Are we meant to have 1 Woman as a Life Partner??

[Reyaj]

Yes this is the question I need to know the answer. I can't get into the marriage debate until I truly am satisfied with this answer. I believe the saying is true "Man cannot live on bread alone" But does that mean we have to eat the same wonder bread... or should we be adding pumpernickel and rye in there?

I was raised with the mentality that you get married and have kids one day. When I was young I thought this was what I wanted and should be the goal per say. I'm not saying I no longer want this but I have to admit I'm ambivalent now. Dating women and being in the real world period has definitely made me taste some reality.

While all women are different here's some of those realities when it comes to being in a relationship I've found common among virtually all I've been in relationships with.

• The honeymoon period ends sooner or later. This really happens on both ends as suddenly we stop being so concerned about impressing each other. Some of these things are understandable such as farting in front of each other, grooming meticulously, dressing to impress etc.. But more alarming is that our habits will start to get on each other's nerves where as when we first started dating there never seemed to be an issue. This is probably because we both become more comfortable with each other and can be ourselves so its actually a positive just as much as it is a negative.
• The woman gets mad when you don't give her your full attention. For example if we are sitting on the couch with the TV on and I start doing something on my cell phone she will feel annoyed I am not paying full attention to her. For my perspective there isn't an issue with multi tasking.
• The woman wants to own the Trump card for you. In other words whatever she considers a priority should Trump any individual plans you have. She will consider even platonic male friends as potential threats.
• For me the novelty of the sex wears off and I feel the need to look at other women sexually

From my perspective in order to be happy (if that exists) I'd like to have my woman who will be faithful to me, but also game some other girls every now and again.

Thoughts?

 

[Killakittie]

Well if you want to be married and game other women on the side marriage is not for you. You'll only lose out big in divorce court when she finds out or she'll start ****ing all your friends and ruin you that way.

I think men should stay single and **** as many and as much women as they please until they meet one they have no doubt about staying faithful towards for the rest of their lives.

 

[CMNILS87]

First off, what is it that you want from a relationship/marriage? Everyone, including your parents have been brainwashing you into the fact that the American dream is to get a wife, a house, and 2.5 kids, and you'll be happy and everything will be alright.

The more and more time goes by you start to wonder if that's what you really want? That where I'm at, the same place as you. You gotta realize, marriage will never be like the 50's/60's where most women had to stay because they relied on their husbands for survival. Well not anymore, woman isn't happy anymore, she cuts rope and moves on or you get ****blocked by your own wife.

Case in point: bunch of buddies at the lakes this weekend. One buddy is 30, a few years older than us and married 4 years, 2 kids, and a house. He was complaining about not getting sex at all. Like once a month......at 30..... No sex, but his wife could definitely nag 24/7 about him sitting on the couch too much. He sits there and just takes it, yet he's not sexually satisfied in his marriage. What can be do? Nothing

Had i not read rational male or found this place a year ago, I would think that's normal, but it's not. ^-------this is most marriages. The men are unhappy because of no sex, and they make it worse by not stepping up and taking control. They don't want to "upset her" otherwise there will be no sex at all. It's a vicious circle, once that certificate is signed, most women ****block their men down the road and most men deal with it and live in agony. Once she has you, she can do whatever she wants and the only way out is court. If you do go down the marriage path, make sure you keep your badass frame and find s girl that you can grab by the hair and drag her to the bedroom whenever you want.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

First off, what is it that you want from a relationship/marriage? Everyone, including your parents have been brainwashing you into the fact that the American dream is to get a wife, a house, and 2.5 kids, and you'll be happy and everything will be alright.

The more and more time goes by you start to wonder if that's what you really want? That where I'm at, the same place as you. You gotta realize, marriage will never be like the 50's/60's where most women had to stay because they relied on their husbands for survival. Well not anymore, woman isn't happy anymore, she cuts rope and moves on or you get ****blocked by your own wife.

Case in point: bunch of buddies at the lakes this weekend. One buddy is 30, a few years older than us and married 4 years, 2 kids, and a house. He was complaining about not getting sex at all. Like once a month......at 30..... No sex, but his wife could definitely nag 24/7 about him sitting on the couch too much. He sits there and just takes it, yet he's not sexually satisfied in his marriage. What can be do? Nothing

Had i not read rational male or found this place a year ago, I would think that's normal, but it's not. ^-------this is most marriages. The men are unhappy because of no sex, and they make it worse by not stepping up and taking control. They don't want to "upset her" otherwise there will be no sex at all. It's a vicious circle, once that certificate is signed, most women ****block their men down the road and most men deal with it and live in agony. Once she has you, she can do whatever she wants and the only way out is court. If you do go down the marriage path, make sure you keep your badass frame and find s girl that you can grab by the hair and drag her to the bedroom whenever you want.

