Is she teasing me, crush, or am i headed for the friendzone?

[Slime93]

I met her at work. I work at a movie theater so coworkers dating isn't frowned upon. Kind of normal.

When she first started working there she was a total flirt with everyone except for me. Which is normal because im quiet. But she did randomly come stand with me one day while I was smoking and we talked for a sec so she couldn't have been too scared of me.

As time went on she started punching me on the arm over little stuff. Last week she asked me why im always so mean to her? I think she thinks im mean because I don't start conversations the way other guys do.

Today she comes up to me and says something about how close friends should never date. Then she asks me if im single. I said "yea, sure". Her and her friends laughed im assuming because they thought I was being an *******.

For the rest of the day she kept teasing me over my mannerisms. And I caught her sneaking glances a few times.

Im not sure if she likes me, she's trying to be friendly, or she's just making fun of me. Any opinions?

 

[ohrein]

1) You should never concern yourself with whether a woman likes you or not. YOU have to act to find out. Anything else is a waste of mental energy that will often net inconclusive results. The only reasonably accurate way to tell if a woman likes you is if you have a good understanding of body language. Pupil dilation, eye contact, mirroring, voice pitch etc.

2) Flirting can be a good sign if it's directed mostly or more intensely at you. But there are also maaaaany people (including myself) who are naturally flirty. There's definitely rapport which is good but flirting is not a solid indicator of interest.

3) Sneaking glances is a big tell in my experience. If you are accurately describing the situation, my opinion is that she's attracted to you. If you are interested in her you should strike while the iron is hot. However, she seems to enjoy your aloofness so you need to continue that game. If your behavior becomes incongruent then it may cause issues. You'll forever be denying this chick your exclusivity.

Point number one is the most important. Honestly from what you've said it could go either way. She might FZ you the second you try to escalate or she might **** your brains out. Only one way to know for sure.

 

[Slime93]

1) You should never concern yourself with whether a woman likes you or not. YOU have to act to find out. Anything else is a waste of mental energy that will often net inconclusive results. The only reasonably accurate way to tell if a woman likes you is if you have a good understanding of body language. Pupil dilation, eye contact, mirroring, voice pitch etc.

2) Flirting can be a good sign if it's directed mostly or more intensely at you. But there are also maaaaany people (including myself) who are naturally flirty. There's definitely rapport which is good but flirting is not a solid indicator of interest.

3) Sneaking glances is a big tell in my experience. If you are accurately describing the situation, my opinion is that she's attracted to you. If you are interested in her you should strike while the iron is hot. However, she seems to enjoy your aloofness so you need to continue that game. If your behavior becomes incongruent then it may cause issues. You'll forever be denying this chick your exclusivity.

Point number one is the most important. Honestly from what you've said it could go either way. She might FZ you the second you try to escalate or she might **** your brains out. Only one way to know for sure.

Can you explain what mirroring is? She was copying me but in an obvious way

 

[RangerMIke]

Mirroring is that she is matching your mannerisms. It's a sign of interest and mostly sub-conscious, but PUAs teach their customers to do this to supposedly create subliminal attraction, which is complete BS. If she takes a drink; you take a drink... et. al.

As far as advise to the OP, I will say wha I always say. The only way to know if she likes you or not is to try and ask her out.

 

[ohrein]

Can you explain what mirroring is? She was copying me but in an obvious way

Body language always has to be analysed in groupings. If you study lie detecting, this is the most important part of trying to form a conclusion. You can't look at just mirroring to get any level of certainty. It has to be groupings of body language that are congruent.

That said, mirroring is a psychological principle in which people who feel comfortable together will mimic each others body language or movements. You sip your drink, they sip theirs. By itself it simply means she's comfortable with you. You can observe mirroring with almost anyone you get along with. The reason it's part of body language you look for with attraction is that if she's that comfortable with you, there's a decent rapport. RangerMike is in my opinion correct that intentionally mirroring does not create attraction. That is a PUA concept that in my experience (I tried it a lot) is bullshyt. But I didn't study it with any level of scientific analysis so take that opinion with a grain of salt. It might work.