@Dhoulmagus
Do not worry about what the thug is doing. What he does is not important to YOU. Stop trying to compare yourself to others. Stop measuring your failures to other's perceived success, it fills you with negativity. Negativity is like a disease which erodes your spirit and saps your self-esteem.
Define yourself by your own convictions and virtues.
And you are wrong in your original assessment.... Women do not love broken men, they love men who are strong and confident, they love men who are leaders, men who inspire them, and men who never submit to defeatism. Assess yourself, see your flaws but do not beat yourself up for them... Instead seek to improve every day, to make tomorrow better than today and become the kind of man woman admire.