Cutting your c0ck and balls off is one of the most powerful forms of CONTROL. These women are addicted to it, and their peers provide support.

If you wanna get married find a group of marrieds that have lots of sex and treat each other right.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Well if you want to be married and game other women on the side marriage is not for you. You'll only lose out big in divorce court when she finds out or she'll start ****ing all your friends and ruin you that way.

I think men should stay single and **** as many and as much women as they please until they meet one they have no doubt about staying faithful towards for the rest of their lives.

It's not about whether you would stay faithful to her, it's whether she would stay faithful to you. Find a woman who invests in you heavily, without anything worldly to gain out of it. Find one who sacrifices, can put you first much of the time, and your needs are important to her. That's your woman.

 

[BeExcellent]

Some food for thought:

You sound concerned that you are "supposed" to get married and that the girl you are with is perhaps "good enough". That is a "settle for" mentality based on time already spent/invested.

Never settle in something as major as marriage. You block opportunity if you settle. People who settle create all manner of avoidable pain in their lives. Be single before you settle. You never know when you'll meet someone, don't stymie the opportunity out of desperation or social expectation.

Believe in abundance. Too many here have a scarcity mindset. Scarcity mindset = desperate.

In order to emotionally get real with someone the novelty must wear off. But herein lies the deeper opportunity. The real opportunity is intimacy, emotional depth & bonding, once the "novelty" is gone you can build intimacy if you and she are mature enough to be vulnerable to one another. This is not something you can build with a casual sex partner in whom nothing is invested, and once built you can destroy it immediately by betrayal of intimate trust (infidelity.)

Marriage is about much more than sex. It is about partnership for life, commitment, loyalty, friendship/companionship & family. All this was discussed in your Reasons for Marriage thread.

Sexless unions are a travesty. Refuse to get into one. You want

1. A woman who loves YOU,

2. A woman who loves sex with YOU and

3. A woman who is EAGER for sex with you whenever you want.

If you are dating a long time in an LTR you will know whether or not 1,2 and 3 apply.

Only consider marriage if 1,2 & 3 are met unequivocally in additional to your other "must have" characteristics and you love her.

Love is an action verb. A verb transitive. It is more about what she does than what she says she feels. That is why observing her actions tells the story. Actions don't lie the way words can.

Not all women want to control the man, and not all women are attention wh0res either, but MANY are one or the other and some are both.

Do you & be you.

The right woman will accept who you are and get behind you & your life goals; she may exhibit a willingness to let go of her pursuits to support you in yours. This in additional to her sexual affinity for you.

If you aren't dating someone like that then either you need to get busy building your own life or you need to be open to meeting other (better suited) women...or both.

Even if it means short term discomfort for someone who you care about but can't see a future with. It's kinder to cut bait if she doesn't cut it. That way you can both be open to other options.

If your bullet points are your assumptions about all women & relationships then consider that your own perceptions are holding you hostage.

To get different results...do something different!

 

[Desdinova]

I honestly believe that man was meant to have multiple wives. You get to satisfy your desire to fvck multiple women, have that sense of being in a relationship, and be the leader of the household.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I honestly believe that man was meant to have multiple wives. You get to satisfy your desire to fvck multiple women, have that sense of being in a relationship, and be the leader of the household.

In America you could live like this as a single.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

I honestly believe that man was meant to have multiple wives. You get to satisfy your desire to fvck multiple women, have that sense of being in a relationship, and be the leader of the household.

This. I think we are wrong with the whole idea of "women's way is hypergamy and men's is being a nomad player". Women's way is hypergamy, yes, but men's one is polygamy. They complement each other much better than the hypergamy and lover/provider model. In polygamy, you get a man who is alpha (multiple options) and a provider too. The problem is we don't have regular full-scale wars anymore in which men die, and so there is no a big surplus of women. I'm not advocating for war, I'm saying it is one of the reasons this model could not work.

