So I have been in a long distance relationship since 6 months, She lives in California, I am in Germany.
We met on tinder while we were both in Spain. The only reason she had installed it, she told me, to find a local to spend new years rve with. After that we were chatting and talking on the phone every day for hours until I first met her in early February.
When I met her I saw she still had tinder installed but I never said anything. After all it's her privacy and I trusted her.
I kept tinder on my phone but didn't use it until she started fighting me about some pictures of my ex that she found on my facebook. Ever since she starts fights every 2 or 3 days. I became very frustrated over this, plus I thought she will break up any time. So I started using tinder out of frustration/anxiety.
We kept making plans and met again in march. Then in April she visits me in Germany for 2 days.
Then a month later she comes to Germany for two weeks. One of the weeks we spent in Barcelona, were we met. She acted weird and finally told me that she had someone hacking into my phone and knows that I am using tinder. She gave me details about a match I had back in February. She had screenshots of the chat. I contacted this girl with the same line I contacted her in December. She only replied with : It goes.
I never replied until like 3 months later when I randomly wrote: and? Does it still go?
I never had any intentions to meet her neither did she. It was only out of boredom.
So my girlfriend found out everything and told me that she is apparently not enough for me and she can’t compete with all those girls.
She says she is just a replacement for this year and soon she will be nexted for one of my other girls. she says she would normally walk away just like she did with other guys in the past but she can't get away from me. She cried a lot. Supposedly she cries every day. She knew that I am on tinder since march (supposedly). I told her I was using it because I felt rejected by her constant fights over my ex.
I told her it was a way for me to distract myself from the fights with her. But here is the kicker....in april she sent me a screenshot of her phone desktop and I noticed the tinder icon (the one that appears when you receive a message, not the actual icon for the app) in the corner of her desktop.
It means she received a message but even when I saw this I didn't say anything. She said she kept it installed to keep our first chat when we first met. She also said, the differences that I actually initiated chats with women.
So anyway. In march i broke up with her at the airport after she stormed out of the hotel room. She sneaked into my phone and found an old picture of my ex that i had totally forgotten about. She called me back immediately while i was sitting in the plane. Connstatly crying and telling me she lives me.
So 4 days ago she confronted me about all the women in my blocked list on facebook. She sneaked into that too. Those were women i was chatting with before her. One of them was in January though and i told her.
We hung up and she messages me it's over. I said i am sorry that she feels that way and went into NC. She started calling about 15 hours later but i didn't pick up. Yesterday she texts me asking if i am ok because of the shooting in munich. I responded 15 hours later saying: "i am ok. After all munich is 300 miles away from me"
She responded immediately. And tried calling. For her it's 4 AM at this time.
She writes:
so, Daniel, I've called several times... I don't like to call you so this is a big deal to me. I just want to talk. I'm not upset and I'm not emotional... but I also haven't heard from you in 4 days now, so I take it that you've moved on or are busy swiping away. I'm not angry, I'm extremely hurt and had somethings I wanted to say."
I also noticed that she changed her profile picture on whatsapp to one of us in barcelona. She must have done this the past few hours ago. I really start to think this was a false alarm break up to generate some kind of reaction or to test me.
I am now considering to answer her next phone call. Would that be advisable? What do you guys think? Is it too early? What should i tell her?
