Sorry, but being alpha doesn't mean screwing as many *****s as possible

[Dhoulmagus]

Doing what you like is simply doing what you like. Being the best you can be is simply being the best. Being a likable guy is just being a likable guy. Otherwise, a pedophile that puts a lot of effort in obtaining child porn is alpha because he is simply not giving a **** man. Being alpha means being seen as the big guy in charge regardless if people like you or not. My friend said the one thing he admires about Hillary Clinton is that when she walks in a room, everybody knows she's the most dominant force in the room. How are you going to be seen as a commanding authority figure when your life is focused on ****** sluts at bars and pof.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Rick Grimes is a good tv example of an alpha male. He's not wasting time screwing women, he's leading his pack. He's not the most likable person on the show, but he's definitely the most feared.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Being alpha means being seen as the big guy in charge regardless if people like you or not.

And what gives a person this leader trait? By not being a follower, by doing whatever it is he/she wants to do.

 

[BrainDamage92]

all women are sluts bro, sleeping with nice pretty and intelligent women brings more prestige tho

 

[Dhoulmagus]

And what gives a person this leader trait? By not being a follower, by doing whatever it is he/she wants to do.

Anybody and everybody can do whatever the **** they want to do! In fact, unless you are a slave, you are doing whatever you want to do.

 

[fastlife]

OP, if your mindset comes to conflict with your environment and doesn't make you happy--and yours, judging by your entire post history, doesn't--there's one thing you can change and one thing you can't: You can't change reality; you can't change the fact that most women have slept with dude you deem 'beneath you' and probably more of those dudes than you would've liked; you can't change the fact that women in 2016 have access to tremendous amounts of ego validation; you can't change hypergamy or female nature. You can change your mindset that attaches relative values to the behaviors of women and how you can best leverage those behaviors to make yourself happy. You can change what you look for and how you interpret the world around you. You can let go of some Madonna fantasy that women, even if they do live up to that fantasy, are probably just better actors.

I can relate. I used to think I needed to find a girl who was 'on my level' or whatever. I wanted a girl that other guys couldn't get (a little narcissistic, no?), that other guys would admire (" " "), that would be loyal and committed and benefit my life (because, let's me honest, I wasn't enough). I wanted sex to be something significant to share with someone I respected as an equal (LOL!). Well, I found all those things--but what I wanted was a fantasy and the best expression of that fantasy was a BPD in the idealization phase. I got the fantasy (and a lot more than that!) and I paid a very high price.

The thing is, the reason I was so dissatisfied with the women I was meeting is that I was looking to something external to myself. I judged other people, because I judged myself even more harshly. I'd get bored with women since I was bored with my own life and afraid to let go and live in the moment. Girls are for fun.

Alpha is freedom--freedom of choice, freedom from social constraint, freedom from your mind and negative thought processes. The first two can only be achieved if you take care of the third. So get on it. What you do with that freedom is up to you--but I think most guys, if they're being honest with themselves, like (or would like) sex with young, beautiful women and would like a variety of young, beautiful women. So take care of those mental blocks--I can only speak for myself, but my life's way more enjoyable now than it was when I was so focused on 'principles' and 'standards' and a bunch of other abstract, SOCIALLY CONDITIONED horsesh1t.

 

[Asmodeus]

OP, if your mindset comes to conflict with your environment and doesn't make you happy--and yours, judging by your entire post history, doesn't--there's one thing you can change and one thing you can't: You can't change reality; you can't change the fact that most women have slept with dude you deem 'beneath you' and probably more of those dudes than you would've liked; you can't change the fact that women in 2016 have access to tremendous amounts of ego validation; you can't change hypergamy or female nature. You can change your mindset that attaches relative values to the behaviors of women and how you can best leverage those behaviors to make yourself happy. You can change what you look for and how you interpret the world around you. You can let go of some Madonna fantasy that women, even if they do live up to that fantasy, are probably just better actors.

I can relate. I used to think I needed to find a girl who was 'on my level' or whatever. I wanted a girl that other guys couldn't get (a little narcissistic, no?), that other guys would admire (" " "), that would be loyal and committed and benefit my life (because, let's me honest, I wasn't enough). I wanted sex to be something significant to share with someone I respected as an equal (LOL!). Well, I found all those things--but what I wanted was a fantasy and the best expression of that fantasy was a BPD in the idealization phase. I got the fantasy (and a lot more than that!) and I paid a very high price.

The thing is, the reason I was so dissatisfied with the women I was meeting is that I was looking to something external to myself. I judged other people, because I judged myself even more harshly. I'd get bored with women since I was bored with my own life and afraid to let go and live in the moment. Girls are for fun.