 

[Desdinova]

The problem is we don't have regular full-scale wars anymore in which men die, and so there is no a big surplus of women. I'm not advocating for war, I'm saying it is one of the reasons this model could not work.

There are many reasons it doesn't work in today's society. Man can be the sole bread winner for one woman and maybe a kid or two, but to multiple women with multiple children? Forget it.

As for modern polygamy, it's the women who want to be in control of it. They want to run the show while the man is treated like an imprisoned slave and sex toy. Again, no thanks.

With how the divorce system is structured against men, it would be costly and messy to try and retain my rights and property if one or more wives should prove to be unhappy. It's a no-win situation and I don't need to be involved in that.

Remaining single or embracing a monogamous relationship is the only ways to go in today's society. I'm honestly not opposed to embracing monogamy. My desire to fvck and date multiple women has been on a continuous decline over the years. I honestly find it more of a pain in the ass than a benefit. If I happen upon one woman who treats me good, I'll invite her along for the ride. If not, then I'll just keep doing all the 5hit that I've been doing while allowing women to fall into my lap for an occasional lay.

 

[Reyaj]

Well if you want to be married and game other women on the side marriage is not for you. You'll only lose out big in divorce court when she finds out or she'll start ****ing all your friends and ruin you that way.

I think men should stay single and **** as many and as much women as they please until they meet one they have no doubt about staying faithful towards for the rest of their lives.

The last part of your response is the answer I am seeking for this thread. Is there such a woman that you should stay faithful to, or as men should we just exist that we are always going to want some variety every now and again? Like I said I am always very much into my relationships when I start out, but after a while I get bored of having the same thing for dinner. I don't believe life is a fairy tale where there is this magical woman that will totally change the innate desires of a male.

I think it just comes down to a choice.... Do we compromise our desire to have sex with other women or do we embrace it?

First off, what is it that you want from a relationship/marriage? Everyone, including your parents have been brainwashing you into the fact that the American dream is to get a wife, a house, and 2.5 kids, and you'll be happy and everything will be alright.

The more and more time goes by you start to wonder if that's what you really want? That where I'm at, the same place as you. You gotta realize, marriage will never be like the 50's/60's where most women had to stay because they relied on their husbands for survival. Well not anymore, woman isn't happy anymore, she cuts rope and moves on or you get ****blocked by your own wife.

Case in point: bunch of buddies at the lakes this weekend. One buddy is 30, a few years older than us and married 4 years, 2 kids, and a house. He was complaining about not getting sex at all. Like once a month......at 30..... No sex, but his wife could definitely nag 24/7 about him sitting on the couch too much. He sits there and just takes it, yet he's not sexually satisfied in his marriage. What can be do? Nothing

Had i not read rational male or found this place a year ago, I would think that's normal, but it's not. ^-------this is most marriages. The men are unhappy because of no sex, and they make it worse by not stepping up and taking control. They don't want to "upset her" otherwise there will be no sex at all. It's a vicious circle, once that certificate is signed, most women ****block their men down the road and most men deal with it and live in agony. Once she has you, she can do whatever she wants and the only way out is court. If you do go down the marriage path, make sure you keep your badass frame and find s girl that you can grab by the hair and drag her to the bedroom whenever you want.

I agree and I regret stating the word "marriage" in this thread because that's not the purpose of it for me. I'll go back to the marriage thread once I figure this part out for myself. And again that question is should we be seeking/striving to have just 1 woman as a life partner who we must be faithful to for the rest of our life? As a man with desires and decent game I don't know how I could accept that I should only be having sex with one woman for the rest of my life....

It's not about whether you would stay faithful to her, it's whether she would stay faithful to you. Find a woman who invests in you heavily, without anything worldly to gain out of it. Find one who sacrifices, can put you first much of the time, and your needs are important to her. That's your woman.

Believe it or not I have been able to find this, or at least the strong promise of it. The issue is on my end... Right now I believe its great to have a relationship, but every now and again have some flings...

Some food for thought:

You sound concerned that you are "supposed" to get married and that the girl you are with is perhaps "good enough". That is a "settle for" mentality based on time already spent/invested.

Never settle in something as major as marriage. You block opportunity if you settle. People who settle create all manner of avoidable pain in their lives. Be single before you settle. You never know when you'll meet someone, don't stymie the opportunity out of desperation or social expectation.

Believe in abundance. Too many here have a scarcity mindset. Scarcity mindset = desperate.

