... :)
I have no idea where these girls find their misplaced self-esteem. Is it the whole, "everybody gets a trophy" mentality? Some of these rats, I wouldn't even do now, at 50, much less when I was their age (25-35). Is it a Gen Y/Millenial thing? I'm like "get off that pedestal girl, before it collapses from your weight. And lose the selfie stick, for Pete's sake!!"
 

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Agreed - if I had a nickel for every fat, HB5 face chick who post tons of selfies or status updates on social media like they are the hottest chick in the world....well, I don't know exactly how many nickels I'd have, but I'd have a lot.... :)
I have no idea where these girls find their misplaced self-esteem. Is it the whole, "everybody gets a trophy" mentality? Some of these rats, I wouldn't even do now, at 50, much less when I was their age (25-35). Is it a Gen Y/Millenial thing? I'm like "get off that pedestal girl, before it collapses from your weight. And lose the selfie stick, for Pete's sake!!"
I see it as a huge rise in personal entitlement mentality with these girls.
Probably changing social and media environment to name two causes.
If America gets its first woman president, that would probably add to that mindset also…
 
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Agreed - if I had a nickel for every fat, HB5 face chick who post tons of selfies or status updates on social media like they are the hottest chick in the world....well, I don't know exactly how many nickels I'd have, but I'd have a lot.... :)
I have no idea where these girls find their misplaced self-esteem. Is it the whole, "everybody gets a trophy" mentality?
Great point. Funny how many of these unattractive women think so highly of themselves and their looks, compared to how many guys have trouble finding self esteem. It probably comes from the same sort of thinking that PUA gurus tell their clients: "We're all 10s". It's all a form of self-delusion.

IIRC, there was a poll here several years back where everybody rated their own looks. 80% of the guys here thought they were 8s or above. I mean, I believe in self esteem, but if 80% of the guys here are 8s, I'll eat my hat.
 

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I can't count the amount of first dates where a girl pulls out her phone and slaps it on the table and then 15 mins in has to show me a picture. It's an auto-next. No kiss, no escalation, no extra date. I just go cold
 

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"There is no such thing as a tragic selfie death"
- Charles Darwin
 

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Agreed - if I had a nickel for every fat, HB5 face chick who post tons of selfies or status updates on social media like they are the hottest chick in the world....well, I don't know exactly how many nickels I'd have, but I'd have a lot.... :)
I have no idea where these girls find their misplaced self-esteem. Is it the whole, "everybody gets a trophy" mentality? Some of these rats, I wouldn't even do now, at 50, much less when I was their age (25-35). Is it a Gen Y/Millenial thing? I'm like "get off that pedestal girl, before it collapses from your weight. And lose the selfie stick, for Pete's sake!!"
Wow you're right! I'm seeing now where fat women are starting to have the same demands as a hb 8/10. I told a fatty recently on Pof that pork belly fat whales don't get to be choosy lol. She went hysterical too and called me all kind of names which had no effect on me really but she reported me and I ended up getting banned. It's just that when I would see a profile with all these requirements like they are a top 10 model I would go in on them pretty hard. Men have got to stop raising the egos of fat biitches, the entitlement from them is getting to be ridiculous.
 

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Wow you're right! I'm seeing now where fat women are starting to have the same demands as a hb 8/10. I told a fatty recently on Pof that pork belly fat whales don't get to be choosy lol. She went hysterical too and called me all kind of names which had no effect on me really but she reported me and I ended up getting banned. It's just that when I would see a profile with all these requirements like they are a top 10 model I would go in on them pretty hard. Men have got to stop raising the egos of fat biitches, the entitlement from them is getting to be ridiculous.
Yeah but "pork bellys" are publicly traded. As long as you keep them to the original rules, IE: they are expected to do some things better than showy girls, like:

1. Go into your purse and pull out some money. Gifts, small bills, favours of kindness
2. Supposed to be better at oral
3. Supposed to put out and not have a bunch of hoops to jump thru to get in the pants.
 

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Yeah but "pork bellys" are publicly traded. As long as you keep them to the original rules, IE: they are expected to do some things better than showy girls, like:

1. Go into your purse and pull out some money. Gifts, small bills, favours of kindness
2. Supposed to be better at oral
3. Supposed to put out and not have a bunch of hoops to jump thru to get in the pants.
It may still be expected, but it's like my father used to say, I'm paraphrasing "expect in one hand and crap in the other and see which hand fills up the quickest" - there must be men somewhere who are putting up with this Pork Diva behavior and therefore resetting HER expectations.
 
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