Alpha is freedom--freedom of choice, freedom from social constraint, freedom from your mind and negative thought processes. The first two can only be achieved if you take care of the third. So get on it. What you do with that freedom is up to you--but I think most guys, if they're being honest with themselves, like (or would like) sex with young, beautiful women and would like a variety of young, beautiful women. So take care of those mental blocks--I can only speak for myself, but my life's way more enjoyable now than it was when I was so focused on 'principles' and 'standards' and a bunch of other abstract, SOCIALLY CONDITIONED horsesh1t.

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If I could give 1,000,000 likes for this post I would. This is why I come to these forums, small pearls of wisdom which are found in the most surprising of places.

If being "alpha" means I have to stop doing fun things which I enjoy... If being "alpha" means I have to change many of my favorite attributes about myself... If being "alpha" means I have to fit some kind of premade mold... Then screw it
A man just needs to be himself, and be happy with being it.

 

[MrWiggles]

threads like this one are always so annoying. You know damn well alpha of the pack usually gets all the females.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Anybody and everybody can do whatever the **** they want to do! In fact, unless you are a slave, you are doing whatever you want to do.

Not true, I wanna fvck every hot chick I see. I don't though because that would get some rape charges pressed against me. That doesn't mean I'm a slave though.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Fvck it... Alpha/beta/redpill/purple pill is all limiting. The moment you say you are this or that you are letting other people define you. If you are doing what makes you happy without harming others and isnt disgusting (child porn) then everyone else can go screw themselves. You are making choices about your life, not letting others decide for you. If you believe in the alphamale bs then that seems pretty alpha to me.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

If you like slvts than keep going for them. Just don't call yourself alpha for doing so!

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

I like women who are fun, interesting, and sensual. You seem to have a thing against women who go to bars to meet people. You are by your own admission living in moosedump, nowhereville. Where else are you supposed to go to meet people in a small town? Church, bowling, walmart, tinder!! What is your definition of slut anyway?

By the way, I dont need your permission or approval of my lifestyle choices, and if you called the loving fun women in my life sluts without knowing me or them you would deserve to get your teeth kicked in.

Also, I live in a small community. Everything you have said makes it seem as if you think you are superior to them poor country hicks you are forced to spend time with. Maybe if you pulled that stick out of your ass you might find it more bearable. They might also think you were less of a standoffish ******* and you might be welcomed into the community.

What have you done to get to know the community? Have you joined a bowling team, had a barbecue, helped out at a community event, gone to church, anything at all?

Not all country girls are trailer trash, hillbillies or sluts either. You dont sound willing to find out for yourself though.

If being alpha for you is about being a leader, how are you doing that in your personal life, in your workplace, or in your community because where you are now is your community.

Men who are leaders dont whine about their life, they stfu and change what they can change with courage and determination and self-belief.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

I like women who are fun, interesting, and sensual. You seem to have a thing against women who go to bars to meet people. You are by your own admission living in moosedump, nowhereville. Where else are you supposed to go to meet people in a small town? Church, bowling, walmart, tinder!! What is your definition of slut anyway?

By the way, I dont need your permission or approval of my lifestyle choices, and if you called the loving fun women in my life sluts without knowing me or them you would deserve to get your teeth kicked in.

Also, I live in a small community. Everything you have said makes it seem as if you think you are superior to them poor country hicks you are forced to spend time with. Maybe if you pulled that stick out of your ass you might find it more bearable. They might also think you were less of a standoffish ******* and you might be welcomed into the community.

What have you done to get to know the community? Have you joined a bowling team, had a barbecue, helped out at a community event, gone to church, anything at all?

Not all country girls are trailer trash, hillbillies or sluts either. You dont sound willing to find out for yourself though.

If being alpha for you is about being a leader, how are you doing that in your personal life, in your workplace, or in your community because where you are now is your community.

Men who are leaders dont whine about their life, they stfu and change what they can change with courage and determination and self-belief.

I obviously offended you and you are ranting about that mainly. Chill out bro.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

No..you didnt offend me. I dont know you. Your attitude offended me. Life is great and full of opportunities. There are a million ways to live your life but it has to be truly lived.
I dont know if this is really you as a person but it makes me genuinely sad that someone as young as yourself seems so judgemental, and bitter.

I wish everyone had some joy and happiness in their lives and it doesnt sound as if there is much in yours. I hope that changes for you soon.

I respect your opinion and there are parts of it I agree with. I dont think fvcking everything that moves is healthy and is indicative of low self-esteem.
I also dont think only sleeping with hb9s is indicative of a healthy mental state either. It seems shallow and you miss out on the experiences some amazing women will give you who werent blessed with beauty the same way others were. Ymmv.

Rant over... Peace