In order to emotionally get real with someone the novelty must wear off. But herein lies the deeper opportunity. The real opportunity is intimacy, emotional depth & bonding, once the "novelty" is gone you can build intimacy if you and she are mature enough to be vulnerable to one another. This is not something you can build with a casual sex partner in whom nothing is invested, and once built you can destroy it immediately by betrayal of intimate trust (infidelity.)

Marriage is about much more than sex. It is about partnership for life, commitment, loyalty, friendship/companionship & family. All this was discussed in your Reasons for Marriage thread.

Sexless unions are a travesty. Refuse to get into one. You want

1. A woman who loves YOU,

2. A woman who loves sex with YOU and

3. A woman who is EAGER for sex with you whenever you want.

If you are dating a long time in an LTR you will know whether or not 1,2 and 3 apply.

Only consider marriage if 1,2 & 3 are met unequivocally in additional to your other "must have" characteristics and you love her.

Love is an action verb. A verb transitive. It is more about what she does than what she says she feels. That is why observing her actions tells the story. Actions don't lie the way words can.

Not all women want to control the man, and not all women are attention wh0res either, but MANY are one or the other and some are both.

Do you & be you.

The right woman will accept who you are and get behind you & your life goals; she may exhibit a willingness to let go of her pursuits to support you in yours. This in additional to her sexual affinity for you.

If you aren't dating someone like that then either you need to get busy building your own life or you need to be open to meeting other (better suited) women...or both.

Even if it means short term discomfort for someone who you care about but can't see a future with. It's kinder to cut bait if she doesn't cut it. That way you can both be open to other options.

If your bullet points are your assumptions about all women & relationships then consider that your own perceptions are holding you hostage.

To get different results...do something different!

Again I'm sorry I mentioned marriage... Forget marriage please... I just want to know whether we should be seeking "1" woman as a life partner... Even if I find someone that matches all your attributes, a I really never supposed to have sex with another woman for the rest of my life???

There are many reasons it doesn't work in today's society. Man can be the sole bread winner for one woman and maybe a kid or two, but to multiple women with multiple children? Forget it.

As for modern polygamy, it's the women who want to be in control of it. They want to run the show while the man is treated like an imprisoned slave and sex toy. Again, no thanks.

With how the divorce system is structured against men, it would be costly and messy to try and retain my rights and property if one or more wives should prove to be unhappy. It's a no-win situation and I don't need to be involved in that.

Remaining single or embracing a monogamous relationship is the only ways to go in today's society. I'm honestly not opposed to embracing monogamy. My desire to fvck and date multiple women has been on a continuous decline over the years. I honestly find it more of a pain in the ass than a benefit. If I happen upon one woman who treats me good, I'll invite her along for the ride. If not, then I'll just keep doing all the 5hit that I've been doing while allowing women to fall into my lap for an occasional lay.

So I just have to wait till I'm older until my desire to screw other women will fade?

 

[Desdinova]

So I just have to wait till I'm older until my desire to screw other women will fade?

Or date, fvck and pursue enough women to realize that it's not worth an extreme amount of effort

 

[Reyaj]

Or date, fvck and pursue enough women to realize that it's not worth an extreme amount of effort

I've definitely done my fair share of this and its often not worth the hassle or effort. This is why I rarely chase girls anymore, however my libidio is still strong and I do find myself sexually attracted to other women at times. I feel like as a male this will always be the case, so I need to either learn to temper it or embrace it. Do you agree?

 

[Killakittie]

The last part of your response is the answer I am seeking for this thread. Is there such a woman that you should stay faithful to, or as men should we just exist that we are always going to want some variety every now and again? Like I said I am always very much into my relationships when I start out, but after a while I get bored of having the same thing for dinner. I don't believe life is a fairy tale where there is this magical woman that will totally change the innate desires of a male.

I think it just comes down to a choice.... Do we compromise our desire to have sex with other women or do we embrace it?


So I just have to wait till I'm older until my desire to screw other women will fade?

Frankly age doesn't take away our biological nature of wanting to impregnate as many females as possible. The best thing you can do at this point is keep an open mind. You're still learning about yourself and you will eventually meet a women with which you will have no reservations about being faithful towards and marrying. It's not going to be a compromise because your going to genuinely want to do it, because it's such a positive addition to your life. It's so unheard of because it is rare and it's important not to get it mixed up with the whole "plate spinning, fvck as many bitches as you can" mantra that gets preached like the gospel around here. Keep doing what you're doing, but don't get into the mindset that your going to be this way for life because you will meet a women that is awesome and treats you with the respect you deserve,fvcks the shiit out of you, and is all around a women that brings nothing but added value to your life.

