When suddenly 1 + 1 = 1

[Prodoge]

Last night i was at a birthday party of a friend of mine, most people there were of our social circle and everybody there knew each other. We are all early 20s.

After a while I noticed a guy spending alot of time with one of the girls there so I figured out he wanted to hook up with her.

He is an obvious nice guy, would be surprised if he knows about game. The girl on the other hand has a really cool caracter, she initiates kino in conversation with me (probably also other guys she knows well).

Every time I saw them they were together so i thought he had it in the bag, cool for him. But then it dawned on me and i started observing them a little: there was next to no kino, and flirting was limited (both of them seemed far to serious for hooking up).

At some point he came outside where i was and someone asked him how things are going and he said there are chances im going home with her.

At some point they went outside round the other side of the building to be alone. The problem was from the window we could hear them... still talking. At that point there should have been moaning at most. Like if i get alone with a girl like that at a party it's for some serious making out if not more..

In the end they came back in, still not the right body language for hooking up and she left, without him.

Then we asked him whats up. To my surprise he said there are chances they will be in a relationship...like dafuk?!?!

So today beeing nosey AF i texted her asking if we have a new couple in the squad.
Her answer: "It's blurred but it is likely"

What completely blows my mind is that this girl has been picked up by some drunk jerkish guys in the past.

To me all this does not make one little bit of sence, especially since i am trying to sort my **** out in getting the DJ mindset.
I mean not one succes story I have read on SS is anywhere near this beta level imo

 

[blind_one]

I'll give you my interpretation on this and you can take it or leave it as you will. Everyone is also welcome to comment on it.

1. Social circle.
2. She likes him.
3.He knows he should go for it but is clueless.
4. She gives him ample opportunities but he still does nothing.
5. She is agitated but likes him so this time, she cuts him some slack, makes excuses for him in her mind.

At this points its a matter of time before she looses all interest in him because he was chump for not going for it, even though she wanted him to do so.

Just my 2 c.

 

[JohnChops]

That isn't a success story. She said "likley", she SAID, that was the most wishy washy language ever. It does not matter what she texts you it matters what she does. I bet she will string this guy along, while dating other guys or make things awkward in the group because she really does not want to be with this guy.

 

[Prodoge]

That isn't a success story. She said "likley", she SAID, that was the most wishy washy language ever. It does not matter what she texts you it matters what she does. I bet she will string this guy along, while dating other guys or make things awkward in the group because she really does not want to be with this guy.

Yeah there is no way the are going to be in a relationship, i dont believe a second in that.

If anything it would have been a hook up and nothing more. A relationship does not appear on one night like that.

Well in about 2 hours i will find out because we are all going to watch the euro final together.

 

[Prodoge]

I'll give you my interpretation on this and you can take it or leave it as you will. Everyone is also welcome to comment on it.

1. Social circle.
2. She likes him.
3.He knows he should go for it but is clueless.
4. She gives him ample opportunities but he still does nothing.
5. She is agitated but likes him so this time, she cuts him some slack, makes excuses for him in her mind.

At this points its a matter of time before she looses all interest in him because he was chump for not going for it, even though she wanted him to do so.

Just my 2 c.

Yeah i agree with that it does make sense.
But then i can quite confidentely say she also likes me because she has invited me out preveously, initiated kino with me, reciprocrates my kino.
In that sense i am not sure that what you say applies here.

Except the chump part thete i totally agree, in his sitution he could have had the easiest of home runs...

 

[Serenity]

It really grinds my gears when guys are so actionless. It annoys me even. Alone with her, just to talk... SMH

 

[blind_one]

But then i can quite confidentely say she also likes me because she has invited me out preveously, initiated kino with me, reciprocrates my kino.
In that sense i am not sure that what you say applies here.

I am not saying she doesnt like you . I just drew a conclusion based on what I had. Point stands, do what you want, with or without signs of interest, you will find out soon enough if she is just friendly or wants you d!ck

 

[Bingo-Player]

I'll give you my interpretation on this and you can take it or leave it as you will. Everyone is also welcome to comment on it.

