I don't remember we saying confidence require a man with high SMV or great sucess, we said having success and being in a good place makes you have that confidence.I must respectfully disagree with the assertion that a woman can only have confidence vis a vis her sexuality. That's silly. I am confident in many areas. I do not require "complex social networks" and I am just as at ease with or without make up, dressed up or dressed down, alone or with people, in NYC or in Podunk or anywhere. I often have to make substantive decisions for which I am fully accountable. I have become who I am and what I am as a result of my inner stability and groundedness. I exude natural confidence as a result in many situations. Men frequently remark how unusual and refreshing it is to be honest.
Additionally I've been told I have "presence" since I was a teen, more times than I can remember, and I still hear that.
Confidence I understand and know it can be learned. Presence is similar but more ephemeral. I have it, whatever it is according to others, which is cool but I don't worry too much about it. It's just an interesting observation I've heard for decades. Maybe it's innate somehow. I've no idea. It just IS.
So it's not as though the view noted above regarding women is untrue most of the time...I agree that for many, perhaps even most women that assertion is accurate. It is not when applied to me. I know other women (not many but some) to whom likewise this assertion would not apply.
Generalizations forget about outliers. ALL is always too broad a brush.
I also disagree that confidence in a man requires high SMV or great success. I have a crackerjack tradesperson who works for me some 10 years or so, is not attractive, is not wealthy; he lives modestly and day to day, but he exhibits confidence in who he is, what he does, and how he leads his life; he is fair, reasonable, and expects to be respected as a man.
And yes I respect him.
I don't consider presence being the same as confidence, presence is more the first impression, something who amkes you be notice the when you enter the room, I have that, people I hardly know says this, but its not the same as confidence, confidence will make you do what you want/need/wish for and do it, presence is just you will be noted, with really never did help me much.