 

[Dingo]

If you're together long enough you will eventually get bored and resent each other.... People change... fall out of love....It's not even the sexual part of the equation... Nothing worse than being stuck in a loveliness marriage. I know.....

 

[Glassguy]

This is what happens, or COULD happen in every LTR or marriage:

1.) The honeymoon definitely ends. Sometimes at 4 months, 6 months or 2 years. But eventually its over. Life eventually moves into the picture and that is when there is more to the relationship than just 2 people. Finances, careers, kids, etc. When you make it to that point you will see if the relationship is solid enough to handle the outside things that come into play.

2.) The grass is greener where you water it. In today's throw away society, its not easy to want something enough to work for it, and work through it. Its much easier to just go find someone else. I think as men who have went through this before, society has prepared us to NOT want to settle down with one woman because we all know that things can be great today and OVER tomorrow. TV stops working? Washer and dryer goes out? Nobody fixes it. They just go get a new one. Same principle in today's relationships. Many of these women who fall for the Grass is Greener scam try to come crawling back later on when they realize they made a mistake and what they had. The alpha tells them to go pound sand up their arse and these women search their whole lives for some thing that doesnt exist. Which leds me to #3...

3.) The fairy tale. Women have this fairy tale in their heads about relationships, marriage, etc. When "life" enters the picture (see #1), they dont know how to handle it. Too much watching The Notebook and those other BS fairy tale movies. They all want the big wedding, expensive honeymoon and big rock on their finger. In the end that stuff is over and gone in a matter of days/weeks and its back to real life. These chicks have this picture in their head and when it doesnt work out the way the thought, they bounce for something they think will fill that fairy tale. Or so they think.....then the lifetime search for it begins and they become the pump and dump.

I used to think the goal in life was to have a great career, find the one that you cant live without and live happily ever after. Now I think one woman will never fulfill my needs because I am always spinning other plates for the "just in case she flips out" or "thinks the grass is greener on the other side".

If one wants to leave, I will make sure there will be another one in my bed the same night.

 

[speed dawg]

Yes this is the question I need to know the answer. I can't get into the marriage debate until I truly am satisfied with this answer. I believe the saying is true "Man cannot live on bread alone" But does that mean we have to eat the same wonder bread... or should we be adding pumpernickel and rye in there?

I was raised with the mentality that you get married and have kids one day. When I was young I thought this was what I wanted and should be the goal per say. I'm not saying I no longer want this but I have to admit I'm ambivalent now. Dating women and being in the real world period has definitely made me taste some reality.

While all women are different here's some of those realities when it comes to being in a relationship I've found common among virtually all I've been in relationships with.

• The honeymoon period ends sooner or later. This really happens on both ends as suddenly we stop being so concerned about impressing each other. Some of these things are understandable such as farting in front of each other, grooming meticulously, dressing to impress etc.. But more alarming is that our habits will start to get on each other's nerves where as when we first started dating there never seemed to be an issue. This is probably because we both become more comfortable with each other and can be ourselves so its actually a positive just as much as it is a negative.
• The woman gets mad when you don't give her your full attention. For example if we are sitting on the couch with the TV on and I start doing something on my cell phone she will feel annoyed I am not paying full attention to her. For my perspective there isn't an issue with multi tasking.
• The woman wants to own the Trump card for you. In other words whatever she considers a priority should Trump any individual plans you have. She will consider even platonic male friends as potential threats.
• For me the novelty of the sex wears off and I feel the need to look at other women sexually

From my perspective in order to be happy (if that exists) I'd like to have my woman who will be faithful to me, but also game some other girls every now and again.

Thoughts?

We obviously have an animal instinct, as others have already said. We want to spread our seed as much as possible to ensure we live on. But the fact that we're human makes us different. For me, it gets into my own Christianity. So in essence our own natural urges suggest we do not want to be with one woman only, but our human/spiritual side suggests that being with one woman can help us live Biblical lives while giving an outlet for our natural urges. Make sense?

