Chick not comfortable with meeting at my house...Advice

[grayclif]

Personally, I'd ignore the text and let the hampster spin. You could be courteous and reply, but it sounds like a bait question to try and read his response/emotions. Just text/call to set up a date in a few days. This chicks ASD is on max, she even told you point blank. "Not a tinder girl", "sorry I don't want to get back to your house". This girl will still take more work I think @dustmuffin

I like this course of action. In the mean time hit up some of your other girls. Still think it's a little early for her but she will come around eventually. Keep the dates cheap.

@dustmuffin this might be the one.... lol!!!!

 

[dustmuffin]

Now she sent me a text that she is going to have surgery on her foot. She screwed it up when she slipped on some ice in DEcember. She is wearing a special boot at the moment. It looks sexy in shorts.....I am still contemplating what to do.

Should I go for broke and ask her over for dinner or ask her out again on a cheap date? She mentioned an art exhibit she wants to go to thursday. It's cheap 5 bucks cover and maybe a drink. IDK I have a date Friday and a date with a girl I have been screwing. She met me for lunch and gave me a bj in a park today. I can see her on Sat if I want. It doesn't matter really. SHe says yes or no....There are still more women to be had.

 

[LiveYourDream]

It doesn't matter really. She says yes or no....There are still more women to be had.

@dustmuffin you are rocking the abundance mentality these days! Good for you!

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

If you haven't slept with a chick after 3 dates it's time to cut it off. No questions about that. 3 dates and she hasn't come to the house? Sounds like she is using you for a free meal and some attention.

 

[CMNILS87]

How old is this chickiepoo @dustmuffin ?

 

[dustmuffin]

If you haven't slept with a chick after 3 dates it's time to cut it off. No questions about that. 3 dates and she hasn't come to the house? Sounds like she is using you for a free meal and some attention.

That's what I'm thinking. I have had three drink dates with her. I'm leaning toward following the advice of some posters and asking her over to cook a meal together. I really don't want to be her free etertainment.

How old is this chickiepoo @dustmuffin ?

She is 40, I'm 52.

 

[dustmuffin]

She agreed to come over and grill and watch the basketball game on sunday.

 

[CMNILS87]

She agreed to come over and grill and watch the basketball game on sunday.

Game over bro, good work. Now threaten her with a good time.

 

[dustmuffin]

Thanks everybody for the advice. I appreciate it very much.

 

[grayclif]

She agreed to come over and grill and watch the basketball game on sunday.

The pum pum is ready.

 

[RangerMIke]

She said she thought I might be married because I didn't ask her out on the weekend.

Very good sign... she is clearly VERY interested.

I told her to come over and meet my wife. She said if she was hot we could have a threesome. Talked about sexual topics.

Nice response, Good job. When a women gets all serious about anything tease her a bit and try to turn it sexual.

That she hoped I wasn't mad that she wouldn't come home with me. Told me not to be a stranger that she wanted to go out again....She also sent me a text again asking if I was mad.

Okay... how did you ask her out the last time? Did you make a date on the spot? If you did, and you didn't do the same after date 2 then she is trying to rationalize your actions, meaning she is thinking about you. When a women reaches out to you she expects you to make a date. If you want to go out with her, go ahead and make a date. Keep doing what you are doing, don't stop asking her to come back with you, trust me. She wants you to keep pushing for sex because that is what a MAN does. But you make her feel comfortable and confident when you don't let her rebuff effect you.

 

[dustmuffin]

Very good sign... she is clearly VERY interested.

Nice response, Good job. When a women gets all serious about anything tease her a bit and try to turn it sexual.

Okay... how did you ask her out the last time? Did you make a date on the spot? If you did, and you didn't do the same after date 2 then she is trying to rationalize your actions, meaning she is thinking about you. When a women reaches out to you she expects you to make a date. If you want to go out with her, go ahead and make a date. Keep doing what you are doing, don't stop asking her to come back with you, trust me. She wants you to keep pushing for sex because that is what a MAN does. But you make her feel comfortable and confident when you don't let her rebuff effect you.

I waited 2 or three days to ask her out. I text very little with her. I will defiantly be escalating on sunday.