I met her (petite blond, Russian, 26) at a bar last November. She was sitting there all alone, very late. Managed to make out with her but she wouldn't go home with me. However a couple days later we met back up on a date, it was an amazing day together, she ended up having dinner back at mine, more making out, I tried to escalate but she resisted and went home- so no sex.
She didn't send me any messages after that. I sent her a couple and got lackluster, delayed responses. She had mentioned hearing from her ex the day that we dated so I figured that could be it, or another dude. I then moved on. A friend of mine recommended I put her on the back-burner and perhaps text her again in a few weeks or so. I ended up texting her cordially on xmas and nye just to test the waters- both times she responded quickly but didn't suggest anything.
I waited.
A month ago, so this is like 6 months after the first date, I invite her out again and she accepts but on the condition as just friends. I agree. We have another amazing day on my boat and I start to get signs of interest. She ends up inviting me to her place the next weekend for a BBQ.
At the BBQ I get screened by her housemates and Russian girlfriends, and end up making out with her after everyone else leaves and setting up a date. I finally have her over to mine again for dinner and we have sex this time. I am happy- finally got the Russian flag and escaped the friendzone too! For the past month this has been escalating and we've had sex 3 times, last time being Tuesday (5 nights ago.) Each time she went back home to her place after. During this time I am not sensing any indication of lower interest.
She even joined my foreign language class on Thursday so I really thought this girl was into me and becoming a part of my world. When I kissed and said goodnight to her on Thursday after the lesson she wanted to make plans to meetup on Friday.
Then on Friday evening I get a text from her saying she wants to talk to me sometime this weekend. My gut starts to have pangs of dread.
I meet with her the next day to have this talk, hoping its a good talk, and she says she doesn't want to keep seeing each other, we're too different, blablabla. That to her she was just trying things out with me and despite all her behavior indicating to me otherwise- it's now over. I'm completely shocked but I remained cordial and did my best to stay classy. But honestly I was pretty pissed off that this girl could pull a 180 like this on me out of the blue. I thought I was experienced enough now to see the signs and not get played! Literally she changed overnight.
Thinking about it all today, I guess I opened myself up a little too quickly and it must have been obvious that I already wanted it to become an LTR. But honestly something doesn't process and this girl has really disappointed and confused me. I did ask her if there was another guy and she claimed no.
What I want to know from you guys is what to do about the foreign language class? She just joined it and there are five more weekly sessions and there are only 5 ppl in the class so it is quite intimate. I feel a bit insulted/ cuckolded now if she keeps going to them, plus it keeps me from going full NC. She offered to stop going to them if I wanted her to. I just think it will be a bit butt-hurt of me to request that of her (even if rightfully so imo I mean what was she thinking deciding to join that if she didn't think we would most likely keep dating??)
Should I ask her not to go? Or should I let her continue the class and challenge myself to stay calm and cool and perhaps lure her back into my bed?
She didn't send me any messages after that. I sent her a couple and got lackluster, delayed responses. She had mentioned hearing from her ex the day that we dated so I figured that could be it, or another dude. I then moved on. A friend of mine recommended I put her on the back-burner and perhaps text her again in a few weeks or so. I ended up texting her cordially on xmas and nye just to test the waters- both times she responded quickly but didn't suggest anything.
I waited.
A month ago, so this is like 6 months after the first date, I invite her out again and she accepts but on the condition as just friends. I agree. We have another amazing day on my boat and I start to get signs of interest. She ends up inviting me to her place the next weekend for a BBQ.
At the BBQ I get screened by her housemates and Russian girlfriends, and end up making out with her after everyone else leaves and setting up a date. I finally have her over to mine again for dinner and we have sex this time. I am happy- finally got the Russian flag and escaped the friendzone too! For the past month this has been escalating and we've had sex 3 times, last time being Tuesday (5 nights ago.) Each time she went back home to her place after. During this time I am not sensing any indication of lower interest.
She even joined my foreign language class on Thursday so I really thought this girl was into me and becoming a part of my world. When I kissed and said goodnight to her on Thursday after the lesson she wanted to make plans to meetup on Friday.
Then on Friday evening I get a text from her saying she wants to talk to me sometime this weekend. My gut starts to have pangs of dread.
I meet with her the next day to have this talk, hoping its a good talk, and she says she doesn't want to keep seeing each other, we're too different, blablabla. That to her she was just trying things out with me and despite all her behavior indicating to me otherwise- it's now over. I'm completely shocked but I remained cordial and did my best to stay classy. But honestly I was pretty pissed off that this girl could pull a 180 like this on me out of the blue. I thought I was experienced enough now to see the signs and not get played! Literally she changed overnight.
Thinking about it all today, I guess I opened myself up a little too quickly and it must have been obvious that I already wanted it to become an LTR. But honestly something doesn't process and this girl has really disappointed and confused me. I did ask her if there was another guy and she claimed no.
What I want to know from you guys is what to do about the foreign language class? She just joined it and there are five more weekly sessions and there are only 5 ppl in the class so it is quite intimate. I feel a bit insulted/ cuckolded now if she keeps going to them, plus it keeps me from going full NC. She offered to stop going to them if I wanted her to. I just think it will be a bit butt-hurt of me to request that of her (even if rightfully so imo I mean what was she thinking deciding to join that if she didn't think we would most likely keep dating??)
Should I ask her not to go? Or should I let her continue the class and challenge myself to stay calm and cool and perhaps lure her back into my bed?