 

[Reyaj]

Frankly age doesn't take away our biological nature of wanting to impregnate as many females as possible. The best thing you can do at this point is keep an open mind. You're still learning about yourself and you will eventually meet a women with which you will have no reservations about being faithful towards and marrying. It's not going to be a compromise because your going to genuinely want to do it, because it's such a positive addition to your life. It's so unheard of because it is rare and it's important not to get it mixed up with the whole "plate spinning, fvck as many *****es as you can" mantra that gets preached like the gospel around here. Keep doing what you're doing, but don't get into the mindset that your going to be this way for life because you will meet a women that is awesome and treats you with the respect you deserve,fvcks the shiit out of you, and is all around a women that brings nothing but added value to your life.

I actually have met a girl that makes me feel like this a lot of the times. But still there are times that I might be "sexually" attracted to someone else. Again I find it hard to believe that there is a girl out there that would take away the innate desires of the male. That's why I think if you aren't going to cheat, you need to make a conscious choice not to. I appreciate what you are saying Killakittie but I believe a lot of it may be a facade a lot of us are fed.

If you're together long enough you will eventually get bored and resent each other.... People change... fall out of love....It's not even the sexual part of the equation... Nothing worse than being stuck in a loveliness marriage. I know.....

Unfortunately you are right... I think the way to beat this inevitability is for both people to continue to work at the relationship which all too often doesn't happen. But my question is beyond this because I believe having a partner can be overall beneficial (especially if you are raising a family.) However I don't believe this will ever cause the cessation of man's attraction to another woman... So why not cheat every now and again if you can just accept your desires for what they are?

This is what happens, or COULD happen in every LTR or marriage:

1.) The honeymoon definitely ends. Sometimes at 4 months, 6 months or 2 years. But eventually its over. Life eventually moves into the picture and that is when there is more to the relationship than just 2 people. Finances, careers, kids, etc. When you make it to that point you will see if the relationship is solid enough to handle the outside things that come into play.

2.) The grass is greener where you water it. In today's throw away society, its not easy to want something enough to work for it, and work through it. Its much easier to just go find someone else. I think as men who have went through this before, society has prepared us to NOT want to settle down with one woman because we all know that things can be great today and OVER tomorrow. TV stops working? Washer and dryer goes out? Nobody fixes it. They just go get a new one. Same principle in today's relationships. Many of these women who fall for the Grass is Greener scam try to come crawling back later on when they realize they made a mistake and what they had. The alpha tells them to go pound sand up their arse and these women search their whole lives for some thing that doesnt exist. Which leds me to #3...

3.) The fairy tale. Women have this fairy tale in their heads about relationships, marriage, etc. When "life" enters the picture (see #1), they dont know how to handle it. Too much watching The Notebook and those other BS fairy tale movies. They all want the big wedding, expensive honeymoon and big rock on their finger. In the end that stuff is over and gone in a matter of days/weeks and its back to real life. These chicks have this picture in their head and when it doesnt work out the way the thought, they bounce for something they think will fill that fairy tale. Or so they think.....then the lifetime search for it begins and they become the pump and dump.

I used to think the goal in life was to have a great career, find the one that you cant live without and live happily ever after. Now I think one woman will never fulfill my needs because I am always spinning other plates for the "just in case she flips out" or "thinks the grass is greener on the other side".

If one wants to leave, I will make sure there will be another one in my bed the same night.

I think you nailed it exactly.... Regarding relationships I think both people have to have this understanding and continue to work (or water the grass as you analogize) - But also a man it's normal to want sex every now and again with another woman... right? So that's what my mindset is right now.... Focus 90% on your relationship and use the other 10% for extracurricular activities whether they be other women or golf....

Responses to that???

 

[Reyaj]

We obviously have an animal instinct, as others have already said. We want to spread our seed as much as possible to ensure we live on. But the fact that we're human makes us different. For me, it gets into my own Christianity. So in essence our own natural urges suggest we do not want to be with one woman only, but our human/spiritual side suggests that being with one woman can help us live Biblical lives while giving an outlet for our natural urges. Make sense?

It does, but I always am cynical with advice that comes from a religious point of view. Then again spirituality might be what I'm lacking in my life. Are you a Christian because you were raised in it, or did it make sense to you from your own search for truth?

 

[skinnyguy]

I never thought I'd say this but I am considering a monogonous relationship. I'm 34 and tired of hoes. The h*es are getting worse in terms of attitude and hypergamy. I don't have the time or attention span to deal with their drama.