This fat girl I was dating and into has lost interest it seems.

[Shootin4Dreams]

she seemed very interested in me and even said she fantasized about me before and we made out almost had sex and everything. Only thing I know I did wrong she wanted me to open up and talk to her about my past and just told her things didnt work out with ex and also when i learned about lover vs provider roles it was just ugh and i remember when i told her she was sexy or you look cute right now she said "is this what they tell you to say" So now i am trying to get her on 3rd date and she is blowing me off saying I have to see about date thursday and she has to exercise and check on her dogs.

So how do I recover from this? Also how do I avoid opening up to women EVER when they are forcing me to or wanting me to and how do I get over this lover vs provider crap and just enjoy life and mess with these broads?

 

[marmel75]

So you alledgedly go from banging a stripper to being dumped by a fat chick? Something doesn't sound right.

Easiest way to not get dumped by fat chicks is to not go out with them in the first place.

Maybe call her up and invite her to the buffet...that usually works, lol

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

I have these internal issues we connected emotionally like I said we talked about this stuff. Also I remember we were at bar she was talking about her ex husband I remember saying this is how the world is people are the way they are talking somewhat negative. I showed her my yearbook. Look at you you are so cute! You are saying all this and being cynical and the world is terrible.

I feel like I potrayed myself like a child or kid or unattractive infront of her last date and thats why she is avoiding me. So I need help on this issue so I do NOT look feminine or have weak male traits or conversations with girls.

HELP

(With stripper I barely even talked to her and she didnt force me to open up thats why it seemed a little easier)

 

[BetterCallSaul]

I have these internal issues we connected emotionally like I said we talked about this stuff. Also I remember we were at bar she was talking about her ex husband I remember saying this is how the world is people are the way they are talking somewhat negative. I showed her my yearbook. Look at you you are so cute! You are saying all this and being cynical and the world is terrible.

I feel like I potrayed myself like a child or kid or unattractive infront of her last date and thats why she is avoiding me. So I need help on this issue so I do NOT look feminine or have weak male traits or conversations with girls.

HELP

(With stripper I barely even talked to her and she didnt force me to open up thats why it seemed a little easier)

Interesting.

You know how guys here on SS always state to not let women use you as an emotional tampon for dumping all their problems on you like you're their psychiatrist? Sounds to me like you did exactly that with this chick and she wasn't having it.

You're right though, you are acting like a child.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Interesting.

You know how guys here on SS always state to not let women use you as an emotional tampon for dumping all their problems on you like you're their psychiatrist? Sounds to me like you did exactly that with this chick and she wasn't having it.

You're right though, you are acting like a child.

They dont' even have to voice their problems on you. Sometimes they do it silently using you as a prop and not really listening to you, and it basically stifles you and puts their BS squarely on your back.

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

Point is how do I get rid of this how do I stop? THIS IS NOT GOING TO WORK OUT FOR ME this has happend to me several times more than once. Its like she bugs me and **** and wants me to open up and know about my past and everything.

 

[KingBeef]

she seemed very interested in me and even said she fantasized about me before and we made out almost had sex and everything. Only thing I know I did wrong she wanted me to open up and talk to her about my past and just told her things didnt work out with ex and also when i learned about lover vs provider roles it was just ugh and i remember when i told her she was sexy or you look cute right now she said "is this what they tell you to say" So now i am trying to get her on 3rd date and she is blowing me off saying I have to see about date thursday and she has to exercise and check on her dogs.

So how do I recover from this? Also how do I avoid opening up to women EVER when they are forcing me to or wanting me to and how do I get over this lover vs provider crap and just enjoy life and mess with these broads?

The way you recover from this is to have some sense of self respect for yourself AND STOP DATING FAT CHICKS....

 

[dude99]

Point is how do I get rid of this how do I stop? THIS IS NOT GOING TO WORK OUT FOR ME this has happend to me several times more than once. Its like she bugs me and **** and wants me to open up and know about my past and everything.

Keep it light and funny. When a chick asks about why you are not with yiu ex, say its a long and complicated story. Ailens have abducted her and ive been alone ever since......

Don't talk about your past. What she is asking when they ask about an ex is this:

Girl "why didn't it work between you and your ex."

Translation "what is wrong with you and why shouldn't i like you either."

Be a challenge. Make them work for your story. Stay light and funny

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

ok point is how do i fix this? Also how do I internalize this crap and never say **** to women or take them serious!?
I want hank moodys mind

 

[kronreiff]

So how do I recover from this? Also how do I avoid opening up to women EVER when they are forcing me to or wanting me to and how do I get over this lover vs provider crap and just enjoy life and mess with these broads?

You showed her your hand before the flop as they say in poker! And now, she's no longer interested. Sounds like you have no game or very little. Did you read the DJ bible a few hundred times? If not, I suggest you do. If you understood how the game works, you wouldn't be asking for recovery help in a pathetically simple situation as this. Dump this mess immediately, hit the gym, get some new clothes and avoid fat chicks unless you need a quick bj of desperation to stay sane. But most importantly, learn from this and never go there again. Let the woman chase you and always be a mystery, since you've seem to have forgotten that that's the way it works.

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

i understand the mystery have women chase but HOW TO BE IT exactly!? What do you say to women at these moments or how do I know what to say?!?? DO I need routines or what!?

 

[dude99]

ok point is how do i fix this? Also how do I internalize this crap and never say **** to women or take them serious!?
I want hank moodys mind

If she is layghing and having a good time you don't need to fix it.

 

[dustmuffin]

There is nothing wrong with hitting a fat chick now and then. I have screwed a few cute fatties in my time and they provided some excellent sex.

But you have to game them the same way you would a fit chick. Don't pour out your emotions. Be aloof and apply kino.

Just because she is fat dosent mean the rules change.

 

[marmel75]

There is nothing wrong with hitting a fat chick now and then. I have screwed a few cute fatties in my time and they provided some excellent sex.

But you have to game them the same way you would a fit chick. Don't pour out your emotions. Be aloof and apply kino.

Just because she is fat dosent mean the rules change.

1) Yes there is
2) There is no such thing as a "cute fattie"

 

[bigneil]

She dumped you for dating her.

She would not be a member of any club that would have her as a member.

There is no such thing as a "cute fattie"

I'm not sure that's true. I saw a fat girl in Cleveland in a coffee shop once who was so gorgeous I couldn't take my eyes off her. Then again that was 6 years ago. In any event they are rare and probably only look good at certain moments.

 

[bigneil]

PS - Never trust a fat person in authority. They revert to evil dou-che-bag instantly at random, based on a lifetime of being told they are fat and/or the stress and physical problems it causes. There are also the dietary and health related reasons responsible (and it's not their f*cking thyroid though some Nascent Iodine would help). Seriously, if you can't manage your own body, you can't manage other people. Being (very) fat basically says "I'm a weak, pathetic, glutton and I'm not too happy about it".

 

[Yewki]

I'm not sure that's true. I saw a fat girl in Cleveland in a coffee shop once who was so gorgeous I couldn't take my eyes off her. Then again that was 6 years ago. In any event they are rare and probably only look good at certain moments.

I mean sometimes a fat girl's face isn't bad looking, I've seen fat girls and thought, "If she wasn't fat she could definitely be attractive" but the problem is... they're fat

 

[Jaylan]

Dont date fat girls

/thread

 

[raider87]

Don't date girls that are less attractive than you. Just date women on your level or above. The less attractive ones will give you the most problems due to their insecurity and what not.

 

[Shootin4Dreams]

she is cute what can i say to her tomorrow to get her to come out!?????