1. Social circle.
2. She likes him.
3.He knows he should go for it but is clueless.
4. She gives him ample opportunities but he still does nothing.
5. She is agitated but likes him so this time, she cuts him some slack, makes excuses for him in her mind.

At this points its a matter of time before she looses all interest in him because he was chump for not going for it, even though she wanted him to do so.

Just my 2 c.

yes agreed , you can get to a point with a woman where she will almost play your part of the game for you if she likes you enough

but what she can't do is physically stick your d1ck in her pu$$y......

eventually she will tire of his beating around the bush and seek a man prepared to pound her into next week

be ready

 

[Prodoge]

I am not saying she doesnt like you . I just drew a conclusion based on what I had. Point stands, do what you want, with or without signs of interest, you will find out soon enough if she is just friendly or wants you d!ck

Sorry you misunderstood. By saying she also likes me I meant that she doesnt behave differently with this guy than with other people, like giving him more attention or whatever.

Anyway i just got back from the final and they were both there. And again for what is supposed to be a fresh couple there was no kino, no random kisses going on.
I believe she is draging him along enjoying the attention she is getting. And he is in full AFC mode believing what she is telling him... poor guy.

 

[LiveFreeX]

It's blurred but it is likely"

who the fvk talks like this? Is English your first language?

 

[Prodoge]

who the fvk talks like this? Is English your first language?

No. I've translated it from french and it is not easy to get the exact same meaning

 

[LiveFreeX]

No. I've translated it from french and it is not easy to get the exact same meaning

That makes sense.

To me all this does not make one little bit of sence, especially since i am trying to sort my **** out in getting the DJ mindset.
I mean not one succes story I have read on SS is anywhere near this beta level imo

It will later on, you don't know what is going on behind closed doors. If I were you, I wouldn't even worry about this girl, there are tons of women in the world, go find another. The DJ mindset is to forget about the 'taken' ones as they are a complete waste of time and money.

Like if i get alone with a girl like that at a party it's for some serious making out if not more..

I guess in my 20's I would have found making out with random party sluts exciting, now I think to myself "Jesus man, don't kiss until you know where her mouth has been".

 

[Prodoge]

yes agreed , you can get to a point with a woman where she will almost play your part of the game for you if she likes you enough

but what she can't do is physically stick your d1ck in her pu$$y......

eventually she will tire of his beating around the bush and seek a man prepared to pound her into next week

be ready

To be honest this girl has potential to be GF material for me. She ticks my boxes rather well: cool caracter, hb8, fun to be with

But my gut tells me i'm missing out on something with her, there is something she doesn't show. And it has given me cold feet to make a move in past.

 

[Prodoge]

That makes sense.



It will later on, you don't know what is going on behind closed doors. If I were you, I wouldn't even worry about this girl, there are tons of women in the world, go find another. The DJ mindset is to forget about the 'taken' ones as they are a complete waste of time and money.

I'm not really worrying about her, both of them are in my social circle and you dont miss out on things that are going on within close friends.

Like i said in an other reply, there is something not quite right with her. What i'm really trying to do is learn to read people by their actions, body language etc.
And in my social circle i can place everybody except her.

Maybe i'm just paranoid, but i am convinced there is something she is not showing us

 

[Bingo-Player]

Like i said in an other reply, there is something not quite right with her. What i'm really trying to do is learn to read people by their actions, body language etc.
And in my social circle i can place everybody except her.

Maybe i'm just paranoid, but i am convinced there is something she is not showing us

then i would suggest then that you don't go any further with this woman until you do understand her

take a back seat and assess her for a bit

 

[LiveFreeX]

I'm not really worrying about her, both of them are in my social circle and you dont miss out on things that are going on within close friends.

When you are single you put more weight on 'close friends', later on you'll realize that those people don't matter in your life.

 

[Slime93]

Focus on yourself.